My long-distance boyfriend of 3 years told me last night that he's fed up to come home always to an empty flat alone and that he was wishing I was there. I thought it's sweet and told him that I miss him too,that it'd be nice if we could organise a meeting. We see each other about once a month. This morning he sent me a text that he didn't say it to be sweet and that he's fed up of having a girlfriend who's far and that it's been too long like this and he doesnt want to continue like this. I told him that I understand him but what does he want to do? He said we really need to think about it and he said not to expect always a solution from him, I also need to do something. He was looking for a job near me but could not find one. I started to be scared and asked him if he wants to end it. He got upset and told me that I always take everything as a threat instead of trying to find a solution with him and that he doesn't like that. He said to stop worry like that. We'll talk tonight.
2007-01-21 04:43:30 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
move on and forget about him
2007-01-23 10:02:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three years is an awful long time for a long distance relationship, I agree with him that you need to find a solution to your problem.
Seeing each other once a month is alright if it's for a short term period and there is light at the end of the tunnel but from what you've put this doesn't appear to be the case.
How far apart are you talking? If neither of you can relocate to where the other is why don't you both look at moving somewhere new where you can start a life together.
My man is in the army so we spend alot of time apart but that is a decision we came to together because I chose not to be an army wife.
The time we do have together is precious and this sort ogfrelationship works for us both, however in your relationship your boyfriend appears to have had enough.
Don't throw away what you've built up over the last three years, talk about it next time you see each other - it's not the sort of thing that should be discussed by text or telephone.
Good luck x
2007-01-21 04:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by Poppy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh my word!
He is obviously trying to point out that him finding a job near you didn't work so why aren't you being pro-active and trying to find a job near him? Surely if he means that much to you, it would be something worth thinking about? He is probably feeling as though all the responsibility for saving your relationship is on him? How far apart do you live? Is it not possible to find somewhere in between that you could both commute to your jobs? Don't listen to those who say there may be a third party or that he wants rid of you but isn't man enough to say it! As far as I can see he is trying his best to keep you together! Maybe he wants to see effort from your side... xx
2007-01-21 04:57:47 · answer #3 · answered by lou lou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am currently in a long distance relationship, and the one thing that my girlfriend & I established early on was that she was coming to live with me, & when that was.
It enabled us to decide before we got too far down the road whether we felt that we could make the relationship work for the period of time we were going to be apart.
Quite simply, I think you have both invested too much time in this relationship to end it, but I think when you do talk, you both have to decide when you are going to finally be together. To be honest this should of been agreed long before now anyway.
Good luck.
2007-01-21 09:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by Kingbee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he sounds quite selfish!!
just because he couldnt find a job, he has to keep trying as a job doesnt come overnight. maybe ask him to look at other jobs.
whats the prob with him moving in with you anyway?
i dont get how its aprob? why dont you move towards him?
a long distance relationship is hard but if you've tried every option then i think that you should call it a day if one aint happy.
2007-01-21 04:50:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants you to go live with him, but doesn't want to come out and say it. Why not go and stay with him for a while and maybe have a little look for a job.
2007-01-21 05:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jacquimc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
long distance relationships bring about case you won't be able to compromise. on account that he won't be able to come across a suitable job close to you, you have 2 alternatives to maintain this relationship alive: (a million) you come across a job close to him, (2) you each and every and each come across a job someplace else interior the comparable section. that's what you're able to desire to talk approximately. in case you love one yet another, you will compromise. in case you do unlike one yet another adequate, this relationship is now over.
2016-11-26 00:11:15 · answer #7 · answered by cerchia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you try living together?!
3 years is a long time to do long distance! :) so well done on that you guys must really love each other alot!
2007-01-21 05:19:05 · answer #8 · answered by Jemmax 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Brace yourself!, long distance relationships do not last. Either pack your bags and move in with him, or let it go. I think somebody else has been warming his bed...
2007-01-21 04:59:09 · answer #9 · answered by charterman 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel any probable problems are signs of future probable departing... There are almost no unavoidable problems for really loving persons...
2007-01-21 05:06:51 · answer #10 · answered by simplegirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make a decision - if you want him, go to him and stay or else finish it
2007-01-21 04:50:12 · answer #11 · answered by Hot British Guy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋