it not work out, but want to get back with the person you but never tell him/her? Why not? Did you feel you hurt that person to much? Did it end badly? Was it Pride? My ex left me,we exchanged hurtful words.,we never did before. He left me to be with another girl, one night stand he got pregant,this all happened before we met, but he wanted to be a part of the childs like, and i told him he should,but i never thought he would go back with the mom,someone he didn't respect, the reason he didn't stay with her to begin with. But, now they are not together shockingly. But most of the times the person comes back,yet he never did. I dont want him back because he hurt me so bad, but in a way,it would have been nice to know he was sorry or he regretted it...maybe he is not. I don't know,thats why I am asking the opinions of others. We were together for almost 2 yrs. He was w/ her for 3 months. We are 29. He knows I told my family and I had to seek therapy bc of all this. Maybe he's ashamed?
2007-01-21 04:43:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, i have regretted it. You say and do things that are hurtful. After awhile or in time i came to realize how much of a shitbird i was.. But i always feel you can never take words back once said. And i was hugely ashamed of my actions and how i made my lady feel. To this day i cannot say sorry, because to me sorry isn't enough and never will be. Yes eventually guys do realize their actions and feel ashamed of what they did. We feel that even if she took us back it would never be like the love and feelings we had before wwwe abused her.. And as for me i just can't bear to look her in her eyes becaiuse of what i did. I realized too late, how truly special she was and that i do love her. good luck.
2007-01-21 04:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love has a lot to do with getting back together. Some use the excuse as what was said and done during the break up that is keeping them apart while others say if he/she wanted to get back together they would call...in truth, the love is no longer there or at least not enough to get back together and in the end when all was said and done there is no reason to go back. I, as many others if honest, will say we have said and done some things to our Ex's that we would like to take back after the fact but leaving well enough alone is the best way to handle it today. If I were you I'd just count my blessings that it ended when it did and not after the 2 of you had children or marriage because for him to leave you to begin with, child or not, he was not as committed to you as you thought he was.
2007-01-21 05:01:36 · answer #2 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex cheated. She did have a good friend ask me if I was open to getting back together. While I did love her, I wouldn't even consider getting back with her, due to the things she'd done when we were together, as well as things she did while we were separated. We still live in the same small town, and even after 15 years, I can't even see her in a store, without feeling a personal sense of failure. Not for the loss of my first marriage, but for my allowing her to stay alive. I couldn't and can't kill her, because she is the mother of my children.
2007-01-21 05:04:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard that.. if your having problems.. 3-5 yrs down the road.. things will clear up.. Lot's of people leave for the wrong reasons and regret their decisions later. My exwife left after 12 years of marriage when we were in our early 30's. It reallly affected our sons. To this day they have issues with her.. I remarried and have been happily married for 15 years now. The exwife walked up to my current wife at one of our sons weddings and told her she still loved me.. Water under the bridge now..
2007-01-21 04:51:21 · answer #4 · answered by xjaz1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to accept that someone you love has made a mistake and forgive them. If you love him and you know this and he knows he made a mistake, take a chance and try again. You have to realize we are made in Gods likeness, and only he is perfect and we are not and move on and put it behind you. He can be part of this childs life and you have to trust him to be and still be faithful.he made a mistake let him make it up to you.
2016-05-24 05:46:11 · answer #5 · answered by Maryann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ended a relationship once, a long one, basically because I couldn't handle her really low sex drive.
With the benefit of time and hindsight, I regret not having dumped her years earlier.
2007-01-21 15:19:11 · answer #6 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, it hurts me alot to break up with somebody whom you really love and said hurtful words... but then I'm still thankful that i broke up with him... even though it hurts... because in the long run if i still stay on that relationship I'm dumb! because i know he's cheating me. what's the point of staying with the guy whose cheating you? and when you got married... he will still cheat? i can't take it! that's a good decision you've made it's for your own good! girl, 2 years is enough
2007-01-21 05:12:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes but he made his choice when he abused me then the low down basterd cheated on me he always came back hollering im sorry yeah till the next time and he would cry like a baby oh well i don't need his *** back i got my own apartment and my own computer and im doing great
2007-01-21 04:54:16 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah... I still think about all of the possibilities, but I love my SOON TO BE HUSBAND! YAY! We're getting married!
2007-01-21 05:02:15 · answer #9 · answered by →sugarwuss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Still kick myself in the @ss for it.
2007-01-21 04:46:36 · answer #10 · answered by up y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋