I've known my so called friend for 10 years, throughout her pregnancy she made it clear that I was to be a god-parent. But now 3 months after the birth of the baby, she has chosen 5 people which didn't include me. After she told me she asked if I was upset, I said no but once it had sunk in I thought it was pretty bad what she has done. I have been there through everything so i'm suprised, also the pastor said she can have as much god parents as she liked. I'm very confused and don't know how to handle the situation. Advice needed please!!
2007-01-21 03:05:35 · 15 answers · asked by sexylove 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well, ask yourself, why didn't she include in the list of god-parant! confront her and ask why didnt you include me when you said that you were! 10 years of friendship shouldn't go to waste, so try and sort it out! there may be a reason why she didn't include you! that is what you have to find out! give her some time to think , and maybe she will realise what she is doing and come running back! if she doesn't give you a good enough reason for why she's acting the way she is then she can't be a true friend. consider exploring new friendships! it could do you good!
2007-01-21 07:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by baby phat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You first need to calm yourself down which I believe 3 months is already more than enough. So, since she asked you whether you're upset or not, just tell her the truth. You can ask her out or talk to her on the phone but it would be much better to ask her out so that you can talk to her privately and face to face. Don't beat around the bush too much about your intention. Ask her what about what's troubling your mind. The best way to get some unasnswered questions where they toy around in our mind is by asking. If you planned to not to ask her than it is also ok but in a way you're running away and therefore you must not think about it anymore. If your so called friend is really a friend than she will be honest with you and wouldn't mind telling you her reason/s. If she avoid you, then you know that your friendship with her has ended. Last important advice...... you must accept what comes out from her when you ask her.....
Quickly get rid of this matter early as they are just nothing but troubles and I know that the more you think about it the more uneasy you'll feel, right? The choice is in your hands. GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-01-21 03:39:33 · answer #2 · answered by someone's lurking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask,try not to show how upset you are and see what she says.You say you've been friends for many years then this should not become an obstacle.It is probably a simple misunderstanding and you can still be there for her child whether if you are a god parent or not, it is just a title really and being a loving caring friend who will be there for her friends kids is just as important if not more.
Good luck
2007-01-21 03:50:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how I would take it, i am a god parent and the thought some times scary to be 53 and could inherit two children, in a heart beat. So maybe it may be a blessing.
I am willing to take on the task but it is still scary some times to think of it.
2007-01-21 03:11:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure she chose the other 5 people she might be under pressure from the child's father or other members of her family.Speak to her but be calm because a friendship of 10 years is something not to be sniffed at or lost because of someone else
2007-01-21 03:32:30 · answer #5 · answered by HUDSON HAWK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my answer to you would be is to confront her and tell her how you feel! tell her that you've been through a lot together and that shes hurt you and why she did it! i personally think that was not a very nice thing to do especially asking you if you are ok with it! thats not nice at all are you sure you still want to be friends with her!
2007-01-21 04:25:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me that you should be the childs godparent as you sound like you and your friend are very close i cant understand why she didnt choose you are the other people members of her family maybe thats the reson she choose them but i think you should ask your friend why your not godparent and let her know your upset about it
2007-01-21 04:01:00 · answer #7 · answered by smiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she made it clear that she will make y0u a god parent 0f her chilD but she didn't.., then she will ask y0u if y0ur upset?? what the hell was that?!
shes beinG rudE y0u guYz have been friends f0r many years.. i thInk the best way is t0 talk t0 her d0nt keep iT t0 y0urself if y0ur upset sh0w it t0 her..
g0od Luck..
2007-01-21 03:19:01 · answer #8 · answered by needed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has done something very bad and i think you should just stay away for a week or two and calm down
2007-01-21 03:11:55 · answer #9 · answered by Aliman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how u feel maybe u should tell her ur feeling.for me,i have two godmums.hehehe i think it is great to have as many godmums as possible.i mean my godmums r there for me everytime i need them and they give me the best .hehehe!so instead of having one biological mum,i have three mums (one biological and two godmums) hahaha!!!.in the phillipines.i think it is possible in having many godparents.
2007-01-21 03:33:51 · answer #10 · answered by kabayan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋