Yes sex is great and wonderful thing in a marriage but why do most married people(mostly men) think that the only way to stay and be happily married is LOTS of sex. me and my husband have a good sex life BUT we both have know there are many more ways u can stay and be happily married.Im glad my hubby doesnt think the way Most married men do
2007-01-21 08:02:31 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
who said we dont have hobbies we do together
2007-01-21 08:13:49 · update #1
I dont think sex is a bad thing i LOVE it but i just dont think its the most important thing in a marriage
2007-01-21 08:15:37 · update #2
I never said there was anything wrong with having LOTS of sex. what i said was that most married men think that that the only way to stay and be happily married is LOTS of sex
2007-01-21 08:21:19 · update #3
How do you know this? Did you personally interview every married man??? Did you take some kind of survey?
I know plenty of married men who dont feel that it isnt all about sex...my husband included.
2007-01-21 08:06:49 · answer #1 · answered by GrnEyedBandita 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sex is great in marriage. But I would have to say yes, it is not the only thing that is important in a marriage. You marry for other reasons too. I don't think that all men think the only way to be happy is to have lots of sex. I do think that some men think that it fixes problems in the marriage or with the relationship. But it doesn't. Communication is the one thing that a good solid relationship has. With that all the rest fall into place. If sex is the only thing that a couple have in common, then they are missing out on alot.
2007-01-21 08:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by ~Carolina Beach Girl~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not sure that you are correct in suggesting that "most married men" require "LOTS of sex."
We've been married 36 years, so we've known a LOT of married couples, and I don't think I've ever heard any of our friends (the females from the couples) confide that their men want too much sex. If anything, it might be the other way around.
Yes.
Women usually "peak" later in life sexually, and it is MUCH more common to hear women complaining about their husbands. You can believe that or not, as you please.
But every individual in a relationship has their own level of sexual appetite and drive, and each couple has to come to terms with what is a "satisfying amount" of sex between them.
I don't think there's any "too much" or "too little." Well, certainly anyone could be too demanding or insensitive one way or the other, but truthfully, I don't think the amount of sex is a big deal breaker in a lot of marriages.
And I do encourage couples contemplating marriage to have a good list of shared interests.
2007-01-21 10:08:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very happy for you both, and I feel the same way that you do. There are more important things in a marriage than sex. I believe that sex is important in a marriage, but there are things like communication, trust, honesty and loyalty are far more important.
My wife and I try to spend at least one night a week alone without the kids and have a date night, and we just enjoy spending time together, we either go out to dinner, stay home for dinner, maybe rent a movie or go see one. Or other things, just to spend that quality time together, with absolutely no expectation of sex at the end of the night.
I applaud both you and your husband for finding happiness in more than just sex in your marriage.
2007-01-21 08:13:14 · answer #4 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reverse question - why do women who are married think sex is now a bad thing? C'Mon... its inexpensive entertainment and enjoyable for both, and when married - budget is important.
My nonanswer is that "LOTS" of sex is only an opinion when there is a disagreement on how much sex there should be. Men always want more, but as long as there'sgood communicaiton and a happy meeting in the middle (no pun intended) on the sex topic, then all is well.
Communication is the key.
2007-01-21 08:12:23 · answer #5 · answered by going_crazy_30m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, a lot of people (men AND women) just really love sex. And others can take it or leave it. It's great when both partners feel roughly the same - but it doesn't always happen this way. There's nothing wrong with wanting to have LOTS of sex, but then one just has to look for a partner who feels the same. My husband and I both can "take it or leave it", there are so many different ways to express affection for your partner that don't necessarily have anything to do with sex.
2007-01-21 08:14:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband doesnt think a happy marriage revovles around sex, however it is a big part of it though, you cant dismiss it.
A marriage is made up of love,trust,communication and lust.
If you dont have the lust you will have mistrust which leads to non communication, which leads to love lost.
If you are still pyshically attracted to each other and can manage to keep that spark alive that you had when you first get married you'll be extremely happy.
I have been married for 6yrs and been with my husband for 10 and will still have sex everyday, and we have 2 kids!
good luck with you answers.
2007-01-21 08:20:20 · answer #7 · answered by aime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men think so differently than a women. We as women love to cuddle, men to a rule don't. WE know theres so much more than sex, but most men don't. It's just the way God made their hormones...so different than we are. Marriage isn't all about sex. You learn that after 30 years of marriage.
2007-01-21 08:39:51 · answer #8 · answered by K.W. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I usually have sex 5-6 times per week. However, we do share our hobbies and travels together. Yes, sex is important in a marriage but so is quality time and that does not mean going to Block Buster and renting DVDs...I mean socializing with friends and other things that may interest the BOTH of you.
Do either one of you have hobbies that you could do together????
2007-01-21 08:10:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure who you have been talking to. Sex is a very important part of the equation but I don't think we married people think it's the only way to a great marriage.
2007-01-21 08:11:49 · answer #10 · answered by Victor H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely dont think its all about sex. We can go to the grocery together and laugh all the way thru. In my experience lots of sex is something that happens when everything else is good. Lots of sex cant make a bad relationship good.
2007-01-21 08:09:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋