hiding money?

Question

Hello, I've been married for almost 2 years now. My husband was in Iraq and recieved the purple heart. When he came back from Iraq he opened up a checking account without me knowing, I found bank statements. Now he gets a check from the Goverenment and he dont want me to know about it. He gets it direct deposit into his new checking account that "I dont know about" is there any way that I being married to him and him getting a check from the goverenment that i can get some money? Cause he now like "disabled" cause he receved the purple heart and he still works (not in military, work for a driving company). Is he allowed to work and still get a check too?

Answer 1

No. The check is made out to him, and unless you are on the bank account with him, it's not your money.

The military will still pay him, whether he is working or not.

MANY people tend to have savings accounts that their significant other's do not know about. Don't take offense to it, unless he misappropriates the funds in some manner.

Answer 2

Sorry honey..u r entitled after he dies..but not now if he doesn't want you to have a slice of the pie let him have it. In a divorce, EVERY penny recieved spent or unspent from these checks, you will recieve some . Less YOU r the reason for the divorce.
This sucks though...many women cheat when their husbands away, you stik w/ him..and he comes home and does this!! Forget about that money...you will get it in the end. Just realize the kind of "integrity" your man has. He failed to honor his family!
Never intiate a divorce w/ him...if he does, get a lawyer. If those bank statements were mailed to your home address then you have the right to open it. If they were mailed to a P.O. box those "statements" can not be used...BUT he has to admit that he has those assets.
Someone gave him bad, bad advice. If he shared those funds now, openly he would not have to give you half because they were used within the marriage....but ANYTHING he does w/ that secret Govt. money has to be shared...
Think of this as a hidden lottery ticket. If the ticket was purchased while married the funds are divided based on the years married... So stick it out for as long as you can...2 years is not enough time...

**DON'T TELL HIM U KNOW OF THE FUNDS...IF YOU KNOW OF THEM, THEN YOU ARE AGREEING W/ HOW HE IS HANDLING THEM!!!**

Answer 3

Start trying to figure out where the money is. If you can even come close to knowing where the money is, then a judge will look favorably on that in a divorce proceeding. I wouldn't start hiding money, it will make you look bad. If you have no proof of him doing it then it will only look petty. Also... if he is "hiding" money, has he been reporting this income for taxes? If he isn't and the IRS finds out at some point, they could come back to you because you likely signed a joint return. If you can prove that he is hiding money in divorce court, then it is more likely then you would be granted innocent spouse status for any tax penalties.

Answer 4

Hmmm. Is he supporting another family on this money is he keeping the money to pay for gambling debts or is he doing something illegal with the money? It might be a fairly significant amount of money I don't know. If you are seeing statements you must know if there is money going out of the account for things you don't know about or if he is paying his bills with that money. The question shouldn't be if you are entitled to some of the money. Your question should be is this a secret that he is keeping from me and if he is keeping it a secret than why is he doing this. You said that he was wounded in Iraq and the money he is receiving is as a result of his disability. There could be multiple reasons for him putting the money into a separate account, maybe it is money that he feels entitled to for himself because he was the one who was wounded or maybe he sees using the money as a form of emasculation, like he is less of a provider now than he was before he was wounded. The important thing here is for you to begin talking to him, don't start by accusing him of hiding money from you, start by talking about your finances and what your goals are and what you would like to achieve in the future. Best of luck.

Answer 5

First, even though you are married to him, it IS his money... and if he chooses not to share that with you, sad, but hey, it is his..... and as such, you really have no right to it..... sorry.

Secondly, there are all sorts of disabilities --- from total to minor... The governments way of telling the guys "thanks, and we are sorry....", (and in the case of this war, "how lucky you are to even be alive.!!!!!------ because we should have never been there anyway...") Yes, he can do what he can on disability, which can range from anything from a severe hangnail, to quad.

The amount of money vary, the length of time, and how much a guy can work as well.... Call a government agency if you have doubts.

Answer 6

every penny that goes in a bank account while you are married is considered "a marital asset", that is why when you get divorced every spouse has to disclose ALL bank accounts on the financial statements. Ask him why is he doing this and let him know that in case of divorce you are entitled to half. So he can hoard and hide money all he wants, legally he can't keep it from you.

Answer 7

Not sure on the rules of working and getting a check. You should probably call your local government agency on that one. As far as the secret, I would sit and talk to him. Tell him you found a bank statement and you are wondering what is going on. It may not be as bad as you think! :)

Answer 8

i have just married a military guy... i have money questions as well....... however, in your case it would bother me that you guys are married and live in the same house hold and he does not inform you of his earnings. even if it is in a separate account it would be good to know that you will have access to it in the event of death or something. how is your marriage other wise? most divorces occur due to financial issues.


OH YEAH BY THE WAY I DO KNOW THAT IF YOU HAVE BEEN MARRIED TO HIM FOR AT LEAST 10 YEARS... AND A DIVORCE OCCURS YOU WILL GET SOME OF HIS MILITARY RETIREMENT!

Answer 9

I would be upset about him hiding money. This sounds like something is wrong in your relationship. I would confront him. I dont think he can collect and still work, although now alot of disability companies let you work limited hours. Good luck.

Answer 10

Well, if a retired officer comes back, they'll need a side-job is order to obtain benefits such as medical insurance so he can be covered, even though he recieves pension from the government.