help! i love my boyfriend to death but while he's asleep he can be the noisiest person ever. we live together so we sleep together ever night. many nights i wake up because he snores so loudly. sometimes he's talking or mumbling, but what really urkes me is when he laughs in his sleep. some nights i just sit up and stare at him for awhile and wonder to myself "how can someone be so loud and what the hell is he laughing at!" you may think it's kinda funny but considering the loss of sleep i suffer from it's not. we argue about it all the time, he dozes off before i can fall asleep and after what seems like 10 seconds he's over there cutting logs! i know he can't really help it but does anyone know of anyway at all we can fix this or compromise somehow?
2007-01-21 07:40:40 · 2 answers · asked by Fluttrbye 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
April, this is a serious problem people may joke about, but it is not funny to the person experiencing the actual effects. Your sleep is compromised, affecting everything you do. Your boyfriend may have a medical condition causing his loud snoring.
The suggestion that you take sleeping pills is pretty drastic. That is not at all a solution! Why don't you take a tape recorder, the kind that automatically starts recording when there's sound,record your boyfriend's snoring and laughing and play it back to your boyfriend sometime when he is wide awake and most likely able to listen and take this in. He is obviously not aware of what is going on and needs to be made aware of this. Suggest he see a doctor about it. He could have sleep apnea, or something that disturbs his sleep pattern. In any case, this is affecting you. He does not seem to be too much affected by it. The obvious kinds of things to try like ear plugs may help. Some couples sleep in separate rooms. My sister snores so loudly and has found no cure, so she sleeps in one room, her boyfriend in another. Not everyone has this choice. This is a serious enough issue that you need to do something about it before it builds up and before it leads to more arguements and worse. It is a couples issue. You need your boyfriend to appreciate where you are with this. If all else fails, get support for yourself from a good counselor. There could be other issues your boyfriend may not take seriously. Sleep is so basic. We need at least 8 hours to function. Without sleep I am crabby, have a poor memory and don't have the best reflexes when driving. Sleep is a necessity, not a luxury. I wish you the very best, April. Sweet dreams!
2007-01-21 08:15:45 · answer #1 · answered by tealeaf 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe a sleeping pill will help i think women have asked this question for decades sorry honey thats all i got
2007-01-21 07:49:19 · answer #2 · answered by partylitebyterra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can wake him up?
2007-01-21 07:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by ♥LuV my preppyness♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋