i know it sound really stupid, but married life isn't what it cracked up to be. please be honest and let me know how i can make things more exciting and interesting
2007-01-21 07:51:30 · 40 answers · asked by xblue-printx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By doing different things and always talking and having an open mind.
Good Luck
2007-01-21 07:54:13 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not growing up...
Seriously
Teenage couple are the post strong as dont give a fig about appropiateness or people having a problem with public displays of affection...
having fun, being naughty, playing pranks, ticking, etc...
The more repressed and ordered and formal you become the weaker surely the relationships?
Guys go for younger girls as fun.
So why not stay fun. And be what you fell in love with in the first place and stuff evryone else.
Only be seriious when its necessary... ie regarding safety.
Make out in cinemas and cars, hold hands, snog by bus terminals, go clubbing and make out in a foam party etc.
Pinch butt. Tickle, kiss chase. forget to wear undies whilst getting hubbie to hold the ladder.
Get a remote control vibrator and give hubbie the remote... Say whilst going to someones wedding in the church, Or better still in confession.
Skinny dip.
Join in a wet t shirt or jelly wrestle competition or take part in a backpacker bar couple clothes swap competition.
Paw each other.
Share a shower. Drop ice down back so chased.
Play strip poker.
Make own porn with funny fantasies like naughty school girls and teach catchers her doing something naughty...
Snaek into old school at night and snog in snoggers corner
2007-01-21 08:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I are extremely close. I think the reason for that is we have been each others best friend, we confide in each other. As far keeping things exciting, we both feel very comfortable telling each other about any desires or fantasies we have, the talk always keeps us both interested. We also do things like toy stores, we have nights we go out to dinner and flirt the whole time, we sneak off for quickies if we can find a place to hide.
2007-01-21 08:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think its a very good question, actually. Alot of Couples do get wrapped up in everyday things, especially when you get married and sometimes,start taking advantage of each other.
Really the secret is always making time for one another, keep communication open and be honest with one another about your wants and needs.
Take time out for one another no matter what is going on, plan special evenings, days or outings where you can have fun or just enjoying one another. Plan surprises out to keep things fresh and exciting.
Above all respect one another and remeber its ok to agree to disagree sometimes. Look for the good things in the relationships and Work on the bad things that you can fix together.
One good thing to remeber is you cant change anyone else, but you can change how you act to his behavior. Its a good thing to know when your upset with one another. :) good luck!
2007-01-21 08:08:40 · answer #4 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good sex? Just kidding. Well sorta...
If you have children make sure to set aside time for just the 2 of you. Start doing things differently to keep him guessing, it can be something subtle like how you dress or keeping it 'interesting' in the bedroom.
Think back to what you did that added allure before you were married. Men always say that we women change after the wedding day so maybe going back to the woman he met may spark something in him.
My bf would send me a cute message about how I looked when I left the house - so all day all I could think about was him undressing me when we got home. Little things like that can make a hum-drum relationship nice and exciting.
Just don't change who you are. He married YOU and loves YOU, but making small adjustments to the things you do may make a big difference. Good luck!
2007-01-21 08:00:38 · answer #5 · answered by sweetcandy11234 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well i think you need to work out WHY married life isnt what it is cracked up to be? Not really enough info in your question to help. One suggestion i've got is to get The Rules for Marriage - time tested secrets for making your marriage work by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider - you can prob get it from Amazon. It has lots of tips for married women and is sensible (in my opinion).
Did you live with him before you got married? If not, maybe you are not used to all his habits yet.
Don't give up - keep talking and communicating with him. Tell him you love him, have lots of sex, be interested in him and don't stop doing all the things you like doing just cos you are married - dont get boring!
Good luck!
Faith x
2007-01-21 09:11:32 · answer #6 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any relationship has to be constantly worked at to keep it fresh and interesting. It's actually a job just like the one you may go to for 40 hours a week. Are you taking good care of yourself, are you showing interest in his personal interests , are you pleasing him sexually by being sexy and showing variety, are you handling the money oroperly, and is he doing all the same things for you? Are you both communicating well with each other? Are you compatible? You need to sit down together and actually take stock in your marriage, and be honest with everything. And act accordingly on the results.
M
2007-01-21 08:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am not married but I have been living with my partner for 7 years. Every now and again, I cast my mind back to when we first met and remember how we fell in love. I still love him with all my heart and we are very happy but of courrse, things can get boring - that is just life. Go out with each other - just the two of you - I always find we chat properly when we are out of the house. I guess, you just have to continue to make an effort for each other - that is what makes it last. Dont take each other forgranted.
2007-01-21 07:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by Bexs 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The same things that you did while you were dating are important while you are married in terms of continued interest and desire. Make your marriage a priority and ensure that you invest in it if you want a return. Determine what he likes and try and meet those needs, be creative and limitless. When you invest in something you get what you put in and you have to continually watch your investments and shift things around. Suggested readings: The Five Love Languages, Dr. Gary Chapman & Simply Romantic Nights
2007-01-21 07:58:10 · answer #9 · answered by akamaranda 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a pain in the a**. Guys don't want to be nitpicked to death their whole life. Hold up your end of the bargain...be at least a 50% contributor to all aspects of the marriage...housework, yardwork, shopping, all decisions. Build trust and give him every reason in the world to continue to trust you. Don't betray that trust. Be an independent woman who can take care of herself, but always let him have a sense that you still need him in the same breath. Marriage is not easy, but it can be fun...Effort is probably the biggest thing....if you fail to put effort into it, you efforts will fail.
2007-01-21 07:58:06 · answer #10 · answered by Y-Knot 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can say that with my husband I like to make him feel like a man. I make sure that he knows how important he is. Tell him thanks for every thing..Even the little things. (taking out the trash) I give him hugs and kisses and well hum 'you no' Men like to feel like they are sexy and that they are wanted. (as women do) Do things that you no he likes. Meals Movies back rubs. I try to give my hubby a hubby day that I do all the things that he likes. He doesn't have to do any thing. I bring him his meal. and just what ever he wants. He also does this for me.. so its a win win...
I wish you both the best.. One thing to keep in mind is if he is happy you will be happy..
2007-01-21 08:03:05 · answer #11 · answered by mrs.mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋