We live together with his 12yr old son after cheating on me. I forgave and took him back. He proposed about 2yrs ago and gave me a ring, but he says we are not ready to be married yet. But get this he has no problems with us living together. I am about ready to ask him to leave. I can't continue to live like this. Yes it is because of my relationship with God.
2007-01-21 08:21:26 · 15 answers · asked by Linda S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have certainly given him enough time to propose and in that time he cheated on you and brought you home a child to raise for him.
No he doesn't need to marry you, he has all the benefits of marriage without having to obligate himself.
You have allowed him to use you ! This has all lowered your self esteem. Right ??
Now your thoughts are troubling you and you are turning back to your creator. PRAISE GOD !!! You must get him out of your life if you plan a relationship with God and then pray in earnest asking God's forgiveness, seeking his repentance..Then and only then can you move forward and follow Jesus. God is so very good.!! I will be praying for you. God bless your walk with him.
2007-01-21 09:13:25 · answer #1 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been together for 22yrs.....and are living together with his 12yr old son....and he proposed 2yrs ago but then said you're not ready to get married...You seriously need to think about some things.......Is "marriage" something you want Now and feel you're ready for that piece of paper or do you feel he's a free loader, you doing all the "wifey" things and "step mom" things...cooking , cleaning, shopping etc......and he just sits back and can have his cake and eat it too??
If you say your relationship with God wants him to pack his things and move out...then that's what you need to tell him* Go with what you Want and Feel you Need*
If he doesn't make you Happy*....you know what you need to do.
GOODLUCK*
2007-01-21 08:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've lived with him for 22 years, but he's "not ready" to get married yet? Is this a surprise? He never WILL be ready - wake up to reality. Whether you do it for a god or for yourself - if your goal is to be married, this guy is not "it", you have to look elsewhere. If you stay with him, just be realistic and accept that you two will never be married. After 22 years, the "not ready" excuse is pretty much a fancy way of saying - "it'll never happen".
2007-01-21 08:31:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 22 yrs i doubt he will marry you so leave and dont look back cause u have wasted 22 yrs of ur life with a man who wont commit to u
2007-01-21 08:26:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
truthfully, you probably did no longer even could desire to submit this question. Deep down you already understand the answer to it. on account which you have a relationship with God, i'll chat to you from His words. you're an invaluable present that He created. Do you think of his plans have been so you may well be living with a guy for 22 years outdoors the covenant of marriage? Your husband could desire to be a mundane representation of God - somebody who cares for you, respects you, has your terrific activity to hand - Does a guy who's shacked up on your living house, snoozing with you, featuring (yet no longer following by) have your terrific activity to hand? yet, greater importantly, the actual question is why have you ever ALLOWED this guy to take 22 years of your existence. you're properly worth greater effective than that and you're able to desire to start up believing it? God has a sturdy plan for you and it would not incorporate shacking up and on no account getting married. get up and tell him to get out! if your petrified of being on my own, bear in mind what the bible says: For God hath no longer given us the spirit of worry, yet of power, and of affection, and of a valid ideas. -2 Timothy a million:5-7
2016-11-26 00:34:15 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really can't imagine after this long, a change. Do you really need to be married? For what? I am not questioning you but in a way, you may be better off, safer. A divorce could be a bad process if you ever have to go through with it. If you have health insurance and have things ironed out money-wise, maybe you could be comfortable with the way things are?
2007-01-21 08:53:46 · answer #6 · answered by AM 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes u guys shud be married..theres a saying abouy not buying the cow when u can get the milk for free, to me living together is the same as marriage so u might as well make it official..if he can live with u for 22 years he needs to marry u, and soon.
2007-01-21 08:32:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
22 years? What state are you in? In most, you'd be "common law" by now.... Get some legal counsel. If you're already "legally bound" maybe he'd be OK with walking down the isle, and if not, maybe he'll just run. Either way - if he's still not taking action... time to change direction.
2007-01-21 08:26:01 · answer #8 · answered by going_crazy_30m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i hate to say it but after 22 years i don't think he will ever make the commitment. i have known many people that have lived together for years very happy, soon after getting married they split up i don't know if it like they feel like they have to be there insted of chooseing to be there like it was before the marrage
2007-01-21 08:30:43 · answer #9 · answered by jon j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
similar situation with my sister-in-law after years of waiting, she finally said to him that he is the man she chooses to spend her life with, she gave him 2 months to decide how he felt and after that she told him he had to go. less than a month after the conversation they moved forward with their wedding plans. they've been happily married for 1 year now.....my only warning is that if he doesnt step up you must be willing to follow through with moving on without him. also, be sure to let his son know that even though you and his father are not continuing your relationship that you are still available to him and always will be [if that's the case of course]
2007-01-21 08:29:30 · answer #10 · answered by info seeker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋