how do i pluck up the courage to speak to some girls i made contact with through myspace?

Question

ive added them to my messenger, but im scared to go online and try to chat, because i have very low self esteem and im dealing with psychological problems right now, racing thoughts, i never do anything so i wont have nothing to talk about...but im desperate to initiate contact with someone especially girls, but im scared to of rejection, im 29, and im waitin for a second opinion, i live in a flat of my own, i don own much in materialism and feel i have nothing goin for me, can anyone help?

my self esteem lets me down every time

Answer 1

Wow, sounds like you have an anxiety disorder.

If I were you, I'd stay single...If you are dealing with that much drama sitting home alone, you don't want a girlfriend, trust me on that! The me get a thumbs up!

If you want to talk to someone on myspace, just say hello. And, girls are suckers for guys with problems, tell her how scared you were to even talk to her, she'll eat it up!

Girls don't like guys with high self esteem and lots of things going for them, they want someone who will make them feel good about themselves and needed.

You've got a better chance with her than probably most of the guys that message her. I hope you're seeing someone or working on your psychological problems, those are much worse than being single.

Answer 2

Best book I ever read on the subject - Games people play.

And girls probably make you more nervous - why not chat with some guys first - get used to chatting online.

And get a hobby - preferably one that girls go to as well. Not kick boxing like my mate did. We told him there'd be no girls there. And were we right?
In a word, yes!

And try to see girls as human - chatting to one doesn't mean you need to chat her up. Start a conversation with a really ugly one (I'm only half joking here) if it helps.

Answer 3

If you never try you will never get anywhere. If you hope for anything you must go forward. You are able to do anything you put your mind to. Talk to her about what she likes. Whats her favorite color, what does she enjoy eating. Is it sushi, mex, Italian, or hot dogs. What kind of movie does she lie to watch, scary, drama, comedy. Let her about what you do like. ANYTHING. You may or may not get anywhere with her but at least you have tried and it moves you forward for the next girl or job or anything else in life. I leave you with a cowboy quote; It's better to be a has-been than a never-was.

Answer 4

They're probably thinking the same thing you are about themselves...take a chance, better to lose at love, than never to have loved at all...you can do it...just go for it, they don't know you, and getting to really know someone can take a really long time...just be yourself, and if you're not what they are looking for, then go on, they also might not be what you're looking for...they're only human, we 're all created equal..you are no less a person than anyone there...

Answer 5

good day warm pants--say hi and compensate for the time you human beings were aside---romance??? more suitable take your time--she would have a guy---or a lady--who's conscious. be a gentleman and communicate effective---in case you're attempting to bounce her truly quick--she will be lengthy gone back--decelerate and do the right element. communicate will instruct her inner maximum personality--perhaps you don't need her after some weeks of communicate--she would no longer want you ....take your time.

Answer 6

Well, first a lot of the poster girls on myspace are just advertisement for sites, but hey go for it.

Just talk to them. Online you can be anyone you want. They can't see you, so just talk to them. No big deal.

Answer 7

chat with them. if they're not interested move on to the next. be honest with them. play the poor me game. some girls like that.