How would you feel if you knew that your man went to a strip club once in awhile?

Question

And that includes knowing that he spends money on strippers who give up close views of the goods and lap dances where the purpose is to get stimulated from the grinding?

But BabeHeart, men do touch or are at least touched and some spend enough money that what happens in the back rooms stays in the back rooms!

Answer 1

Anyone who thinks that strip clubs are "harmless" is naive to be so ignorant of the hundreds of thousands of relationships destroyed by cheating spouses who fed their desires at places like this.
My brother and his ex-wife were very "politically correct", and "open" about things like this. He went to strip bars to get off while she was pregnant, and had an extensive porn collection. They both justified it by saying that "Men have needs and desires". Well, they have since gone through a painful divorce, leaving a little boy fatherless--apparently my brother is neither a good husband, or a good father...

There is no excuse for a man to frequent a place like that. And it's not about having trust for your spouse, either. I trust my husband implicitly--but that trust would be splintered if he chose to visit a strip club. The problem would not be that I did not trust him in the first place, it would be that he chose to do something that he knew would hurt me and damage my trust in him.

It is ridiculous and saddening to me to see the depths to which our society has fallen, that anyone in a committed relationship would feel the need or desire to get satisfaction from someone other than their partner--and worse, that their partner would feel nothing wrong with it!

Answer 2

Thats the thing about relationships. There are things we will accept and things that we won't. In a relationship you will be always willing and dealing. Thats just the nature of the beast. So, you are in your right to feel the way you feel. By the same token he has his right to feel the way he feels too. Some a compromise must be made. I think is every mens dream being able to go to the club and get a lap dance 9among other things) from any woman then be able to come home and have a nice warm dinner ready for. Hey we can dream rigth. it cost nothing to dream. By the same token no woman likes this. Most often than not the men just quits going to the club. Simply put is either that or the girl leaves. Some man don't care but most do. Plus as we get older we get busier and going to the club cost a lot of money. I think this might become a bigger issue later on. If you feel uncomfortable with it then talk about it. Communicate your wants and needs and see what his response is. Try to get to a compromise. If no reasonable compromise can be reached then maybe this is not the relationship for you. Key word here is reasonable.

Answer 3

I went with him a couple of times. But to be honest with you, it's not a big deal and for the dancers it's just a job. The money could be a concern, because it can get very pricey. It does get boring after a while, but men like it and if it's not happening on a weekly basis you have nothing to worry about.

Answer 4

My husband's friend's at work have been known to sneak off to a strip club without their wives knowing. They kinda gave him down the road for not going with him. He didn't really care, but said he would like to go with them sometime.
I told him to go. It took many, many months, but one Saturday night he went with a guy from work. I went out w/ my friends and we met up at 11:00. He didn't stay there all night and since I oversee the money, I knew he didn't blow a lot there.
He doesn't get ridden about it by his buddies anymore, and I love the fact that he's willing to be honest about going and respect my boundaries.
But I couldn't have let him go if I didn't trust him 100%.

Answer 5

If he has always gone then there really is not much to be done...you cannot change a person and should not want to. Trust as long as there is no reason to. Men look just as women do....there is no harm in looking...just don't take it any further.
If "your man" has not done anything wrong, other than looking and tipping then don't get nuts over it.

Answer 6

Hey, you are King of the Hill, who would dare to stop you from going to a strip club. It's understandable, every King has his own needs beside Queen Peggy is getting little saggy...don't you think so, King Hill.

Answer 7

I wouldn't mind. Have you ever been to watch male strippers? Women do so much more than men to the strippers. I have gone to a strip club to see what the fascination was about. I almost fell asleep.

Answer 8

I would be upset. Talk to him if it bugs you ask him not to go and if he chooses to go instead of be with you then maybe find a man who isn't into strip clubs. Allot of nasty stuff happens in strip clubs......be careful

Answer 9

Well, I would be devastated and hurt. That's still cheating, whether or not intercourse or kissing takes place. If a man is allowing a woman to display her goods in his face, and he is not trying to get away, then he is participating, and that is still cheating. I would find a couple female friends and go find a male strip bar and partake yourself. Then see how your husband likes thinking about you being turned on by naked men gyrating in front of you!

Answer 10

I think its harmless unless you and your husband have no trust for each other.

Its a spot for guys to go, blow off some steam, and see a female move, dance, etc etc. Get to see stuff that cant be seen at home.

I have never in my life heard of any wife that will do that stuff for their man at home. I keep hearing women say that they will, but do they?

Does anyone know of a women that can perform and does perform like that at home? i must say, it would be awesome but a blast of reality wipes that awesome thought from my mind.