My friend in big danger...please help!?

Question

I know this girl for my whole life and recently she started acting difrent.
She looked thiner,was very tired all the time.I had a talk with her.
She told me that a guy sold her some pills and that all the cool girls are now taking them.
After a while I figured out that its some kind of drug.
My friend started stealing just to get money for the pills.
Soon she stared using more serius stuff,I saw kneedle marks on her hands.I tried to stop her, but I cant ask my parents for help(thats a other problem...)
I cant ask her parents for help becouse she is a orphan and never talks to her foster parents.
I think this might be getting serius,Its happening for over a moth now,and she looks worse.Shes only 14

She has problems with her foster parents...their beating her up.I have the same problem with my parents,thats why we are friends.But she doesnt want to talk to me and shes skipping school so I dont even see her any more.
I only know their hanging out at some kind of disco,but Im afraid to go there!

But she has no friends at all!
The only "adult friends" she has are the ones who got her into this in the first place!!!!

Answer 1

I feel so sad that she's a foster child and feels no love at home. That's probally why she's doing drugs. She's probally had such a hard life that this is the way she deals with it. I would try to talk with her and get her involved with my friends as much as possible.

Since your parent's are beating you up, it sounds like you may need help to. If you tell a school counselor or another adult your parent's will not know it's you who told. Sound's like the two of you have been dealt some tough hands. Try keeping her in your life and just listen, sometime's that's what people need. You need to tell the school counselor, she can keep your identity hidden. Or you could just leave a note for the counselor (disguise your handwriting in-case she shows it to your friend). It's hard to tell on her, but you might be saving her from a worse fate, aid's, drug overdose, etc. She needs new foster parents asap, that change might solve her problems.

Your a good friend, try to be there for her, even if it means lying about the fact you snitched on her. Get help for yourself at the same time.

Answer 2

If you can't talk to your parents or her foster parents, then talk to a school counselor, a teacher, a principal, any adult at school. By law, school officials are mandatory reporters, which means that they have to report situations to the proper authorities if they suspect a child is being harmed in any way. If the school contacts Child Protective Services, then someone can go to your friend's home or meet with her at school and see for themself how she is doing. Things are kept confidential, so your friend would not know it was you who reported her. If she is losing weight and looking as bad as you say, then it's possible that others are noticing it also, so your friend has no way of knowing if it was you who told or someone else. If she confronts you about it, just try to be supportive without letting her think you told anyone about her. This way, you can still keep her trust and still be in a position of helping her. Just know that you are doing the right thing by seeking help. Trust me, if you tell a school counselor or principal about this, they will want to help. If that is not possible, then you can also contact the police and tell them what you said in this column. You can ask for your name to be kept confidential, so that she doesn't find out. If some guy is selling her drugs, then your friend can assume that someone reported him and that the police are looking into anyone he might have sold drugs to. She won't necessarily think you had anything to do with this. Realize that if the police get involved, your friend might be arrested, but also realize that if that happens, then the court will likely order your friend to participate in a drug treatment program which can save her life. While I know you wouldn't want your friend to be arrested, a worse outcome would be for her to die from a drug overdose. If you go to church, you could tell a youth pastor or leader. If your friend is in sports, you could tell her coach. Just find an adult you can trust and tell them as soon as possible. You have a good reason to be worried. Your friend is doing a very dangerous thing and she needs help. She is lucky to have a friend such as you, who cares about her so much.

Answer 3

That is a very terrible situation to be in. You're right, your friend seriously needs help. Unfortunately she has to want to be helped. Probably your only option is her foster parents or her social worker if she has one. They may be able to get her some assistance. Even if her relationship with them isn't very good they are responsible for her and have a duty to do something.

One of the most tradgic things about drug addiction though is that the addict must accept they have a problem and want to resolve it before anything else can happen and even then it's a tough road. You can't make choices for your friend, you can only do what you can to help her. I'm glad that you see how serious this situation is and aren't tempted to join "the cool girls" in this extremely destructive habit.

the best of luck to you and your friend.

Answer 4

Crap, I am sorry to hear to about that. This is one of those really ruff life lessons. In this you need to contact someone with authority over her. She needs serious help if this is whats going on. She most likely has mental addictions and thinks she needs them. Therapy and rehabilitation are needed for her, but she needs to want help first. Without any motivation within herself she cant make any progress. In this it will be important for you to be there for her and do what what is right, not what seems kind or easy. She is going to need lots of emotional support because she is going to hit the wall someday. Try to help her as much as you can, by seeking professional help, and just being a friend that sticks by her. However you must keep track of yourself as well, and if she starts bringing you into it as well, you may have to loose a good friend. You should never sacrifice yourself in a situation like this, it will only result in two people now needing help. Use your head, follow your heart, do whats right, and stay strong.

Answer 5

#1YOU have got to do something!!! SHE IS GOING TO DIE!

#2 YOU HAVE TO TELL HER PARENTS OR FOSTER PARENTS!!! She really needs help! She is crying out for help!! Have you talked to her to see why is doing drugs????

#3 As her friend be there for her and try and get her some help.Its strange that her foster parents don't notice her behavior or change in appearance. If she doesn't want to get taken away from her foster parents then she needs to get some help. Maybe you should tell your parents and then together you and your parents can tell the foster parents.

#3 Pray for your friend!!! Try and talk to a counselor at your school if you really cant talk to her parents or your parents. Or if you go to church try to talk to the pastor he would no someone or some organization that could help her. SOMEONE can get her some help/treatment.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

If you can't stop her then you need to get help from your parents or hers or someone in the school, because it is going to get worst and then she might not see 15.... Another option that you can do is go to someone that can take you and her to a real morgue and see all the young girls like you and her that did not make it of doing drugs. That will really change her mind after that.

Answer 8

Sounds as though she is on drugs and if she has needle marks more than likely she is on heroine of some kind. She clearly is not eating and only wants to get high on drugs and hates to come down from the high. All she wants is to be high and she is addicted to whatever drug she is on. She doesn't care how she obtains the money to get the drug and nothing else matters to her except getting the drug and getting high. She needs to go to a place where they can treat her and get her off the drug. If she doesn't she will probably not see 15.

Answer 9

PLEASE you can go to your parents you can go to your school guidence counsoler you can go to a teacher you can go to a neighbor. Go to anyone please. Think about it this is her life your jugling with so think, what your parents will think about your friend or not having this friend around at all. This girl see's this as being right and nothings wrong with the way shes dealing with her life but you should knoe better to help this girl because this is her in her time of need. Her other friends dont see it as being right to because they are doing it so if you can help her your also helping the others too. But if something does happen dont think of it as your fault because you have nothing to do with this girl besides being her friend and remember "friends are alwaysz there for each other so be there 4 her!"

Answer 10

I think first you should go to local council or something and ask em to take your friend to hospital or school for drug addicts as soon as you can and secondly call the police and tell em about the guy who gave her drugs and if you will not do that please tell someone else to that for you because the guy will not stop and will continue and harm other young girls and guys like your friend.

Also you may talk to your friend even though I don't think she will listen to you, hope she does.

Take care