MIne keeps asking what i think about it are a 3some. Has any one done this and stayed married.
2007-01-21 06:10:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was in the lifestyle, and yes my wife and I are still married. We view it as the biggest mistake we could have ever done. It almost caused us to get divorced. It caused alot of trust issues in my wife, and it took us a long time to overcome those.
My suggestion to any wives here, if your husband suggests it, tell him no, and don't back down. If your not comfortable with that idea, let him know it.
Personally my views on threesoms and swinging has changed alot. It is consentual cheating. And it's wrong. I was wrong for ever doing it.
It is possible to stay married even after leaving that lifestyle, but it takes alot of hard work & dedication on the part of both the husband and wife to get through it. Also marriage counceling helps.
After having gone through it, if I could go back and change things, I would never have ever done it.
But sometimes we have to learn from our own mistakes.
2007-01-21 06:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I swing/swap/3somes on a regular basis. It is the great. You can live out your fantasies. Your sex life can get even greater. Understand that the only way it works if you trust each other totally, have set rules (if you don't like someone he is with or he doesn't like someone you are with then you don't go there again, no being with someone unless the other know beforehand, etc.) Very open, honest communication is the only way it will work. There is nothing that we can't talk about. And we always come home at the end of the night together.
2007-01-21 07:10:44 · answer #2 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is something that should NEVER be considered unless the couple has a rock solid relationship that isn't prone to feelings of jealousy, insecurity or performance anxiety.
Anyone stupid enough to think it will "solve" a problem in a relationship is in for a rude awakening.
We've done it, had some wonderful experiences and a few that weren't so good.
Basically, you're taking chances with your relationship unless you both agree that this is a good idea.
If one partner is trying to "talk" the other into trying it, that will never work. You have to feel that you're right for it in your own mind. No one....I repeat....no one can rightly persuade you to try this if you're not ready without disastrous results.
2007-01-21 10:12:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My goodness girl what planet do you come from?
I have never been asked by husband or anyone to swap or do a threesome. I wouldn't be interested if I was asked. I like the one on one.
Married couples have had all type of sexual habits and games that they play. I know some and this is what keeps their marriages and sex life happy.
You can't ask others what they think...this is something you would have to want to do. I think you are interested but afraid your marriage may fall apart.
Sweetie if you and your hubby want to play and have fun, go for it. If your a good player he won't want to lose you.
2007-01-21 06:25:07 · answer #4 · answered by keeptrying4sure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been asked to have a 3-some. I think if he wants to bring a 3rd person into your marriage, you should tell him you would be happy to. Tell him that 3rd person will be your lawyer. It's just plain icky to bring in a 3rd party. You each married 1 person. Marriage is based on trust, and if your husband is not sexually fulfilled without someone besides you, then you have a serious trust issue you need to be worried about where he is concerned. To me, he sounds like he wants to cheat, but wants it to appear that he is adding spice to your marriage, instead of admitting to you what it is - he is turned on by other women (or men, if that is the case) and you are not enough. You deserve better than that.
2007-01-21 06:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We occasionally get involved. We had a fantastic relationship beforehand and it hasnt changed a thing. For some couples it can be a disaster. For others it can be great for you. It will not fix a bad relationship. If you are both secure, happy, open and honest it can be a lot of fun. The couples weve met have very strong relationship (as a amatter of fact some of the strongest Ive ever seen).
2007-01-21 07:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He needs to put down the porn lol,, no, none i have ever dated has ever asked me something like that, gross, and if they did i would say, hey man, this isn't working, i am not the woman for you, he can share butt juice with someone else not me. Well ss thats how i feel on that subject.
2007-01-21 06:22:10 · answer #7 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a good idea unless you both are just freaks, and do that stuff.... but like the one guy said, i imagine that it is a long way back to trust when you decide that the lifestyle isn't workin out for ya.
i have seen it a few times, and it is never good.
2007-01-21 07:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a good sign, it's a sure fire way to cause all sorts of problems. My partner will never share me with anyone, it will freak him out to have anybody touch me other then him. Don't do this, especially if you are not comfortable.
2007-01-21 06:17:08 · answer #9 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have never known it to help a marriage. Only hurt it. I was asked and I said no. I'll stick with no - forever! I don't share! Stick with what you believe in.
2007-01-21 06:34:30 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋