Is anyone out there living with someone else's husband? I'm curious....does it bother you that he never filed for divorce? Are you ok just being his mistress? Why would a woman settle for that?
2007-01-21 04:22:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
not living with someone elses man but there was someone living with mine, and it odviously bothered her, and everytime i would be in a conversation with him over the telephone i could tell when she entered the room, his voice would change to this monotone voice, without emotion, and everytime she would be listening he would threaten me with getting an attorney to divorce me, but once in a while he would call and sound like his old self, and never mention divorce, think it does bother them, and they do give ultamitiums and do expect the man to leave his wife. they definitly aren't stupid, and usually don't settle or wait on the man to change his mind, they immediatly give ultamitiuns, and make their demands. no i don't believe atleast the woman involved with my husband, was happy being just the mistress, and it was evidenced by her cohersing him to leave a marriage he may or may not have been ready to. mistresse's are alot smarter than we think they are. think alot of them push for him to seek divorce, and if he is into her and the affair had been going on awhile, than he may listen to her atleast how it went with me. the day we went to the attorney's to deal with normal stuff, i sat waiting on the bench outside on the sidewalk, as he approached he stood there refusing to even sit next to me as if i had some disease he was afraid of catching. on leaving the lawyers office i could see her in his truck, she had full view of the bench, and him at all times, so i do not think the mistress wants to be the mistress, and will go to any lengths to make him her's.
2007-01-21 04:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not, thank God! Many times, if you're living with someone else's husband, you do not have the same rights and priviledges as the wife. Even if he hates her, he has made no effort to divorce her; therefore, if he dies or is incapacitated, the wife has the money, the say-so, the house, etc. Many women settle for this situation because they mistakenly believe that they have a "better deal". They rationalize their behavior by thinking, "if she was so great, he wouldn't be with me. I treat him better than his wife." Only in very, VERY rare instances, is this true. For one, the wife still has the pursestrings. Two, the other woman has no rights legally. Three, the children usually hate the other woman, causing a lot of strife. Four, society takes a dim view of the other woman, so that can be a problem. Five, there is no stability. At least in marriage, if things don't work out, there is a divorce and a settlement. Living with another woman's husband...there is no stability, no permanence. Having spoken to male friends, many guys also tend to go back to the wife occasionally for sex and security. This means that in the long run, all you have is a long-term "booty call", with a man who doesn't respect you enough to divorce his wife and marry you. It just seems kind of sad and pathetic to put yourself out that way.
2007-01-21 05:37:55 · answer #2 · answered by Judy W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad to say it, but in most cases the woman living with someone else's man, probably doesn't even know the man has a wife. d:(
2007-01-21 04:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by Gary D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's not a good idea to live with a married man. It only leads to problems for everyone involved.
2007-01-21 04:41:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would never live with a man who is married. not even if they say they getting or going through a divorce. hey if cheats on his wife he will cheat on you. are there children involved. how would you feel if were the wife or child being cheated on. check your self
2007-01-21 04:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by diana j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not me, i don't like someone's left overs, i don't know why women do this, unless they can't get their own, they have to be kept, they have no concious, (this is providing that they know he's married, which i don't see how anyone couldn't tell if someone is married- possible). Hope you aren't in this situation, take care.
2007-01-21 04:31:50 · answer #6 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but I am however sleeping with someone elses girl. Whatever, it's always better to be the guy who doesn't deal with her when she gets home. Girls creep anyways, so play on players.
2007-01-21 04:28:15 · answer #7 · answered by Daniel R 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nah... I wouldn't be able to stand being his concubine. I would get irritated Way too easily. Sorry.
2007-01-21 04:39:51 · answer #8 · answered by →sugarwuss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋