how should i go about improving myself?

Question

How should I go about making this gameplan on improving myself?
ok so i am trying to fix and improve the things i dislike about myself, so my question is how do i go about it? i mean i have a list of things i want to change to make me more happy with myself. ex: slow to anger, not get so stressed out, give 100% to whatever i do, stay positive, be nicer to ppl, not let ppl push me around (not physically, you know what i mean), so do i try to fix everything at once? do i only choose 1 or two things and wait a month and then choose something else? i want to know what i should do. plz help.

Answer 1

I think you should first give a bit more serious thought to the list of what you dislike about yourself, and decide which one would be the very easiest thing you could start working on. If you can make some good headway with the easiest thing you want to change, then you will gain confidence and feel encouraged because you will have proven to yourself that you are indeed capable of change. Then pick out the second easiest issue and figure out a plan of how you could go about improving that thing about yourself--and so on. Your early successes will help you persist and even increase your resolve to tackle the harder things.
If instead you were to try to work right away on the really tougher things, you run the big risk of winding up discouraged and prematurely throwing in the towel. You can't possibly fix everything at once, and even trying to work on a couple of tough things at once could seem too overwhelming. So easy does it, one thing at a time, one day at a time.
But in addition to working on your problem areas, I think you should make a list of the good and decent things there actually are at present about yourself--your strengths, and things people seem to like about you. I'm sure there must be things you do pretty much like about yourself. You need to give yourself some proper credit for those things, and not just view yourself as nothing but a big collection of flaws and weaknesses. So you should also start doing more of the positive and admirable things that you already have in place, for this too will help you to improve yourself.

Answer 2

That is a lot of things to work on. You could try an overall/general self-help book, a support group (if they have them in your area) or counseling. A counselor couls assist you in the process and how to go about it. They could suggest things to read and how to work on the different things. It is a process, don't rush it, it will come.

Answer 3

first off i would re-write the list in order, from the number one thing that bugs you the most on down. then i would take one from the top of your list and one from the bottom and work on those until you are satisfied with where you are on those and work your way into the middle of the list.

Answer 4

shower and wear pants to church