It is my unbiased opinion that he is not going to marry you. If he hasn't asked you in the first decade of your romance, there is no way in hell he was going to in the second. If you two love each other, does it really matter if you two are legally bound together as man and wife. In most states, you two would be considered man and wife. Also, ask yourself what prompted him to propose marriage? If he states he's not ready to be married yet, why propose? No offense, but he knew how you felt about marriage and gave you a ring to shut you up and make you happy.
2007-01-21 13:45:39
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answered by J T 3
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Honestly, you didn't even need to post this question. Deep down you already know the answer to it. Since you have a relationship with God, I will speak to you from His terms. You are a precious gift that He created. Do you think his plans were for you to be living with a man for 22 years outside the covenant of marriage? Your husband should be an earthly representation of God - someone who cares for you, respects you, has your best interest at hand - Does a man who is shacked up in your house, sleeping with you, proposing (but not following through) have your best interest at hand? But, more importantly, the REAL question is why have you ALLOWED this man to take 22 years of your life. You are worth more than that and you need to start believing it? God has a GOOD plan for you and it does not include shacking up and never getting married. Get up and tell him to get out! If your scared of being alone, remember what the bible says: For God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. -2 Timothy 1:5-7
2007-01-21 08:37:25
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answered by TwinkaTee 6
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Wait let me get this straight... You have lived with him for 22 years?? Now all of a sudden you are worried about relationship with God? Girl you are very confused. Oh course he is not going to marry you why should he? If I were you I would move out and if you still want to date him fine but dont give him the convience of having you there all of the time he will never marry you trust me.
2007-01-21 08:34:32
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answered by mom of twins 6
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Why should he marry you? He's coexisted in a relationship with you for this long and you've put up with it. You should just go to the Bible for your answer. If he loves you and also has a relationship with God, then when you show him what God would have your relationship be like he should have no problem getting married - If not, then it looks like you have your answer.
You deserve to be with a man who wants nothing more than to be 100% committed to you - and that means marriage and making your relationship right before God, not just making it convenient for him.
2007-01-21 08:49:35
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answered by saucykittykatt 1
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Get out of this relationship as soon as possible. This jerk has no motivation to marry you. Why should he commit, if he can get all the "benefits" without any of the responsibility. And yes, God does care how we live our lives. You need to value yourself as much as God does. After all look what He (God) has done for you. You deserve much better that what you've been getting.
If your guy wanted to be married, you wouldn't need to be asking this question! RUN, don't walk away!
2007-01-21 08:40:38
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answered by Leah L 2
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You can't continue living in sin because of your relationship with God? Where was this relationship with God 22 years ago? Don't make God your excuse, because that is all that it is. You no more have a relationship with God than you do a snowball's chance in hell of marrying this guy.
2007-01-21 09:23:04
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answered by Anonymous
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22yrs is a long time to live with someone that you are not
married to . He cheated on you and his 12yr is with you
also: Your relationship with God has not been that close
as with your mate. So it depends what you want to do
continue living with him or make him leave because after
22yrs and he hasn't married you he probably won't as
it's too convienient for him not to.
2007-01-21 13:30:18
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answered by RudiA 6
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Dear God, what r you waiting for? If he is not ready by now he is NEVER going to be. And tell me you did not say you dont wanta live w/him because of your realtionship with God.....Girl you been there 22 yrs......Dont use that as an attempt to manipulate your guy to do what you want. Its obvious he does what he wants and you just put up with it. Get a back bone.....Stand up for yourself and get what you want or get out....IF you cant do that,,,you dont have a right to complain...
2007-01-21 09:17:44
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answered by Lrn'dTheHardWay 3
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Oh my god, I don't even know how to respond!
But I'll try.
First, you've lived with him for 22 years. He will never marry you.
Second, not only did you accept his affairs, but you took in his love child TWELVE YEARS ago. He has no respect for you.
Finally, why think about your relationship with God now? He sees you as an idiot, and again, he will never marry you.
2007-01-21 08:54:13
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answered by Anonymous
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I had a seventeen year engagement and finally said that's it we get married now or it's over. I made the arrangements and we did it and he was truly happy about it. I think he was just lazy and I didn't make it clear enough how important it was for me. Go ahead and explain your case and then give an ultimatum. Good Luck.
2007-01-21 08:35:59
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answered by noddy 3
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