My wife and I have been married for a few years now, and we have a great sex life, I have always been more than willing to share my secret sexual desires and ideas with her, and she's never had a problem with any of them, but every time I try to get her to open up to me and tell me what her fantasies are or what she desires that I'm not covering in the bedroom, she swears that she doesn't have any, I don't understand, everyone has some kind of fantasy don't they? I just want to make sure I can give her everything she wants, but I can't do that if she doesn't tell me what it is. What does this mean? How can I get her to open up to me about it?
2007-01-21 05:21:33 · 13 answers · asked by Slim 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would believe her if I was you...
2007-01-21 05:25:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude...perhaps you are taking care of all and everything she ever wanted sexual. Stop making problems where there isnt one and be greatful. I think its cool that you let her know that you are open and willing to fulfill her fantasies; but dont push her into telling you something that does NOT exist for her. Due to your openness...if and when she has a fantasy....I'm sure she will share it with you.
2007-01-21 13:27:05 · answer #2 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Been happily married 16 yrs and my hubby is like your wife of course like every other man he loves sex but doesnt seem comfortable starting a conversation about sex or talking about it(BUT HE WILL IF I BRING IT UP)weird for a man i know..He says he has no fantasies maybe he does maybe he doesnt i dont know but i dont push the subject.
2007-01-21 15:49:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might feel uncomfortable talking 2 you face to face some women find it hard to let go of inhabitions so talk to her and say y dont both of you write some things down on some paper for use to do in the bedroom,and what ever she suggests make her feel comfortable dont dismiss her idea's (she might be nervous),or she might just not have any my only one was to do it outside done that dont have any more now.xx
2007-01-21 13:28:14 · answer #4 · answered by deliciousde 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe everyone has a secret sexual fantasy. Some women may be embarrassed to share it with their boyfriend or husband because they may feel foolish. I share mine with my husband and it is wonderful.
2007-01-21 13:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by Hazeleyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's embarassed to share it with you. That or maybe her secret sexual desire she feels might offend you and that's why she doesn't want to tell you.
2007-01-21 13:36:05 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has secret desires, maybe hers are with someone else and she does not want to hurt you.
2007-01-21 13:35:29 · answer #7 · answered by picture 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, sure. My fantasy is finding a healthy, happy, well adjusted female partner to share my life with. Kinky, huh?
2007-01-21 13:26:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
SHe isn't comfortable talking about it...she has them though. I was married for 13 years and never told him a thing.
2007-01-21 14:16:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she really don't have a secret fantasy . don't keep pushing drop it
2007-01-21 13:29:10 · answer #10 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If her fantasy is to be with Tom Cruise, How fast can you get him there:)
2007-01-21 13:26:37 · answer #11 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋