what do i have to do when he wants to look for another girl.. ? He is pretending like single at every daiting sites.. but he doesn't think I know about that.. he is keep hiding.. we married only 3months ago.. and.. whenever he mad , he always talks about divorce.. that's really hurt.. but I can't divorce him because i love him too much.. what do i have to do..
2007-01-21 02:42:47 · 14 answers · asked by saysomething 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
but he thinks.. when he was working I was meeting another guy.. I really hate cheating someone.. I don't know why he can't trust me..
2007-01-21 03:04:04 · update #1
i think he married you because he wanted to at the time, but now that he's married he realizes he can't do all things he was doing before you all were married. you might need to talk to him about it and find out what he wants because it seems like he still wants to play and its hurting the relationship and special you are suppose to have. why did you even bother to get married?
2007-01-21 02:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by ken's princess 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you really both need to sit down and have a heart to heart conversation. Tell him neither one of you can help the other without communication. Yes, perhaps he married when he wasn't ready, but there was a reason he did. No one just jumps into a marriage, having no love for the person. I think you should try to save your marriage. Today to many people are just willing to jump out of marriage and forget the committment part of it. Your husband needs to respect your wishes and not be looking into sites that are hurting you. He needs to communicate with you. If this communication doesn't happen, you may not find the happiness you were hoping for. Ask him what you can do to make him happy and then share what you feel he could do to make you happy. If he feels as if you are willing to work at it ( as I am sure you already you are) But it avoids him feeling like he is having fingers pointed at him. He needs to own up, be responsible and take actions for the commitment he made. If down the road you feel as if there is no trust, then I feel you may have to move on unfortuently. But it still comes back to the fact, He married you for a reason. He loves you, just not very good at showing it, and he may need guidance in that area. Goodluck dear!
2007-01-21 11:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him this much and dont want a divorce then you have to let it go and look the other way.... You should confront him and let him know this is really bothering you bad. Be honest with him and if he does not stop and continues then leave him. Sounds like he does not even want to be married to you especially if he is already talking divorce. Not a good sign at all.
2007-01-21 11:00:38 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard question to answer. Love is a tough road. And most of the time there is one person more in love then the other in a relationship. Was he like this before you were married? If so then you went into the marriage knowing what kind of a person he is. Otherwise you need to talk to him.....you are a woman and you need to be strong. Good luck.
2007-01-21 10:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by ~Shelly~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize that you made a mistake marrying this man. He is very immature and does not respect you or your feelings. It will only get worse if you continue to tolerate it. You say you love him, but really think about that. If you are loving a man like this you do not love yourself. Its been only 3months, you can get an annulment, and start healing from this experience. Really get to know someone before entering into a lifetime committment with them, it will save you alot of grief.
2007-01-21 10:56:28 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He don,t trust you because he is guilty....Simple...... This is not about you,its about him and he is the cheating one and he is guilty so therefore he is accuseing you because hes so guilty...I hate for men to always threaten to leave or want a divorce....Sounds like you two need to come to some kind of understanding about trust ans about your marriage...
2007-01-21 13:03:44 · answer #6 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK this isn't meant to be mean but if he is threatening after three mo. then you need to quietly pack up your things and get the hell out of there. He is playing games with your head and will always be mentally abusive. Sorry for my honesty, you will be able you over come this but don't spend your live being second.
2007-01-21 10:57:47 · answer #7 · answered by ezrider 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to stay with someone like that? It is obvious he wasn't ready for marriage and would love to be single. But I guess..you love him..more than you love yourself. You deserve better. Get out now, unless you are ready for a life of heartache and pain.
2007-01-21 10:49:37 · answer #8 · answered by 2Bme 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So you'd rather stay married to a guy who is gonna get mad at you whenever you want him to be loyal, and is probably gonna cheat at you every chance you gets?
Either get divorced or get used to crying yourself to sleep.
2007-01-21 10:46:52 · answer #9 · answered by Matthew O. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may love him, but he does not love you. The best thing you can do is get out of there before you start to blame yourself. THis is NOT your fault. He was not ready for marriage and you do not deserve to be treated this way. Good Luck to you
2007-01-21 11:01:39 · answer #10 · answered by {Lisa} 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋