Why does my baby cry every time I put her down to sleep?

Question

She's fine if I'm holding her but if I put her down she immediately starts bawling. I know she's only a week and six days but she just ... won't stop crying if I put her down. it's nearly impossible to get any sleep.

Answer 1

She's got you round her little pinky already!

Let her cry for a while. Best thing to do is wrap the baby nice and tight so she will feel cocooned. It's that snugness and warmth she likes so get her on a bit of a slant with her head higher up (so she digests better) onto her side with a wee blanket propped behind her to keep her in that position. She might feel more "held" and less likely to wake up.

Answer 2

Because she is used to the rocking motion she had when she was in your tummy. That is why newborns like to be held and rocked. It is also why they sleep during the day. You remember how much she kicked and turned when you were trying to sleep or relax while you were pregnant? It's because you were still and they learned to be awake when you were walking around. I would swaddle her as tightly as possible and then put her down, and just let her cry. Crying is good for the lungs, and teaches self soothing. Swadling the baby gives them the same tight familliar feeling of being in the uterus. It's a little hard on mom, and I would make sure she didn't need anything before I let her cry. Also, you cannot spoil a baby this young, so if you feel like rocking her all the day long, that is your option as well.

***You can listen to people who have read about it, or listen to people who have been through it. It will not hurt your baby to let her cry. I have four daughters, and have tried everything. Crying will tire her out, and hopefuly you can get on the same sleep schedule. It's a process though, not an overnight cure. It also will not hurt either of you to give in (for now). Hold her if you like. Your mommy instincts will be of better use to you than any advice you could get from another person. Also, make sure you set up a good bed time routine that works for you now. In other words last feeding, story time, bath time, should always occur at the same time everyday. Except when she is sick.

Answer 3

I have a 3 week old and i have the same problem. My husband thinks we should let him cry out and thinks he is spoiled. I'm going to tell you what i tell him that you cant spoil a baby especially a new born. Don't let him cry it out till she is at least 3 or 4 months old. I also have 3 year old and have been through this once b4. Don't listen to those that tell you she had you wrapped around her finger and to those that tell you to let her cry it out right now. Just be there for her and love her and talk to her. If crying does get to be to much do put her down and get a way for a min or ask a neighbor or friend to come and help you out . Good luck and enjoy your baby.

Answer 4

try not to hold her as much during the day. If you hold your baby all the time it wont appreciate being put down. But also if you let her just cry a little..not for hours or anything but she needs to learn that every time she makes a sound you wont come running..that will get her to be a Lil more independent and will allow you to sleep sometimes!! Good Luck.

Answer 5

The first year of their lives, babies cry to see if you'll respond to them. By responding, you are showing your baby that you are there for it. This is how trust is built between mother and child. Since your baby is so young, I would take the opportunity to hold it as much as possible, because you won't get to much after the first couple of years. If you really do need to put her down however, try giving her something to grab her attention. Being so young, this is not easily done but after a while, you'll begin to see what she favors. Hope this helps!

Answer 6

Babies do this, I know it stinks. You have to give yourself permission to let her cry a little now and then while you take some time for yourself or you'll go crazy. Do you have a swing? A vibrating bouncy chair? Will she take a pacifier? Do you swaddle her? One of my sure-fire never fail things was to a) swaddle REALLY tightly b) put in the vibrating bouncy c) put in the pacifier with the bottom edge tucked UNDER the top edge of the blanket. It helped keep the pacifier in. Worked like a charm 9 times out of 10.

Answer 7

I cant believe how many people let thier innocent newborn infants cry-it-out,.. I consider that to be child abuse.

Here is a link to Dr. Sears, he has written 30 books, you may have seen him on Dr. phil a few days ago. Look around on his site for other helpful tips.
In the meantime you can wear her in a sling, and have someone else come over to take care of her while you nap in the daytime.


31 WAYS TO GET YOUR BABY TO GO TO SLEEP AND STAY ASLEEP EASIER

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T070300.asp


"Using the rigid, insensitive "let-him-cry-it-out" method has several problems. First, it will undermine the trust your baby has for nighttime comfort. Second, it will prevent you from working at a style of nighttime parenting until you find the one that works best for you and your family and third, it may keep you and your doctor from uncovering hidden medical causes of nightwaking. Nightfeedings are normal; frequent, painful nightwaking is not. "

p.s. crying is not good for thier lungs it is a ridiculous old wives tale. it is alsonot good for the development of thier brains,

Answer 8

It's because infants are, unfortunately, born without the instincts to soothe themselves, which is why you have to do it for them for the first few months of life. There are many books on how to get your infant to sleep but I recommend one of these:

The No-Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley
How to Get Your Baby to Sleep by William Sears

And always remember to stay calm and be gentle with baby, even if you are exhausted and frustrated!! It may take weeks or even months to get into a good routine. Good luck with this and happy sleeping!!

Answer 9

have you ever tried nursing/feeding him right down to sleep? fairly some toddlers won't be able to easily circulate to sleep on their very own, they want convenience, so in case you nurse him right down to sleep or take a seat him on your lap and supply him a heat bottle, it might desire to help him nod off via offering convenience. a bathtub earlier bedtime helps a toddler be sleepy too, and a ordinary like bathtub, pjs, tale time, nurse/bottle could help. wish this helps. Please do no longer permit him cry himself to sleep, toddlers cry to speak, please do no longer prepare him you desire to forget approximately his communication. toddlers want help to nod off by way of fact they have a geared up-in instinct that's left over from as quickly as we've been hunter-gatherers in threat from predators. So toddlers are afraid to be left by myself for a reason, they are no longer attempting to regulate us or something like that. you additionally can try donning him around in a sling on the same time as making a music a lullaby, or going for acontinual earlier bedtime. Many toddlers constantly nod off on acontinual. toddlers are meant to be clingy. i think of you're able to examine Dr. Sears, he's lots smarter than maximum wellbeing travellers.

Answer 10

babies like to feel they are safe try and sleeping with the baby 4 a while