i was abuse from my step mom when i was growing up and what happens to some one if they wasnt showed the love they needed when they were a baby ?
2007-01-21 02:44:45 · 7 answers · asked by vholshu72 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The most important step when we feel hurt is to have realized that and recognize that feeling. Asking questions such as the one you are asking is a very important first step in healing. There are therapists out there who specifically deal with childhood pain. Sometimes when we are seriously violated as children it blocks some of our growth into adulthood. The symptoms you may be going thru are either anger or fear (they are really the same thing). Possibly you are repeating what you're stepmother did to you or you are afraid of committment because of fear that someone may do that to you again. You may not feel safe enough to come out and show the love inside of you. That was a lesson you received from your stepmother. There is a protective mechanism we all have inside of us and when we have been hurt it often tries to block us from having healthy relationships because it is trying to protect us from being hurt again. This protective mechanism will protect you at all cost, even to the point that you can not allow yourself to be loved or to love, because again, it doesn't want you hurt. There is an element of being open and vulnerable and when you allow yourself to go there miraculous healings can take place. Practice becoming aware of this protector inside of you and think about what the real motives for the protection are. That is a good first step. Most of the time we all tend to overprotect ourselves. For many people if they have been severely violated by one person, any other person coming into their lives will have to be under the scrutiny of this "protector". In other words we judge everyone from that one experience. Now is that fair or is it fear? Trauma release is a very important part in your healing and then in a circle of close and trusted family or friends (or therapist) you can start to open up more and allow yourself to be vulnerable. Loving yourself is the first step. To look at you as the very special unique being that you are. Imagine, nobody else on this earth is like you. Nobody else on this earth has your story to tell. It is an important story and it contributes to the BIG story, the overall picture of what we make out of our lives. Love is delicate and being vulnerable is a big part of feeling the whole range of emotions love offers. So many people feel they have to be tough and look down on being vulnerable. But then again, they probably don't feel what love is really all about.
2007-01-21 03:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by Way2Be 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sad.You should see a psychiatrist. They help with those problems. Mostly people who didn't get enough love when they were a baby. Want to do something great to show off the people who were so post to love them. Did your father know you were abused? Your step mom could go to jail if anyone told on her.
2007-01-21 11:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by Em 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok... let the past behind. the best you can do is to start lovin yourself and appreaciate you more cuz you are special. I know its hard for you to look foward for love after not getting that when you were a child but stop for a while, take a deep breath and think "im alive, i am another person, i have real feelings... lets go and make a new life"... thats my best answer for you. go and make a new life knowin yourself better and discovering things you didnt knew before. love yourself alot.
2007-01-21 10:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by *live,laugh,love* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. Some people grow up fine. Others turn into the people who abused them.
As long as you recognize that it wasn't your fault that you were abused, you'll probably be alright. If you even CONSIDER abusing someone around you, go get help.
2007-01-21 10:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by Matthew O. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!
you can seek help via your doctor if you need but it sounds to me that you are a balanced person in the fact that you have posted here I think when you find some one to love you it could just be a story for your grand kids
Grandad
2007-01-21 10:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by edward b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what happens to you from here is up to you and only you. you can go through life letting what happened to you as a kid affect everything you do, or you can try to move past the negative things that happened to you as a child and try to make the most out of life. good luck.
2007-01-21 10:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Effects different people differently...
Some people are unaffected..
Some people are greatly effected.
2007-01-21 10:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋