My guy's ex gave birth early this morning, I went with him to the hospital.. It was a boy. I am happy for him but I also fee sad... He's been really sweet and tells me he know's home I'm feeling and I shouldn't worry... But I can't help it. We got home about 7.30 this morning, and went to sleep as we were so tired. He has gone back to the hospital this afternoon... I was so upset I couldn't even go and see the baby, is this normal or am I just being selfish? I want to be happy but at this moment in time I dont feel happy.
2007-01-21 02:35:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I'm not an expert but its natural and totally normal to have them feelings.This year especially will probably be the most difficult or the first few months. If you get on with his ex then just try be involved or help out and if not now is the time to become friends as she and the baby will always be around and im sure you dont want atmospheres especially when the baby is about as they pick up on everything. REMEMBER he chose you babe all you can do is try and make it work. goodluck hun
2007-01-21 03:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by donz_hazeleyez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your being selfish at all,these are normal feelings your going to feel alittle insecure at this time.I wouldn't be worried he obviously has a lot of love for you just remember he needs to time bond with the baby also it would be a sad thing if he felt he had to ignore the child to protect your feelings (that does not sound right when i look at it written down i do hope its not taken the wrong way :( ) Remember he chose you over his ex try not to worry xxxx good luck
2007-01-21 03:40:41 · answer #2 · answered by thunderchild67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see how your upset but you must have known about this situation when you first started your relationship with your partner. I imagine its hard for your partner aswell but he has a baby son to care and provide for now and ultimately his son will be his main priority and he is now going to have a tie with his sons mother for ever now as they do have a child together. If you dont trust your partner with his ex then I suggest that you end your relationship and move on. Or if you want to make a go of it then get up and go and see your partners son. You will also be a big part in this new babys life should you stay with your partner so theres no reason for you not to share the joy of the new baby being born. good luck
2007-01-21 03:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by thedaddy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course you have the right to be upset now i know i would be your feelings are bound to be all over the place at the moment bet your wishing that it was you who had the baby and thinking what joy the three of you would have together but what your doing is very good to not many people would go through what your doing some would just walk away although id like to think id hang in there take one day as it comes things will get better and as you said hes your guy now so you have nothing to worry about take care of yourself
2007-01-21 02:49:06 · answer #4 · answered by smiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you have a right to be sad! The man you love now has a baby with another girl. He will never be able to pay his full attention to you again, because he will need to be a father to this baby, and therefore will always be in contact with his ex. I hope you guys can still make your relationship work. Good Luck!
2007-01-21 02:42:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're being selfish. Your boyfriend is forever tied to his ex and his baby. That is something you have to deal with and get over if you're going to be with him.
This is a time the mother and father of the baby need to spend bonding as a family because let's face it....that's what they are. Be it dysfunctional or not.
2007-01-21 02:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by Emillea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course your unhappy its natural,he is over the moon about the birth of his son that is natural,let him enjoy his new son he is with you,not her, they will have a bond for life, you should try and welcome the new baby go to the hospital with him ,show him you are willing to except this child into both of your lives, give him the support he needs. have you two even talked about this?make it easier for him by being there for him. it seems sad now give it a while it will be better, just make time for him and the baby.
2007-01-21 02:49:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your shaky feelings are absolutely normal. I think it was great of you to go to the hospital with him, I don't think I could have. He seems to be understanding of your feelings and that's really nice of him. Have faith, you will get through this!
2007-01-21 06:05:16 · answer #8 · answered by tcbtoday123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were in your position i wouldn't be happy......it'll take time but i'm sure you'll get used to it and it will get easier as the kid gets older and perhaps when you and your guy are married and are wanting kids. he obviously loves you a lot and seems to be very supportive of you and wants to make you happy. i wouldn't worry, it seems like you're the most important thing in his life.
2007-01-21 02:40:13 · answer #9 · answered by rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would u be happy. just dont be jealous of the baby and start fights with ur boyfriend. remember he chose to be with you not his ex
2007-01-21 02:44:17 · answer #10 · answered by green 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋