Okay here we are spending quality time with family,and we go to a resturant to have bite to eat. My children are not hungry but I am. So I decided to turn to my spouse a say the kids are not hungry let's just go home,and I'll eat something there.So before I notice he boltz out of the resturant leaves us there,while he waits in the car.So he leaves me to deal with the waitress and tell we are sorry we change our minds thank goodness we did not order anything I feel like he let me down I was furious.What Do you think?
2007-01-21 04:11:05 · 23 answers · asked by sissyurban 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think his behaviour was acceptable at all. When dealing with children, it is NEVER acceptable to just leave, even if he was upset with the change of plans. He should have helped you get the kids together and then left together, as a family. I would be PISSED if my wife did something like to me and my daughter. I don't think you over-reacted at all.
2007-01-21 04:59:31 · answer #1 · answered by jscalice292 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would be easier to answer your question if you would have given more details on how the day had went, how the children were acting, and who's idea it was to go to the restaurant.
I don't think your husband just dashed out of the restaurant because you nicely said "the kids are not hungry let's just go home, and I'll eat something there."
I think reading between the lines, it was a hectic day and your husband wanted to end it and go home. You insisted on going to the restaurant and eating and he finally agreed and took you. The kids were acting up, it wasn't a pleasant situation and he was frustrated and than he left after you said what you did out of anger. Better to do that than make a scene.
No matter what the reason he left, you did have a right to be upset with him. He could have handle the situation with you.
For a married couple this is not to big of an issue. It is something you can disguise so it doesn't happen again. Nobody was hurt or put in danger.
Count your blessings that you were having quality family time. Many families today don't have that.
2007-01-21 05:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by keeptrying4sure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
more than likely you embarrassed him since you guys were already at the table and what if he was hungry too? I wouldnt be furious with him just yet. Because after taking the ride all the way to the resturant and being seated then you decide to tell him that the kids arent hungry so you will just eat at home??? Try to think about how he feels sometimes too.
2007-01-21 04:18:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop and think about this: You guys go to a restaurant, HE might have been hungry and really wanted to eat there, and he felt that since YOU were the one that decided NOT to stay there AFTER you got there, YOU should be the one to deal with the waitress. Did you ever consider that YOU let HIM down in this situation?
2007-01-21 04:20:10 · answer #4 · answered by littlevivi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm....it doesn't sound like you were the one that was overreacting! Or, maybe there was a lot of strain already going on that day between you two.
I think you all should have decided of you ALL were hungry enough to go out to eat before you did.
2007-01-21 04:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were already there. The kids could have had a shake or desert or ordered something as take out. You didn't think things through and your husband was showing his frustrations and behaving like a child.
2007-01-21 04:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably figured you were just going to follow him out of the place and not worry about it. If you'd not ordered anything yet then it's not a big deal, you probably could just have said something to the hostess as you left and been done with it. Of course this is also something that could have been discussed before you got to the restaurant to eat, then it could have been avoided.
2007-01-21 04:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is probably more to this. Maybe he didn't originally want to go out to eat? But in any case, maybe he was having a bad day, If this is all he did to upset you, let it go or just talk to him and explain your feelings. Just not a major issue by itself.
2007-01-21 04:17:08 · answer #8 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men can be such cowards. For some the thought of telling someone they've changed their mind is just sooooooo embarrassing, they just have to flee and leave it for the poor unfortunate less swift person. Try to think of all the other times he's saved you from embarrassment to overcome these feelings of anger. (Hopefully there have been some).
2007-01-21 04:23:52 · answer #9 · answered by Honey W 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he was embarassed to deal with the waiter and a bit mad at u.Perhaps he was hungry as well?It's no big deal.Thing like this happen every now and then.U did not like what he did.Tell him that..in a very polite and friendly way.I'm sure he'll understand.take care and good luck:)
2007-01-21 04:17:19 · answer #10 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋