ok so my gf is pg im 15 shes 14( i no we r young) we live with her grandparents and she has some psycological problems(you've probably seen her questions,she got a ton of them on her old account,her name is koi) but i was wondering wat i could do to help her so shes not crying all the time.or you might have seen her grammas questions also. please what can i do. nothing seems to be working and i love her tomuch to let her die.
2007-01-21 06:05:31 · 19 answers · asked by TyreL 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
we r both still in schoola dn we live with her grandparents,(im sure u have seen her questions or her grammas questions, her name is koi,does that ring a bell?)
2007-01-21 06:19:47 · update #1
she was in a deep depression before she was pregnant, she was in a really bad situation with her parents beating her till they broke her bones and her uncle rapeing her, she had to raise her little brother since she was 11(hes 3) and being pregnant just made it worse.
2007-01-21 06:27:10 · update #2
this si her grammas post(every thing after this is the post, she added it yesterday)
2007-01-21 06:30:33 · update #3
How do i help her, i think she is going 2kill herself and soon?
2007-01-21 06:31:18 · update #4
have a 14 year old grand daughter who recently has gotten out of an abusive situation with her parents, if anything is raised above her head get gets on the ground and curls up in a little ball and begs not to be hit, she halusinates and its getting VERY dangerous, she is known for cutting herself(i dont think she is doing that anymore) but if anyone yells she gets this look on her face and its like she has just seen a ghost, she is very quiet. she has friends but when she lived in utah(moved to arizona to live with her grandfather and i) she had no friends, had been raising her little brother since he was born when she was 11, she was constantly being beaten at school, she writes in a journal and she had been writing in and one day i was putting some of her cothes in her room and she had left the journal on her bed and it was wide open,she had been going to a therapist but refuses to speak to her, and they told us to just look at what ever she writes every so often,so i did and.....
2007-01-21 06:31:56 · update #5
so then i looked at the history on her computer she had a list OF 101 WAYS TO KILL YOUR SELF. i cant get her to speak to her teropist, the shawmens, and when i ask her about it she says it is nothing and today she told us she was pregnant(please dont comment on this that is a different subject)should i have her put in a mental hospital?
the journal entry, she was talking about how she wish she would sleep and not wake up and had a list of haw to do tat, so i took all the pills and put them in my bath room (which is always locked) she could talk to her boyfriend but he is so far away, we r in arizona and he is in michigan.
2007-01-21 06:32:23 · update #6
IM STAYING WITH THEM NOW
2007-01-21 06:32:49 · update #7
ive been keepign in touch wiht her.. trying to make her feel better about things. but i knwo thats a hard thing to do being a stranger to her on the internet. the only thing you can really do is comfort her as best as you can.. maybe go out and buy her some flowers and candies to make her feel a little bit better. im glad the grandparents are letting you stay though.. you can always email me at mashley0624@yahoo.com like always i wish you botht he best of luck and things can only get better from hre. this will be tha hardest thign she will have to do in life right now so things can only get better from here on.. good luck
-morgan
2007-01-21 06:38:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you poor babies. This could break your heart! She's a kid, that's why she's crying. I'd be crying, too. She needs help, maybe her doctor and her grandmother could help her. Youj're in too deep, way too deep, and this is hard for adults to cope with, never mind a pair of teenagers. I wish I could reach out and help you.
Comfort her,tell her you love her and it will all be okay. Listen to the grandmother - I don't know what questions she's been asking or talking about.
But please get an education so that if you decide to keep the baby, there's light at the end of the tunnel. You're going to have tg grow up fast. You seem very mature, well done. I wish you all the best.
2007-01-21 06:24:53 · answer #2 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well wow 14 is pretty young to be pregnant and crying is normal. I guess shes a little depressed and confused. I say you go get her some help in a clinic. She needs you and her family more than anything. A baby changes everything and if your not ready for it you should see different options, like adoption.If you want to keep the baby then you should do your best to do what ever it takes to give that unborn child a bright future starting from now..Good Luck!
2007-01-21 06:22:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to be seeing a professional, it is offered free by many public health offices.
I am now 37 and that may seem old to you, but I suffered from severe depression and major mental illnesses from the time I was in my early teens. I still am on medication, but with a lot of work I am doing wonderful. I tell you this because I know it is very tough, and being pregnant is even tougher.
I got married a couple of years ago and now have an 11 month old baby. It was very frightening to have him, because I had to go off of a long long list of psych medications(I did stay on Zoloft, which was safe for the baby). He is very healthy.
So, PLEASE get her some sort of help, if she needs to send time in hospital to survive the pregnancy, then so be it. People stigmatize mental illness. I went through hell, but now I am so happy. My baby's blue eyes brings such joy to my face!
Please try to get her help!
2007-01-21 06:17:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs help asap, but it doesn't seem that therapists or psychologists are helping. My advice is demonstrate that you love her and will always be there. Also remind her how special she is to all of you in her home. She needs to find her value and self-worth, unfortunately you can't give that to her, but you can help her boost her confidence. As for the pregnancy remind her that you will support her and the baby when it's born. Even try taking her to church once in a while and pray for and with her when you have a chance. I wish you the very best!
2007-01-21 06:42:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay yes you guys are both too young, but it is times like this when you need to grow up and get her help now being she is 14, or you just might loose her. She needs to go to a doctor so she can talk with someone who is neutral in the matter, maybe even go with you and her grandma, like a family psychologist.
2007-01-21 06:17:10 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor sweeties. Please think about getting counseling. Not only does she need it, you do too. You both could get counseling for the emotional problems, financial help, pregnancy and child care help, and a multitude of problems. Many counselors with Human Services do so on a sliding scale or you may be able to obtain financial help for counseling.
If you aren't going to school or working for your GED, please reconsider. A child brings a life time of commitment and care, it takes a lot of money for this, besides what you two will need. You will need a diploma in order to get a good job. At least, get your GED so you can go to a trade school.
Good luck, my heart goes out to you.
2007-01-21 06:14:49 · answer #7 · answered by Nepetarias 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's seeing a therapist which is good. However is she refuses to speek to the terapist, there really isn't anything that the therapist could do. Be there for your g/f. Let her know that she is very important to you. Make sure she knows that she is important to her grandparents also. Maybe a peer councelor could help. Hope everything works out!!
2007-01-21 07:30:08 · answer #8 · answered by crodriguez1010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put the kid up for adption. Or stick her in a mental hospital to take care of her psychological problems because it's not good for the baby.
2007-01-21 07:06:55 · answer #9 · answered by robedzombiesoul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, That's awesome!
Just imagine you have a son who's 15 years younger than you.. You can be friends when he grows up!
Tell your girlfriend the same thing, make her imagine having a daughter and a friend at the same time...
2007-01-21 07:20:10 · answer #10 · answered by SPECTACULAR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋