My best friend told me last night that he tested positive for HIV. I love him so much and will support him no matter what, but I really didn't know how to react what do I do?
2007-01-21 04:06:56 · 6 answers · asked by lexmo 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
When someone you know is ill, with a serious illness like AIDS, or even just HIV + you may feel helpless or useless.
If the person is a friend you may say, "Just call if you need anything." But because of insecurity or a sense of helplessness, you may fear the call, if it comes.
Don't avoid him. Be there. It gives hope. Be the friend, you've always been, especially now when it is most important.
And take care of yourself, recognize your own feelings and respect them. Share your grief, your anger, your helplessness -- whatever emotions you may have, either with friends or in a support group. Getting the support you need during this crisis will help you to be really there for your friend.
2007-01-21 04:49:47 · answer #1 · answered by Kedar 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be supportive, he'll need it pretty soon. It's one of those diseases that can really take control of your life. If he gets put on the latest cocktail early though he could go a very long time with no adverse effects for many years. There isn't a cure yet but there is no upper limit to how long you can live with it, there are people still quite healthy who have lived with it for many years. If he's in a country that can get him the drugs he should be perfectly healthy for some time.
Don't let it stop him from doing anything. Get him out and about and enjoying himself, it shouldn't affect his life any more than haivng to take pills so many times a day, but stress to him the seriousness of getting into a routine of taking his meds.
2007-01-21 12:15:51 · answer #2 · answered by jleslie4585 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
tell him that life goes on and you're there for him and suggest that he goes to some hiv positive meetings or gets some support from people in the same situation.
2007-01-21 12:12:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him how many tests he had done. Many times a single test will give a false positive for several reasons.
If he's sure of his status, try to empathize with him. Help him find support networks, sources for meds, get him a subscription to "POZ" magazine.
2007-01-21 12:12:11 · answer #4 · answered by DEATH 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well honey my friend died 3 yrs a go from it and the only thing i can say is act the same way you been acting there is nothing different now that he has reveal this to you. he had it when he didn't tell you so now what. the only thing i can say is be a friend to him ,that what he need right now.
2007-01-21 12:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by creamy k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is up to u!!!!!! just be open and try to understand what he is going through. that is what i did with my BFF!!!!! but i miss her she died but u should try to be the best friend because they may leave u really soon!!!!
hope i helped good luck!!!!!
2007-01-21 12:16:16 · answer #6 · answered by blondebeauty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋