I miscarried about 6-7 months ago at 7wks pregnant and have just now found out I am 4 weeks pregnant. I am?

Question

having trouble thinking positive about this pregnancy. I am worried that the same thing will happen again and I am not even allowing myself to become too excited, I do not even want to tell my significant other. How can I get past this??

Answer 1

just keep your head on you and think about the baby you are growing

Answer 2

My heart goes out to you. I miscarried triplets at 15 weeks last December....There truly aren't any words to offer that will make your anxiety and worry go away...but I will tell you that what you are feeling is completely normal and that most women do go on to have successful pregnancies after a miscarriage. I know that you are scared and worried, but you need to do the best that you can to try and relax and enjoy your pregnancy. I too felt the same way when I found out that I was pregnant again just 3 months after my miscarriage. I was terrified. When that positive line came up on the pregnancy test...I cried. Part of it was happiness, but more than anything, I was scared. I told my husband immediately and you should do the same. I needed his support and I really felt better knowing that I had someone to talk to..and someone that understood my fears. I am VERY HAPPY to say that I now have an absolutley healthy, happy and beautiful baby girl that was born just 17 days ago. The pain of the miscarriage will never go away...but it does lessen. I used to think about it every single day but now I just look into my daughters big blue eyes, and all of the pain just goes away. I waited a very long time for her, but she was worth it! The only regret that I have is that I let those first few months go by and didn't take the time to enjoy my pregnancy in fear that it would end abruptly.
I wish you all of the luck in the world and CONGRATULATIONS on your pregnancy!

Answer 3

I can appreciate where you are ... I've had several miscarraiges and a stillbirth... but I also have two wonderful children, and am pregnant again. I actually did not plan on having any more kids, so this current pregnancy was a real shocker for me, and took me until the point I am at now (21 weeks along) to really start to feel the excitement of becomming a mom again. After my stillbirth, it took me even longer to get excited... I lost her at 29 weeks... so I didn't even start to really get past this point (like where you're at now) until AFTER I made it past the 29 week mark... but even then I was scared until she was here safely in my arms. I can say, take it ONE day at a time... one week at a time... every week is another milestone past a possible miscarriage. You should tell the baby's father and be sure to see a doctor however, because even though you're not excited right this moment, you will be at some point thrilled to have that little one in your arms... and you will want to know that he/she was taken care of well. Form a support group... or join one... I'd be happy to chat with you more on my message board and help you through this... one day/week at a time with other ladies too!

Answer 4

First thing to do is try hard not to obsess or worry, because it will do no good! Years ago, I miscarried my 2nd pregnancy when I was in my 5th month (talk about devastating!!). It was a horribly depressing experience. I got pregnant a little over 2 years later and was going through the same emotions you are now. But I got through it and a little over 3 yrs. after that miscarriage, I gave birth to my daughter. All you can do is eat right, take good physical/mental care of yourself, and be positive. Of course, no smoking, drinking, drugs. Do all you can do and leave the rest to whatever you believe in (God, your higher power, whatever).

Answer 5

I really can empathize with you. I lost my first pregnancy at 5 mos. and then had two miscarriages. One at 8 weeks and one at 12 weeks. Obviously with my first I told all of my family and friends and they were very supportive about helping me through my loss, especially my Mother. I think you should tell your significant other because it is good to have the support of the ones you love through these difficult times. I am trying again this year and have debated telling my family right away. After thinking things through I have decided to let them know. A true friend and "significant" other can be very supportive to you. Good Luck and I hope everything goes well for you. I will keep you in my thoughts.

Answer 6

I cant bare the thought of loosing a child, I have an 18moth old now.. but if you are worried seek some counseling, some one you can talk to all the time who would have advice. as well talk to your doctor because depending on what caused the last miscarriage this could be a high risk pregnancy right?

Answer 7

I misscarried at 3and1/2 months, I got pregnant the very next month and today I have a great 9 year old son , so just be positive think good thoughs and be happy, good luck .

Answer 8

my sister had 7 miscarriages. she did'nt allow her self to either. she found out she had low progestren levels and that is what caused it she now has two little ones. One is only two months old. She was scared both times. As for your husband he deserves to know, cause he may get mad if you have a miscarriage and knew you was pregnant. I would talk to him and let him help you through this. Good luck and all will work out. Take care of yourself.

Answer 9

It is your own decision to tell your significant other, albeit a difficult one. Do you know why you might have miscarried last time? If you really do want to have the baby, though, it shouldn't be too difficult to tell your significant other, assuming that he is the one who impregnated you.

Answer 10

tell people close to you. you can get support from them. if you have another miscariage then the people around you can help support you and help you through this