my friends a s*ut!?

Question

I'm not trying to be mean but she is. Shes in love with a new boy all the time. We all love doesnt happen 8 times a year. It's not an exagerattion she liked 8 boys this school year alone and she claims to be in love. She pines away over them and gets some of them only to dump them a week later. She thinks the only way to get a boys attention is to dress like a slut. Shes said this to me. She will wear a pound of makeup, short skirts, huge heels and tight shirts to school. She was dating a senior and was pratically stalking him for months. She said she slept with them and thought she was pregnant. She has a new boyfriend that shes been with 2 months ( a record for her) and says shes already slept with him. We are only 15 years old and shes acting like this. I can't deal with her anymore. I fear shes going to get worse as we get older. What should I do??

Shes kinda chunky and not that pretty. She says she will do all sorts of activites to the boys to lure them in. she sends them dirty texts too.

Sometimes she will dress normal to school.

She always gets hurt by the boys and then I have to pick up the peices. You think she would learn by now. She tells me all about her sexual encounters with stuff I really dont want to know. She said she had sex with the one boy at school

She mainly dates freshman that dont know what shes like. Thankfully I dont dress or act anything like her.

There is no way Im jealous of her. I dont crave attention I'm not an attention slut. Neither am I a slut in general. Im not the one who acts like the town bike.

Answer 1

I had a friend like this, but we were much younger. Here is my story.

We had so much fun doing harmless things, like sleepovers and going to the movies, but she was just doing the most self-destructive things (sleeping with older guys, cutting herself, dressing like a skank). Things got SO bad that her parents began noticing her behaviors. They sent her away to many places, and eventually a "life" rehab center. Things were bad.

That part of Her friendship is the lowlight of my life. She brought me down so much. I've never felt so bad about myself, and my life. I put that part of my life behind me, and joined clubs in school to meet people that had things going for them.

Years later, new information about her has come into light, such as sexual abuse as a young girl, drugs, and a confusing family situation.

She had inner problems that caused her to do the things she did, and there was nothing I could have done to stop her. I just kept my butt shut and followed her into a downward spiral.

Please, talk to her. Tell her how you feel, and that she could get in trouble one day. It's not a phase. She needs help.

As for you, strengthen relationships with others as well. If your friend ever does get hurt, you'll have someone to confide in.

This is the most confusing thing, and I sympathise with you. Just please..... talk to her before anything else happens.

Answer 2

she's gonna do what she wants and that's that...
If that makes her feel good about her self, there isn't much that can stop her. But as a loyal friend, sit her down and be frank with her. Tell her the real deal and how she is coming off to others that don't know the great things about her. Tell her she is much more attractive when she isn't dressing and acting promiscuous. Tell her you are uncomfortable with her behavior, and if she values your friendship as you do, then she will stop.
Her behavior is stemming from low self esteem and self worth. Maybe decide to both start eating healthier, and exercising together. Go to the mall together and get a makeover at a beauty counter. Go through her closet and show her what would look great together. The rule is if your skirts short, cover up on top, and vice-versa. Only show off one area of skin at a time. All at once is too much.
But if she doesn't listen, she isn't your friend period. Her image issues need to be resolved now, or else she will try and drag you down with her.
Either way, make sure she gets on birth control ASAP...because her imature behavior may become a disaster zone...a child having a child is not something anyone wants...

Answer 3

She needs attention and unfortunately it is the negative kind. She sounds to me as though her father is not in the picture or her father does not pay any attention to her and that is why she seeks the attention of "boys" to fulfil her need for that "father affection". If I am right...there is pretty much nothing you can do..

Unfortunately she will have to learn a very hard lesson in life....that is getting fatter because she WILL get pregnant at a very very young age and have to deal with adult issues even though she is not an adult...

There is pretty much nothing you can do...everything you tell her will go out one ear to the other and she will say that you are jealous of her because she has so many boyfriends (she has so many guys because she is a easy lay) and your friendship does not matter as long as she has the attention from these losers..

You sound like a nice girl...and you sound as though you care about her deeply. Perhaps let her read all of the responses that you have received from posting this question and maybe she may turn her life around....maybe...?

Answer 4

Explain to her that the only reason guys want to be with her is because she is "easy" . They are not with her for her looks or brains . Does she know that she can get AIDS or many othe STDs? Tell her to have respect for herself. In the long run guys will appreciate her more.
Obviously she needs attention. Tell her that her friends love her just the way she is and that she does not need to "validate" herself by being a slut.
Let her know that all the guys laugh at her behind her back, this is true , because she thinks that they like her. No they just like her you know what.If she doesnt change then dont be her friend anymore because everyone well assume you are the same as her if you hang out with her.

Answer 5

there is not much you can do she has chosen this way of life and can only learn its pit falls as she goes along experience is a dear teacher, and it sounds like she is in for a very bad time as she is breaking all the rules and will end up getting pregnant or some terrible disease for her efforts. Yes she is the town bike and every boy is going to ride her, but you can walk away and leave her to her self made decisions . and if she wants to know why tell her you can not stand there and watch some one throw away her life , you can not stop her but you have a choice you do not have to watch, sorry I wish I had a better answer but you need honesty more that you need advise that will not work

Answer 6

It seems that more than being concerned, you might be a little bit jealous of her and the attentions she gets from the opposite sex. Its absoulutely normal to like so many guys when girls are 15, theres nothing wrong with that and it doesnt cause you any harm.
Stop talking bad about your "friend" to make yourself look like the good one in that friendship. If you are so unconfortable, talk to her less until communication between both of you becomes nule. And if you want to do something for her, accept her the way she is, realize how many virtues she has and the good things she has to offer you.
Talk to her in a nice way and tell her what you think she is doing wrong and maybe she will get it, but if he attitude bothers you so much as you make it out to be... Dont talk to her again.

Answer 7

dude seriously you need to talk to her with the truth first of all cause shes your friend.. if she does not seem to be affected by what you have told her, and continues acting that way, i would slowly start gravitating away from her and making new friends because hanging out with her will make you look like a hoe too.. sad but true.. plus you guys are only 15? that is ridiculous that girl has serious issues with herself.. she acts that way because, really, she is insecure about herself.. no guy is going to respect her acting the way she does, and you are gona look like her little sidekick and get her reputation as well.. so first try and talk some sense into her since she is your friend.. if that doesnt work, ditch the hoe! hope this helped!

Answer 8

I had a friend like that and she's 29, and just gets worse every day. It's called low self-esteem. She finds a guy and in a matter of two days she'd tell me she was in love with him and that she talked to him about getting married. No wonder they never stuck around!

I'd move FAR FAR away from this one. They'll wear you out and irritate you to the point where you waste too much time and energy on them. They're selfish, self-centered and will never see what other people on the outside are seeing...a huge mess. Keep away!!!

Answer 9

It's surprising that you guys are 15. That said, you are much smarter than her. I would just tell her flat out that you cannot stand her behavior and you don't think it's cool at all, tell her you don't care to know about her "experiences", if she disses you for that, forget it because back in her mind she thinks this is the only way for her to get guys' attention and will be dissing you because you are right. Find some new friends that appreciate themselves because I know by experience that you cannot change a friend that behaves that like this especially when you knew them before they started acting like that. Good luck.

Answer 10

Your "friend" obviously has some MAJOR insecurity/self esteem issues going on here - WHERE ARE HER PARENTS AND WHY DO THEY NOT SEE THIS?? Let me guess - this girl is not real close to her Father OR her Father is not around - your friend needs some real good PROFESSIONAL HELP before she ends up hurting herself and involving other people with it. She is playing a VERY dangerous game, and I suggest you sit her down and tell you you care very much for her, BUT she is headed down a road you do NOT want to follow her on. Let her know that when and if she wants to STOP acting a fool, you will HELP HER GET HELP - remember, SHE has to want to change, you can't change her. Protect yourself - you seem to have a good head on your shoulders - don't let this girl bring you down with her.