Do same-sex "parents" who adopt a child ever stop to think of the hardship they will cause that child?

Question

By "hardship", I mean bullying at school, name-calling, lack of proper role model, having to grow up knowing that it's "parents" are gay...

Do you think these "parents" want their "child" to be as f*cked up as they are themselves?

Just to clear a couple of things up... I am not a homophobe. A phobia is a fear. I have no fear of gays; I am just intolerant. There is a difference.

As for the fact that I shouldn't be allowed to father a child: hahaha, at least I can!!

Answer 1

yeah dude you are a homophobe

Definitions of phobia on the Web:

* an uncontrollable, irrational, and persistent fear of a specific object, situation, or activity.
www.montefiore.org/healthlibrary/adult/mentalhealth/content.asp

hate to say it my little homophobe friend, but what makes you think gay and lesbian parents are ****** up? ever thought about the fact that "just maybe" you and alot of other homophobes cant stand to see us raise our children ^_^

Answer 2

I actually used to feel somewhat similarly- not that I'd ever try to stop someone from adopting a child- we should all have that right if we are capable parents who can provide healthy, loving homes- but I did wonder if it wasn't unfair to the child.

Then I started to think on it . . . you know that by not taking a stand, we're simply letting this go on? The reason kids with gay parents get teased and bullied is because it's uncommon and considered unacceptable, and by not having/adopting a child under such circumstances, we're only furthering that mentality and keeping it a bad thing. Think about it this way: was it fair for the different-race parents of biracial children to procreate? I mean, their kids would go on to be called 'half-breeds' or 'mixed', regarded contemptuously with sneers, treated awfully for what they were. Does that mean that we should have kept interracial couples from having kids? Of course not- the only way to battle prejudices is to fight them, not give in to the fear.

As for the whole 'lack of a proper role model'- there is NO proof or even rationalization that would prove that. Gay men and lesbians can be perfect role models and parents, no different whatsoever from straight parents. And they definitely aren't 'f*cked up' as you say.

Hope that helps you to understand.

Answer 3

uh, who didn't go thru that? you just described my childhood to a "T" and I was sired thru the usual methods. My dad was an OK dad, my mom an OK mom, but kids are just vile, evil monsters who are out to make themselves feel better by putting others down. Having two male, or two female parents is no more an issue than having red hair, being left handed, being a bit darker, or speaking with a funny accent.
And let's see...adopting a child from a loveless home, or no home at all, vs. having 2 adults come into your life and shower you with love and affection, and most often affluence(!) you've never experienced before.
Starvation in your homeland, having seen your parents killed before your eyes, or coming to America, and being welcomed into a home filled with love, whoops, there's two women here. I'd bank on the gay couples adopting is much better than no one adopting at all.
How many kids have you adopted? That's the real question. Were these kids denied YOUR love and attention, in favor of a gay couples?
How many kids go unadopted? Best example I saw was a child of a drug addict, born with AIDS, adopted by a gay male couple. That kid, even if he ended up dying, at least had a few good years.
Feel the love! or don't you know what that feels like?

Answer 4

How about we look at this from another perspective altogether?

"Do opposite-sex" parents who have sex ever stop to think of the hardship they will cause by having the possibility of a gay child?

By "hardship", I mean bullying at school, name-calling, lack of proper role model, having to grow up knowing that they "themselves" are gay...

Do you think these "parents" want the possibility of having a "gay child" when they could be endangering the child?

Maybe we should just stop having sex altogether?

Also, would you rather have the child living in a single parent situation? Or living in a terrible living situation?

Also, why should we even worry about gay marriage when there is divorce highly rated right now in the world as a whole? Maybe we should just stop having kids, stop getting married, and crawl into a hole?

OR we could learn to stop judging people, and let everyone have equality of their own?

"One nation, under god, indivisible, with liberty and justice for "-ALL-"? All races? All non-threatenening/violent orientations? All religions? Or non-religious people? Actually being "free" to be who we are as americans or human beings in general?

Answer 5

That is kind of ridiculous. I don't think that the parent's sexual orientation has anything to do with the "hardships" of a child. I think it is worse for the child to remain in an orphanage than two perfectly good same sex parents adopting them. I think no matter what, it is tough being an adopted child sometimes. Sometimes race and sexuality can play a role. I knew a girl who had a male and a female parent, of the same race, and she was still teased. Children tease no matter what the situation is. Get over yourself.

Answer 6

What makes you think that a child that grows up with same-sex parents would be any more f*cked up than children growing up with a homophobe like you?

There are many children that grow up just fine with same sex parents. I have a lesbian friend that has 2 daughters and they turned out just fine. They are in college now, they are hetero-sexual (so that blows your theory too), and are strong, independent women.

Maybe it's you that shouldn't be allow to have children!

Oh, and as for a lack of a proper role model... if you ran into their birth mother on the street, you would never know that she was a lesbian. Their other mother was more of a man than you will ever be. And the "sperm donor" (these children were conceived in a traditional manner), ended up on drugs and was abusive, and didn't want anything to do with his daughters.

Answer 7

whether you're a "homophobe" or "intolerant"....a bigot is a bigot, no matter what words you use. do you actually know any gay or lesbian parents? I doubt it. but I do (and actually, the kids aren't adopted...they are biological children). the kids are very happy, healthy and well-adjusted. sure, there are the ignorant bullies out there on occasion (I would guess that you used to be one of them when you were a child). are you saying that the very fact someone is gay means they are "f*cked up?"
what's "f*cked up" is people who pass judgment on others, who preach hatred and intolerance and hate for no good reason except that someone is "different." it's attitudes like yours that leads to bullying...harassment...abuse...violence...murder...war. diversity is what makes this world interesting...but also what makes hypocritical bigots become violent. look in the mirror...it's your attitude that's "f*cked up."

Answer 8

Just as a clarification, being intolerant of something is nearly always caused by being afraid of it. I'm intolerant of stupid people because I have this horrible fear of them being in control of the world. I'll admit it.

But I hope your kids run into ones like I was, I once took one of your little bullies and made him cry like a little girl because he was picking on some girl with two moms. Make fun of people over stupid decisions, results from those, but stuff they have no control over is just to easy to be considered fair game.

The only hard ship they'll deal with are the idiots like you, which has in fact come out in a few studies. Just for reference I did the same for some kid who's father died, I'm not just going around defending the 'oppressed peoples of the world', it's more of a stomping on the total dickwads of the world.

Answer 9

I did evaluate adoption and performance followed. as far as adoption being so undesirable for the toddler my son has out lived his diagnosis (bio mom beat him into his modern situation) and is a chuffed little boy. he will continually be my infant. My daughter turned right into a preemie and left on the health midsection, She is a captivating sensible and type human being. i understand she will make the international she touches a more suitable robust position. She is chuffed and needed. i have self belief each toddler must be needed, respected, and really else loved. I have tremendous children.they're effective human beings. the conventional ascertain toddler conflicts do take position yet no longer something substantial. My children do understand they're followed and are delicate with it.

Answer 10

My uncle and his lover adopted a child and she grew up as normal as she possibly could. Her mother did her more damage than her fathers do. Her mother drank while she was pregnant and did drugs and abused her. The girl was born as a special needs child with mental handicaps, and when her mother fell ill do to emotional disorders, the child was adopted by a friend of the family, my uncle. It was a huge issue at the time and was all over the news. But she lives with him now, has a boyfriend, is 18, and is happy with her family. She told me when she came to visit us that some kids make fun of her, but she tells them at least her family taught her how to be nice to everyone and not hate anyone.

Answer 11

Funny, a generation ago this is what people said about mixed-race couples.

But hardly anyone cares about this any more (and the children weren't specifically harmed over it).

The answer then as now is "The problem is with the mindlesss sub-human haters, not the parents."

Fortunately, the upcoming generation is much less rabidly insane and hateful over homosexuality, so the problem you've invented is all in your mind.