How do I deal with a selfcentered , inconsiderate husband?

Answer 1

Beat his a** - just kidding!!! If he's not the type that you can sit down and talk to then take action. Get involved with things outside of married life. Hang out with your friends and give him some space to breathe. Try to make the time you spend with him special so that he treasures you more. You didn't indicate whether or not you have children. If so, is he the same with them? If that doesn't work go on strike! Men take their women for granted way too often.

Answer 2

Well, you have to decide whether it's worth it to you to go crazy trying to change (tame) him. Truthfully, he has to want to change himself. Otherwise, he will look at it like an intrusion and become even more defiant. I've been through it myself and I have found that it was "worth it" in the sense that I learned some hard lessons that were probably necessary for me to learn (like, we can't really control/change other people. We can only control/change ourselves), and that if we don't respect our own selves by doing what's right for our own lives, we will not be respected by others either, and that in the long run, I myself would rather give my love to someone who respects himself, me, and the relationship, and is not self centered and inconsiderate.

Answer 3

You can't deal with a self centred inconsiderate husband..it's too late*!~ Either put up with it....as I'm sure you've already tried talking till you're blue in the face and it goes through one ear of his and out the other*

or

Tell him to that you've had enough.
There is no inbetween sorry to say*

Answer 4

Alot of talking and crying. I have been married for 10 years and the first 4 we spent alot of nights up. Marriage isn't meant to be easy. If it were, the divorce rate would be lower. I think alot of people marry for the wrong reasons. Counselling is another idea. Share your feelings with him, if that don't work....there may be only one choice. But it all takes time.

Answer 5

my best advice is to deal with each instance as it occurs. be patient this is a process and you will not see results immediately. be sure to phrase complaints with "i feel" or "that makes me feel" so as not to put him on the defensive. chances are he's totally oblivious and just needs a little wake up call. something that you both need to keep in mind is that we cannot judge others by our own actions but by their own. so it doesnt matter if the roles were reversed what you would do because you are you and he is he. what does matter is that when you first met he treated you like this and now he's treating you like that because thats all him....only you know what is in your heart and if you truly love this man it is worth trying to repair your differences. tell him how you feel, listen to how he feels and try to find your way back to one another. marriage is a 2 way street. best of luck to you both [and nothing worthwhile is easy]

Answer 6

by the time we are adults, our personalities are set. it doesnt mean that change is impossible, just highly improbable.it usually takes some life-altering experience,such as a near-death experience, or epiphany,or just plain hitting"rock bottom' to change. perhaps you might consider helping him with that near-death experience? no- just kidding. but, unfortunately the best you can do is set some standards that are reasonable ,explain that they are not negotiable,and consequences if they are not met.then be ready to follow through with the consequences when he doesnt comply. guys like that are a dime a dozen. that means you can buy 12 of them for 10 cents what a bargain.but worthless.and easy to find. im not saying your husband is worth so little, just guys that dont care about the feelings of their wives (and in fairness ,wives who dont care about their husbands feelings) brace yourself, dear.and stick to your standards best wishes

Answer 7

Men treat you the way you allow yourself to be treated, you aren't saying boyfriend so I'm guessing this behavior didn't just begin.

Either you recently found your value or he's recently lost sight of it. Either way it's a tough situation. Hold yourself with higher regard, make him do things for and with you because you are worth doing things for and with. Remind him of why he married you, and hey, my mom always told me for every one who won't there's one who will...Maybe he needs to be reminded of that. Get him to take you out to dinner, dress extremely sexy - get other guys to oogle...don't flirt back (respect your husband) some times all you have to do is let him see that others want you and that will remind him that he's got a keeper!

Answer 8

If your husband is this way then you don't necessarily have to deal with him. It is up to you just what you want to do. If he is inconsiderate then you need to communicate with him and talk over why he is this way. Since he is self-centered then you need to get him to see himself for what he is. You need to keep communicating to him and with him just how he is with you and see if you can get him to change. Another thing, is he this way with everyone? If not, then why not? Does he not love you anymore? Just why is he this way? You need to consider what you will do if he does not change. Sometimes it is possible to get a person to change his ways and sometimes not. Keep this in mind.

Answer 9

Face up to the fact that you CHOSE to marry him as he was (did you forget that part of your marriage vows?) and that things aren't going to change.

Answer 10

Nail his undies to the floor when he just drops them and leaves them.