I just met this girl and she is getting in all sorts of trouble with her parents and school,
She started to drink when she was thirteen.
I'm 17 and havnt done any type of drug, including alcohol, and I'm trying to tell her that she is headign into a bad area of her life.
i've told her stories about other people i know who dirnk and how that has effected her life, she wants to quit, but she says she cant
2007-01-21 05:20:17 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You just have to be there for her, and reassure her that it will all work out. Leading by example is a great way to show others that you do not need artifical fixes to be happy. Let her know that she can quit and that you are willing to help anyway you can. I am glad that you are concerned about you friend. It is good to see people looking out for each other. Keep it up and it will all work out for the best. Remeber, she IS only 14 so she has a lot of time to change her ways. Good Luck!
2007-01-21 05:25:44 · answer #1 · answered by none 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talking may not be enough. If she seriously cannot stop she needs professional help. Make some calls. Convince her that it's either life or death. Obviously, only she can choose that for herself when it comes to consuming alcohol at her young age. I buried my friend's teenage daughter and it started with underage drinking. I can only say it's too common and extremely sad! If she says she cannot stop, maybe she wants to. Support her and take her by the hand and head for rehab. She deserves a chance. What a great friend you are and so caring! You can only try! You're a blessing to her!
2007-01-21 05:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she really wanted to she would go to AA they have meetings all the time and everywhere, where does she get the booze? why do not her parents take her to school, pick her up, and she stays at home and does not leave unless one of the parents goes with her. this is what being a parent is all about, they need to do the work and force her to quit there is just so much you can do sorry my friend.
2007-01-21 05:27:01 · answer #3 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her that if she tries to quit you will be there to back her up and also tell her to go to AA meetings because she is an alcoholic. besides the point she is only fourteen and can ruin her life by delving into the bottle. i know i can talk about this because one of the kids that i used to live near got put in rehab by dhs because he had a problem with marijana and zanex. he will be in rehab for the next 2 years also tell this young lady that she could end up in juvenile detention for the next few years. if you have any questions for me personally email me.
2007-01-21 05:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by slipknot1012003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what really sucks about this, is. It is so hard to make someone understand they are going down the wrong path. Unfortunately we're all human, and we all want to see for ourselves the outcome of things. Chances are, you won't get her to stop. She will need to find out on her own.
Now don't get me wrong. I don't mean leave her alone either. The best you can do is continue to stress the fact that it isn't going to be good. but the biggest thing is to be there for her no matter what! without telling her, "I told you so". I wish it were easier to convince someone to stop doing something you know is wrong. Basically, she is going to want to stop herself before anyone can help her.
2007-01-21 05:25:58 · answer #5 · answered by engineer46526 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
short and sweet- no, no ,no- you cant convince her to quit. addictions are very hard to overcome, and even harder to treat- even by those who are professionals. its like saying"i know my friend has a brain tumor. how do i convince her that she has one and that i need to operate on her. how hard can it be? ok- bad analogy, but i hope you get the point.she needs help from people who know how to handle these things. but- you are a great friend, especally since you just met her. it would help her alot if you stand by her ,because it wont be easy. she might go through some personality changes, many which are not pleasant. best wishes
2007-01-21 07:13:19 · answer #6 · answered by DEBI M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your staggering subject must be why he's doing it... no longer that your funds is getting wasted. end bringing alcohol abode, and end going out to golf equipment. sounds like your youngster is SCREAMING for interest! Clubbing and eating is for little ones who don't have little ones! I propose specially situations, going to the club is large. yet you're making it sound notably familiar. Be a mom. Be the main suitable mom you will possibly be! meaning you are going to ought to attempt tougher. i'm sorry to be so harsh, yet it is the only answer I see. little ones learn out of your strikes, and properly, your son particular is exhibiting what he's located out.
2016-10-07 12:20:17 · answer #7 · answered by milak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs professional help. She must stop sooner thatn leter, b.c your right, she is totally heading in the wrong direction. Tell her how much you care for her and that you have to tell someone about her problem. Tell an adult.
Good Luck and my prayers are with you and your friend.
2007-01-21 05:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by LionessB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay here's the thing -
You can't change anyone.
If your friend wants to quit drinking she can call Alcoholics Anonymous. They will take it from there.
You might think that sounds cold, but anyone with an addiction has to break it themselves. There really is nothing you can do.
2007-01-21 05:25:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes you can just tell her that you will tell the police or something like that but if she cant stop then just ask a doctor that you have a friend and she is drinking and just ask if he has anything to help.
2007-01-21 05:24:16 · answer #10 · answered by nicole p 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋