My partner can't figure out why no one wants to work with him and why people "forget" to invite him to meetings or include him socially. When there are issues, he is really intense and people think he's "argumentative", "unreasonable" and "inflexible", even though he says he doesn't feel that way. I and others have tried to gently hint that he comes on too strong, but he won't accept it and blames other people for any problems that come up. It's like he won't cut people any slack, but he's totally blind to it. Otherwise, he's an honest guy and a superb worker. We'd like to work well together, but he just doesn't see how he comes across. We've tried to level with him, but it's like he holds grudges and won't give us a break. And we have to work with him, no way around it. Any advice?
2007-01-21 07:15:17 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The best thing to do is write down specific examples of what he is doing. After you have a list that can show a continuous trend. Take him aside and explain to him that you aren't trying to bring him down, just trying to show you how he is coming off to other people. One of two things are gonna happen - he is gonna see your point and try to change or he isn't going to change. If the later is the case then it's his loss.
2007-01-21 07:24:04 · answer #1 · answered by John P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tip toe around him
2007-01-21 07:28:13 · answer #2 · answered by cherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋