why m i so strange????

Question

m not a gurl of depression.....i m usually very gud at helping ppl.....lifting them from their problems n making them smile......i often tend to teach ppl how to smile n not bother abt wat others think bad of them.........

all my frnds tell me that m a very brave gurl since i support them everytyme on hardest things....m confident of myself n my frnds say my personality is too gr8.....

then why do i cry every night.....feel bad so much.......when i get some problems i feel all alone n I cant solve my problems......all i do is cry........

Answer 1

You aren't strange. I think you may be clinically depressed, but have found one way to almost deal with it. I have been doing something similar most of my life (I'm 48) and my Mom did it all her life.

One way of avoiding your depression is to reach out to others and help them with their problems. I think that is what you are doing. While it is a good thing to help everybody else, you should really help yourself, too!

The main reason to do this is that you can help even more people once you get your depression under control. I think you probably feel better helping someone out, right? If so, just think how much better it'll feel if YOU feel better. That's the way it worked for me.

Depression is anger turned inwards. Now, you may need help in finding out why you are depressed, or maybe you can figure it out on your own. I'd say, if you are crying at night, you probably should speak with a counselor or a trusted friend or try to get a few sessions with a professional -- social worker or psychologist -- and maybe uncover the reason for the anger.

For me, I was able to slowly figure out why I was angry by being as honest with myself as possible. It turned out that I was angry because I let people walk all over me and take advantage of my good nature. When I realized that, I became assertive, which if you don't know, means that I was able to state how I felt without being angry. Aggressive is the opposite of that. Aggressive happens when a person is not assertive, because they get "sick and tired" of people taking them for granted. The anger from this is what I turned inwards -- meaning that I was blaming myself for not standing up for myself. And I was right! So by becoming more assertive, I felt less anger: feeling less anger, I felt less depressed.

Warning: if you are still 'under age' be careful with assertive around parents and teachers. You can state your preference, but have to realize that you can't yet change some things. So if they tell you to take out the garbage, you can't just say "I won't because I hate it". You can say, for instance (I did this) -- "Is there anyway you could maybe close the garbage bags for me, since the smell makes me sick. Then I'll be happy to take the bags outside".

Hope that helps & sorry its so long!!!

Answer 2

Because negative, ill, damaged, people are very draining...

Helping everyone else all the time and not yourself is avoidence of your inner truths, fears and dreams... It is a detached and kind of cold person that can actually help another without allowing the drama to effect them on some level.

Maybe you are empathetic? Empaths often have to learn detachment as they experience everything right along with those they care for on a just as deep, if not deeper level.

Think Mr. Spock. You'll be fine as soon as you learn that to care... doesn't mean that you should take on the world.

Answer 3

Try doing something nice for yourself, stop trying to please other people, ask others for help, talk to a mentor, think positive!! You could start by changing your aviator from "crazy_ash" not a positive look at yourself. Everyone has some sort of problems, but what / how we chose to deal with them will determine the outcome.
This is probably what you've heard before; it's so true though.
Be happy as you learn more about who you are and grow from within.

Answer 4

just try to find the inner self of u..just put on more weight on the good work u hav done in d whole day..and s keep a note of every good thing u do...read and read it it will make u happy...if possible read a book "The monk who sold his ferrari" if u hav read it ,read it again.
hope this helps u...good luck

Answer 5

Learn to spell and maybe go see a doctor about these problems

Answer 6

ohh it's probably hormones - females get them all the time.....it is a phase that will pass...if things don't improve in 6 months go to a doc and get checked for biplolar disorder.....

but believe me - it will pass....

its because you've bottled up your feelings for long - you put up a differnt front and neglect your own emotional well being....

Answer 7

I'd say part of the problem is that you can't spell or type out an entire word.

Answer 8

you are not strange gurl......infact whenever someone needs help they always comes to you hoping that you will solve their problem, but whenever you need help then and come to your friend to seek help they just turn their fail......nowadays people are getting selfish, they only think of themselves ......if you think that no one helps you, don't worry try to help yourself out, and also make them realise that they are also alone without you.....

Answer 9

no one is strange. we are just all unique and ourselves. you shouldn't feel bad if you are helping others. it's a good feeling to give advice and help people and see them smile and knowing it's you who did that.

if u want to talk, email me at [e-mail] or IM me at chemicals_react2. im almost always on

Answer 10

I'm not sure if you're actually being serious, but those problems your talking about, do some meditation...