I've been in a relationship with a man for 5 months. We are so in love and I want to become engaged. I really hate the thought of waiting or depending on HIM to ask me. Should I pop the question? If so, do I buy HIM a ring? Or not?
2007-01-21 03:27:07 · 30 answers · asked by peace_love_granola 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Broach the subject, see how he feels about marriage. Don't listen to people who tell you you can't know your mind, or your heart, in a short period of time.
My husband proposed after dating for less than three months, we only knew each other a total of 9 months before we got married, that was 25 years ago, and we're still very much in love and very happily married, when you know it's right, you know.
I'd bring up the subject and talk about it, see if you're both on the same page, and if you are, nothing wrong with you popping the question.
2007-01-21 03:35:23 · answer #1 · answered by Angeleyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sophia,
To be honest, I think you would be rushing it! 5 months is a little EARLY to propose!
The other part is, you don't want to scare your Beau off, which is why you need more time to get to know and be around each other FIRST!
I just want to warn you that when it comes to marriage for some, their heads get "stuck in the Clouds" and think it's glamorous and ALL that, but, the Cliche' stands, "Don't take marriage lightly!" There is more to the Union than you imagine! I was married twice and went in lightly! If I could do it all over again, I would have stayed single, or the "special" person, I'd get engaged for awhile before "taking the Plunge".
That's just with my situation, though. It might be different with other men and women!
As far as the idea to Propose to the Guy? That's Romantic! and NICE for a change, these days!!!!!!!
A "Promise" ring would be an idea, but, talk to your Guy and hint around about marriage just to see where he "stands" on the subject!
Good luck to you both!
2007-01-21 11:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by julesrules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a dude i dont think i wouldnt like a women to pop the question my mother would kill me. if u truly believe u are ready he just might not be feeling the same way.maybe hes not ready or maybe he has other things on his mind i know some ppl that didnt get married until they both agreed on it asking him if he ever thought about marriage wont hurt but u shouldnt ask unless u dont see a proposal in the future.he might not be ready for committment i remember that my dad told me that he didnt want to marry my mother because he didnt feel like a husband yet.that might be it.as for the ring dont buy it im telling u women proposing is not cool since guys are always focused on looking like the one in control ull practically kill there moment i dont think theyll say no but theyll be very embarrased
ps.a while back there was a show about women proposing to there husbands i dont know if u watched it but most of them said "i do"
2007-01-21 11:41:34 · answer #3 · answered by victornope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the guy ask you. Asking him means you want your realationship to develop faster than he wants it to. Asking him makes you sound a little desprate for marrige. Sorry. What if he says no if you do ask him? Give it a month or two and he might come around with the question. But sometimes it depends on how old you are. If you're not even in your twenties, you need to wait.
2007-01-21 11:41:56 · answer #4 · answered by aynomonuslycute42 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first off don't rush things!!! atleast wait a year till u get married.See u may think that u might be in love with him but u don't know for a fact if he is.Make sure that theres no sighns of him cheating or anything.Alot of people marry to soon and they find out other sides of ther boyfriends/girlfriends.Im not really trying to say he's cheating or anything but alot of times that happens to alot of people.I would wait for a while......why??? beacause if he hasent perposed to u yet it's probely because he isen't ready for it.I think u should wait for him to perpoes.And if ur really excited and can't wait give him sighns or something that u want to get married.Sometimes guys don't perpose because there scared the girlfriend might say no.So i would suggest u wait.GOOD LUCK and until u get marred CONGRATULATIONS
2007-01-21 11:38:35 · answer #5 · answered by stacy_diva_girl619 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah! Chick power! I asked my fiancee to be my boyfriend, I was the first one to say "I love you" and I brought up the topic of us getting married someday. [After he comes home from boot camp.] I love my babe and you gotta be honest with the person you love. Sit him down and tell him "You know what, babe? I love you so much. I'm so proud of you and [his new achivevement]. I want to be with you... FOREVER! Will you marry me and be my husband?"
And don't listen to the PERSON that said "Let the guy ask you. Asking him means you want your realationship to develop faster than he wants it to. Asking him makes you sound a little desprate for marrige."
This advice "goes" to MEN as well as women. We all have an equal say in the relationship. No one has the upper hand at the moment, and no one ever will. It's a 50/50 relationship.
2007-01-21 11:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by →sugarwuss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 months is a really short time, you don't need to try to rush things, give the relationship more time to evolve and really get to know more about him before you really make the decision to ask him, the feelings you have now may not be the same feelings you have 5 months later to a year from now,so give the relationship more time and ask him where he stands on the marriage issue and if he See's himself getting married anytime now or in the near future...
2007-01-21 11:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 months? You've got to be kidding.
Give it another 7 months then live together for another year. By then you'll know each other well enough to get married. On this you can trust me. I told my ex that if she could still stay with me after 2 years, I'd marry her. She lasted 1 year and 10 months and then had an affair.
Give it time for your own sake.
2007-01-21 11:37:51 · answer #8 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I bet you're only 18, or real young.
Even if you aren't, five months isn't enough time to know someone at all. In the beginning it's all magical, but it takes a year or two before someone starts showing their true colors.
Why do you want to pop the question? If he really wants to marry you, then HE'LL ask.
2007-01-21 11:32:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want to pop the question just do it....think 5 months is not that long thou_
2007-01-21 11:31:03 · answer #10 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋