i have two seperate bestfriends who i love sooo much!! problem is i can never hang out with both of them at the same time because they hate eachother...im getting sick of feeling guilty when i use a saturday night to hang out with one but not the other and one of my friends interrogating me when i hang out with her nemesis...what do i do!?!?! they will not sit down and talk or anything like that!! =[ im lost....
2007-01-21 05:25:39 · 10 answers · asked by lover. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i have the exact same problem! so it's nice to know im not the only one. if one of them trash talks the other, make it clear that thats not okay & say something like..."i love you both the same. i hate that you don't like her but i can't change your opinion or think for you. you an amazing friend but so is she." for me they still won't hang out or anything together but at least they have stopped trashing each other. good luck!
2007-01-21 05:34:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously tell them to work this out or you'll stop hanging out with both of them! Just see what that does. It's not fair that you have to be in the middle of such childness actions like this. There's really no easy solution here. You need to figure out if you want to continue to go through this everytime you hang out with one or the other, or neither. you obviously don't like the feeling you get from what they do. Maybe take a break from both to clear your own mind. The answer you're looking for just may come to you then.
2007-01-21 05:32:54 · answer #2 · answered by engineer46526 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is an icky situation. I have been in it before though. This is what i did. I told both of them that i refused to talk or gossip about the other because i didnt want to betray the other. I told them that they were both my friend and i wanted to keep it that way. If they did not want to be friends..i can deal with that...but i dont want it to cause problems between me and them. I shared my time between them but was honest with them about being with them. Dont lie and not tell them you are not spending time with the other because then they will call you a betrayer. As long as your open and honest...it cant go wrong.
2007-01-21 05:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG.... I catuallt have the same problom!!...2 of my bestest friends rele don't like each other and yeaa, somtimes i do feel guilty when i hang out with one of them instead of the other...and when i'm hanging out with one of them the other one gets mad at me and i don't know what dto do .....i just go CRAZY!!
but ne wayzzz...mabbee you should ask them why they don't like one another and if they won't sit down and talk it over then have them write it down on a piece of paper, talk on the phone!! and if they don't think it's a good idea then you translate for them!!
and if ALL of that dosn't work and at the end they still hate each other then just try to scedule dates for you and them to hang out on seperate days....
and if all of that dosn't work...{{and there truly ur best friend}}....then they will understand that even if they can't stand ur other best friend...they will still love you...be-cuz ur YOU!!
good luck!!!!!!
2007-01-21 05:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever the situation is between your best friends, they need to work it out, and figure out what they want to do, either stay friends or split, you can't always help them when they are having problems, you can be there to give them advice. If they need to and ask you for your advice it is however best for them to use the advice at their disposal. It is hard to draw a line when it comes to friends fighting, but when you don't want to be in it then you have to be able to tell your friends, they need to work things out then that is what they need to do before asking you for help.
2007-01-21 06:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself out of the middle of this squabble. Tell each person that you are not a referee or a spy, and that you are friends with both, and will be spending time with both, and they just need to deal with it.
2007-01-21 05:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by Omni D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be very blunt with them. Sit their asses down and tell them they are being very selfish to you . Tell them that they need to talk things over and make it right . If they can not or will not change their negative ways you need to find a new circle of friends to spend time with.
2007-01-21 05:49:43 · answer #7 · answered by LadyRazz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to put both through a grueling test of wit and physical ability, and the winner will be your true best friend.
2007-01-21 05:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
idk i had the same problem and i have to always sit their and hear them tlak about eachother
2007-01-21 05:31:10 · answer #9 · answered by carebear_destroyer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-01-21 05:29:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋