I remember back when my bf last broke up with me and i went to a counseler to try to get help for myself. I was in a deep depression; i got better but i remember something she told me when i told her i had the problem of men i go for...or the fact why i want this one over the other.
She told me.... you have intelligence and potential to be great in life and people would think you settle for man whose just as great in everyone's eyes as you are. But with you...you seem i think you rather end up or will end up with someone who people wouldn;t think greatly love... instead of the handsome rich successful man everyone loves.. and thats is different.. you go for the poor man who everyone could hate.. who has solittle and isn;t that great you someone like you could find him perfect.
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is this crazy?
2007-01-21 08:13:20 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
For some reason I go for women like that so I guess we're in the same boat lol
2007-01-21 09:22:58 · answer #1 · answered by buickbeast 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not crazy. She might be wrong about this, but chances are she's not. For example why DID you pick him? Why DID you settle for a guy like him? The answer is that you may have been mistreated or psychologically abused in childhood, and you may have residual feelings that there's something wrong with you and that maybe you're not worthy of something better. In other words, you may have the feeling that why would a guy that nice want someone like you?
If you do, once again, your counselor may be right...that you DO deserve someone who is as strong and capable as you are. Maybe you should give that some thought...do you accept that? Can you accept that? Will the next guy you select for your significant other be a winner...not a loser?
2007-01-21 16:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is said that men go for women who are closed to their mothers personality, and for women it is their fathers.
No, it is not crazy. But you might want to examine what you are looking for in men. She is right to a point, just how much depends on you as well.
2007-01-21 17:48:52 · answer #3 · answered by stbill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not the only woman that does this. Not by far. Not the only person I should say. I feel you should be aware of this in all relationships. Just know this and make sure you are not setting yourself up for failure.
2007-01-21 16:23:47 · answer #4 · answered by Damon S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In short....you love the losers of the world!!!!!!!
2007-01-21 16:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
umm, i don't understand what your asking. punctuation and grammer exist for a reason.
2007-01-21 16:19:55 · answer #6 · answered by Iris 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋