2 months ago, me and my husband were having sex. Instead of saying "you sexy Cuban B" he said "you sexy Asian B". I am not asian, I'm Cuban. Then, 4 days ago while talking about alcoholics, he said that he had left a previous girl he had dated that was the love of his life (which was Asian). I am mad because I would expect to be the love of his life because I am his wife. Plus, I had put 2 & 2 together on what he said while we were having sex 2 months ago and what he said 4 days ago. He said that it was the past and he was just trying to make a point on how happy he was when he left her because she was an alcoholic. Please tell me that I have EVERY RIGHT TO BE MAD!!
2007-01-21 03:38:19 · 11 answers · asked by Leyanis 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hell yes you do! I would be hella mad if my boyfriend [soon to be HUBBY! YAY!] called me by another girl's name while we were... you know. But I wouldn't sit around and take this crap, neither would I walk out. I'd have him sit down and talk about what happened. If you truly love someone, don't walk out on them. You have to rely on that sturdy foundation of which bot of you have created.
2007-01-21 04:06:03 · answer #1 · answered by →sugarwuss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A "right" to be mad? If you wish, but how does that help you? I think a better thing would be to be more observant about other things in your relationship. Keep your eyes open without being paranoid.
I say this because as a man I can tell you that we sometimes play sexual fantasies while having sex with someone we love. Not because we don't like the person we are with, we do it for fun.
On the other hand, he may be making those "calls" on the old gf. That's why I said be observant.
DStarr
2007-01-21 12:19:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to inform him that you are Cuban...you need to say to him,I have something very serious to talk to you about,so sit down...When he does you need to look him in the eye and say"I AM CUBAN and don,t you forget it OK?.....I can see how it would upset you calling you asian and then saying the love of his life....My husband did that once he said this one girl was the best he ever had,he was telling someone that,,,,It made me mad too...Now I say that to him every chance I get...When he brings something up,about some girl I say " Oh yeah that was the best you ever had ,OH yes I remember and smile.....Men are so insensitive with their women ,they say these things that really hurt and then try to wiggle out of it....yes I would be mad and let him know it...
2007-01-21 12:42:31 · answer #3 · answered by slickcut 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He married YOU, not her. He made his choice. Rejoice in that.
There is no right or wrong in your anger. It's just a feeling. What you do with it will make or break you, however. You can continue to be angry or you can tell him how hurt you are, that you expect an apology and move on.
Men are visual creatures. The also enjoy a rich sexual fantasy life. If you have to be Asian for a few seconds to get him off then so be it. It doesn't bother me if my guy closes his eyes when I'm under him. In the end, he will open them to me and it will always be me who he will turn off the lights with. What goes on in his head would probably shock you. But it isn't very polite of him to be telling you out loud, I agree.
Try to move on with it and learn a bit more about men and how they work. Most are not too much better than your hubby.
2007-01-21 11:51:09 · answer #4 · answered by Ande 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you have the right to be mad. Help me out here what does "b" mean as in "you sexy Cuban B"
2007-01-21 11:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband refers to you and his other women by their ethnic origins and the B word. I think you have more to ponder than the fact that he might be reminiscing about an ex.
R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Find out what it means to you.
2007-01-21 11:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Pleo 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You really should be pissed off, cause I know I would be. If I were you, I would put off giving him any booty and get a toy for yourself, cause he doesn't deserve you.
2007-01-21 12:14:55 · answer #7 · answered by L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you have every right.
you said your husband so you should be the love of his life, forsaking all others.
give it to him both barrels.
2007-01-21 11:46:41 · answer #8 · answered by kristian f 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sure do! Why do you have to know so much about his exes? This does not look good.
2007-01-21 11:42:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
yeah u should try and doing it back to him see how he will take it he will be mad
2007-01-21 11:47:02 · answer #10 · answered by lakita s 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋