We go out as a couple looking for other couples or a bi-femme, but for some reason people who are in the same lifestyle just look, stare, smile, wave and flirt a bit with us but, they don't talk to us or come sit with us. They always tell others we are a good looking couple and that they would like to get to know us better. We are in no way stuck on ourselves nor do we think we are better looking than anyone. We are very friendly and we are easy to talk to. It just seems that people are intimidated or afraid that we will not like them or something about them. Could this be possible?
2007-01-21 06:12:10 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I did forget to mention we are shy, and we do sometimes get the courage to approach others but still it seems as if they like us but in the same are fearing our rejection.
2007-01-21 06:25:00 · update #1
Nope don't believe its got anything to do with being too good looking, perhaps its because you have put too much belief in the fact that looks are really that important, it is possible to be beautiful on the outside and the inside, however, believing that good looks elevate you above others in anyway makes you a little ugly in my eyes, I wouldn't want to know you, you seem vacuous and boring to me. and remember Beauty is in the eye of the beholder therefore to some you wouldn't be "too good looking" consequently it stands to reason that its done to you personality and karma
2007-01-21 06:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by mia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying you have no friends at all, just because you are a good-looking couple? That doesn't make much sense to me. If you're friendly to people, they should respond in kind. But perhaps you're only imagining things. If you do have some friends who are not swayed by your looks, why not ask them if they can come up with any ideas as to why you are lacking in friendships. What they tell you might shed some light on the situation. You could be in for a big surprise. It could be something that has nothing to do with how you look on the outside. Sometimes you have to make the first moves. When other people pay attention to you, invite them to come and sit with you, or strike up a conversation. Maybe they are just shy, and you need to assure them that you won't bite. Good luck!
2007-01-21 14:23:54 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that thinking you will be less receptive to them because you are attractive is a possibility or that you might be stuck on yourselves. Also the idea of a spouse comparing traits with you might be frightening. There is also the possibility that many see you as "players" or just out to flaunt yourselves. There are lots of possibilities.
I would say that if it's a problem for you, you two should perhaps be the ones to make the first move since you have the physical advantage.
2007-01-21 14:20:56 · answer #3 · answered by Brian W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be you are a good looking couple so you must complement your good looks with good ways of treating others and making them feel at ease in your presence. You can complement them back and not accept their complement as it is your own credit, you can say that if you have any good is because God is very kind to you. People would like you even more if you take a humble position. Also find something nice about others and say it.
2007-01-21 14:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by edcaimo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes,,,it is.
2007-01-21 14:31:58 · answer #5 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋