me and my husband have been together for 20 years we have 3 children 18,17,15 and he keeps going back and forth to jail and i a tired of him disrupting my life so , i had not had sex for the nine mths that he has been gone this time but recently met someone that i really like and things have gone a little to far to turn back now wha do i do about my husband i dont really love him anymore .
2007-01-21 03:45:37 · 39 answers · asked by babyblue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your husband is getting locked up for his behavior. He knows that he could go to jail for these unmentioned offenses. He does it anyway? He's not being a part of the family, he's not being emotionally supportive to you or the kids, nor is he being financially supportive, or giving your family any kind of support. If you don't love him then why are you keeping him? You already know that you can handle things on your own and you know that there are other guys out there who would be willing to be at the least emotionally supportive. I say dump his jail bird ***.
2007-01-21 04:24:08 · answer #1 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You just need to decide whether or not you're willing to deal with him and the way he acts for the rest of your life. Talk to him about it (not the other man, his behavior). Ask if he is willing to change and compromise. If he doesn't agree, or if you just don't want to be with him anymore, I suggest you leave him. Don't stay together for the kids. I remember just WISHING that my parents would get divorced when I was younger.
However, I would not advise you leaving your husband for this other man. If you and thisman don't work out, you'll end up regretting leaving and wondering what would happen if you had stayed. If you leave your husband, leave him for who he is and because you two are in different places and have different values and priorites.
2007-01-21 03:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough question. You need to fully look at this cause this is really hard. If you are sure with all of your heart that this marriage is not worth saving then you need to walk away from it. Cause it is so wrong to stay with someone that you don't . If you don't love your husband anymore than it is no use staying with him cause you will only recent him. You have to make sure these feelings you are feeling with this guy is real and not a lust thing.
2007-01-21 04:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by Wahenie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't love him, leave him. but don't leave just because you found someone new. new is always fun in the beginning. new always seems like it will last forever. new is always more exciting. new always makes you feel like you've never felt like this before and will never feel like this again. but eventually new becomes old and the same problems can come again or different, worse problems can come about.
were you thinking of leaving before you met this new guy? if the answer is yes, then it is probably best that you leave. if the answer is no, then you really should try to work on your relationship before you just throw it all away. 20 years is too long to just give up.
good luck and i hope you make the best decision for you.
2007-01-21 03:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by fungirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u don't love him anymore...u should divorce him.He hasn't been all that responsible towards u and the kids.U have a right to live your life instead of being so miserable and lonely.If u like someone else..go be with him.Make sure to get the divorce first.Life is beautiful...don't waste it.good luck:)
2007-01-21 03:54:57 · answer #5 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he's a great role model for your kids . He must be a heroin or crack head. You will always take the backseat to that. Your kids more then likely are heading in the wrong direction. I feel sorry for you. You actually have to think about getting rid of this loser. Are you an addict also. Pick up whatever is left of your life an move on. I'm sure your husbands having sex, with one of his cellmates. Your better off not having sex with him you might end up with aids. Good Luck
2007-01-21 03:52:49 · answer #6 · answered by run7days 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well why did u say for better or worse keep ur word lady ur word is ur bond what makes the fabric of your being or who are u really if u cant let urself keep ur marriage vows hang in there find a way of makin it happen talk to him not about the other man but let him know how u feel u dont just fall out of it like an accident u had three kids with the guy work at it baby u can u can u can
2007-01-21 03:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by ladyluck 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well I didn't go to jail or anything like that.I was home when I was supposed to be and did what I was supposed to do.My wife at the time found someone else while we were married and decided to divorce me for him.My girls age 12 and 14 at the time chose to live with me.I guess they didn't want to live with a run around hoe.
2007-01-21 04:44:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't openly condone cheating, but it is a simple fact that we all grow and change.
sometimes when your partner doesn't seem to change or he goes one way and you find your life going in another direction--we grow apart.
you need to divorce him and move on.--20 years is a long time to invest in a relationship just to throw it away so i would think long and hard about it. BUT--
i think we all deserve a chance at happiness. this life is so short that if we don't at least strive for happiness we will regret it when we get old.
2007-01-21 04:27:41 · answer #9 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on with your life, your kids are almost grown im sure they would understand considerting his track record! if you dont love him any more then be woman enough to say its over and give him the divorce papers and start having a brand new life and feeling good about your life! we all make mistakes and no ones perfect! but if you feel like your happier an love this new guy then do whats right! for you! you deserve to be happy and loved we all do it dont matter how long you been married!
and your cant blame you!!!!!
2007-01-21 03:52:45 · answer #10 · answered by southernspring2010 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋