My boyfriend and I have been going out for a while, but its been on and off. Shes never told me she likes him but she acts so weird around him. And i know she use to like him a long time ago. Up until a couple of days ago they really couldnt stand each other but lately theyve been getting along. I dont know what to say or even if i should say anything. I know he doesnt like her like that but it still bothers me when theyre around each other. What do i do ?
2007-01-21 07:00:34 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Put your insecurities aside so you can observe objectively. Listen to your gut feeling. If you really believe that there is nothing to worry about, such as your boyfriend possibly coming to like her "like that," then don't worry. If it starts to seems suspicious or confusing or uncomfortable, ask questions and listen to your gut feeling. Neither of them are worth questioning your own judgment to the point at which you are letting yourself be disrespected. Be objective but not blind.
2007-01-21 07:14:41 · answer #1 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well u said it yourself, he doesnt feel like that about her so dont worry about it, if u trust him then thats all that matters, but since it does bother you, just tell him, hes your boyfriend, if it bothers u im sure he wont have problem with not being around her.
2007-01-21 15:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by aces_wild87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have to disagree with most and say it to early to confront them. Give it time..see if your suspisions continue before you make a fool of yourself. If they continue, you may want to tell your friend you have noticed she seems to act different around your bf and ask why. Dont ask in an assuming way, you may lose a couple of friends this way.
2007-01-21 15:09:23 · answer #3 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should confront them both one on one. If she is your best friend she should have no problem telling you the truth but if you feel like she is lying get them both together and ask them at the same time. If you feel uncomfortable then you should say something and not hold it in.
2007-01-21 15:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could gently bring it up with her in conversation. I had that happen to me once. It went really fast: a man I adored came over to see me one night when I was staying at my friends house and when they laid eyes on each other, it was "on". The next morning I realized they had had sex together. Later, they each called to sincerely apologize to me. It really really hurt but they both were my friends and I couldn't find it in myself to hold a grudge.Man were they ever sorry. They did not end up together ever again, either.
2007-01-21 15:06:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her privately first. Before you "go on the attack", ask her to tell you TRUTHFULLY what's up. Tell her, depending on what she says, that hands are off him--your hands are the only hands on him now. If you feel she's acting weird around him when you see them together again, tell her he's your bf. in front of HIM. If he acts weird, if you have to tell her in front of him, drop them both...permanently. It's not worth it.
2007-01-21 15:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should ask her sometime when you are both alone and can talk privatly. But u should deffinatly not get mad at her if she does like him. It could all just be a misunderstanding.
2007-01-21 15:06:20 · answer #7 · answered by Dragon_Garnet_Gems_of_earth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get ur friend and ur boyfriend in 1 room and yall talk it out im sure the truth will come out and if it doesent threaten to break up with him
2007-01-21 15:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by maiya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had this happen to me but my friend was upfront about her feelings. If you guys are truely friends you need to flat out ask her and tell her to be honest, friends can work this out.
2007-01-21 15:08:06 · answer #9 · answered by sherree24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax let your guard and enjoy. There is nothing you can do if something happens. It is out of your hands.
2007-01-21 15:05:32 · answer #10 · answered by george 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋