Most would agree that the divorce rate is unacceptably high. Higher than in previous generations.
Why the increase? What has changed?
Since it hurts the couple and any children involved, what should people do to prevent divorce? Not get married in the first place?
2007-01-21 03:42:22 · 23 answers · asked by Carl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The former standards of decency have been eroded and rejected. They are no longer instilled in young people seriously.
The roles of husband and wife have been thrown out.
Parents do not teach their children to love and fear God.
Parents teach their children to be egocentric. So, anything less than continuous blissful happiness is unacceptable. Divorce is the solution.
Parents do not teach their children to respect the sanctity of marriage. They are not taught that it is a permanent arrangement. When they are unhappy, divorce is the solution.
Parents do not teach, and few people believe anymore, that they are answerable to anyone. Thus, many people feel free to do whatever they want at the time.
People are unwilling to make personal sacrifices and have lost their moral compass.
2007-01-23 06:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by Jay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe today people marry for all the wrong reasons, the biggest being only "attraction" unfortuently we age and that fades and the spontenous feeling ends. I think if people got into marriages with more than just that and a better understanding of what committment is. It is true people jump in and jump out without bating an eye. It is sad, cause in most cases children have already come into the situation as innocent by-standers.
It is cheaper to get divorced these days. Perhaps if they upped the cost, people would think twice before stepping into it. I think when two people want to get married, they should share everything about themselves. From weaknesses to strengths, to bad habits and such. Then the other person can see if it is something they are willing to deal with. But people they put on a mask for the engagement period and honeymoon. Then they go home and remove it. Then the ugly truth comes out. Openess is the key to either move on before marriage, or accept faults with the goods and be a team to make it work with trust, honesty, compassion, understanding and respect. Then I think it can work. But when people hide that part of themselves before marriage, when it comes out the other is like , "WHAT the heck"? They say my husband changes, or wife changed after we got married. The fact is, they didn't change at all. The just removed the mask. I think people should take courses to get married like driving, Cause marriages are crashing today frequently!
2007-01-21 03:51:22 · answer #2 · answered by Shannon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At one time, many women were completely financially dependent on the man since he would be the one with the career and working, while she stayed home taking care of the house and children. In addition, the child and spousal support laws were created and favored men, so women could find themselves financially destitute if they got a divorce.
Now the divorce laws have swung in the other direction, so when men have their flings, a women can just take off and not have to worry so much about money.
I think AIDS and other STDS have gotten people to rush into relationships hoping for monogamy with people they don't know. The key is to slow down...
DStarr
2007-01-21 04:09:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because people rush into marriage now days. They don't get to know the person before the marry them. I have friends that dated someone for three or four months and get married. People need to take it slow and make sure it is what they want. Also a marriage takes lots of work and people run at the first sign of trouble. It's okay to have disagreements but you need to meet each other half way. Don't let the little things get you down drop them and move on.
2007-01-21 06:24:46 · answer #4 · answered by chevywoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly, they should not get married in the first place. I have predicted divorces, not that I took PLEASURE in it. When my cousin in her teens married to make her pregnancy look respectable, I knew from the start that her's was not a good fit...... It is more common now though, because mores have changed, and those who have divorced are no longer pariahs.
2007-01-21 03:47:58 · answer #5 · answered by Philip Kiriakis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that when people get married they think that it is going to be like a fairy tale. at the first sign of trouble they don't know what to do. i think that some feel that if there is trouble than the marriage is not working so they give up.
marriage is hard and it takes a lot of work. but some people don't want to put in the work so they divorce and try to find happiness elsewhere.
it is sad that the children end up paying the price.
2007-01-21 03:52:05 · answer #6 · answered by miss lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't try anymore. There's no communication. It is easier to get a divorce these days. People change after marriage for some reason.
2007-01-21 03:45:42 · answer #7 · answered by snowbody 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The increase is either because of women looking for something to nag about about the men, the men annoyed by the woman he is currently with, or abuse. Along time ago people didnt really file divorces. The couples just slpit. To prevent a divorce. Get closer. Don't yell. Try to find why your so mad.
2007-01-21 03:47:46 · answer #8 · answered by aynomonuslycute42 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we have a generation and people have become selfish and self centered and only think of ourselves and the views of marriage and what it should be have wavered and become dimmer and not as important as what it used to be.... You should get married in the first place BUT you need to choose to work on your marriage through tough and hard times instead of being selfish and just wanting out over every little thing that happens or goes wrong in the marriage... We should never get married if we cannot or do not plan on being the wife or husband we know we should be... If you cannot give 100% then don't even attempt to get married.
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2007-01-21 03:55:47 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's get back to the Basics, Brudda! We've taken or Hearts out of the equation. It's all about being with someone. Having something to enjoy. (Sex) And having the persception of NOT being alone. It goes Bust, when all of that falls through. if you're in it, with your Heart. It'll last. It won't fail. You're Heart survives on your Happiness. Hers should do the same. Let your Heart Do Lunch with hers. It's the safest way to make sure.
2007-01-21 03:47:50 · answer #10 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋