2007-01-21 01:59:52 · 30 answers · asked by alexis christian 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thats a question that is only up to you. If you truly feel like this was a one time thing and he is truly sorry, then it may be worth another chance. If you feel as though he only sorry he got caught then no.
2007-01-21 02:03:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This all depends on the situation and how many times it has happened. To me if it is only a one time deal then yes the wife should give him a chance but if it is happening over and over again and only getting worse then the wife should leave, I would feel the same way if it was the wife that was doing the cheating too!
2007-01-21 10:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know whats going through your mind....if you have kids or any other reason for not leaving him for this dispicable act.
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
I personally would not take him back even after he did it the first time....(but then i dont have children to worry about)
my reasons are simple....when he took vows, when he made promises, when he told you that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with you and decided to commit to you....and then he goes and cheats on you with another person, not only does that take away a omans confidence, but it shows that he has absolutely NO RESPECT for You....as a woman as a wife or mother....he didnt think about how you would feel, he didnt consider that you could be hurt beyond words.
if i was your i wouldnt let him climb back into my bed....not just for ethical and moral reasons but...be realistic.....do you know whether this person has HIV/ Or some other STD?.....
Theres alot at stake...you and only you can make the decision...no one can judge you....if you have children im sure its a very different perspective.....but please if you do give him another chance....make sure he doesnt do it again...and if he does......get rid of him!!!!
I hope and pray that your circumstances improve.
good luck!
2007-01-21 10:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by Jia K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only his wife can make that decision. Without knowing the circumstances and the people involved no one can answer this question.
There are too many facts to consider. How long have they been married? Are their children? Is this the first time he ever cheated? Has their marriage been good up till now? Does he still love his wife? Is he sorry and willing to do anything it takes to make his marriage work?
If this was a one-time thing, if he's truly sorry, if he's willing to do anything to make his marriage work, my answer would be "yes". Marriage can survive an "affair" if both partners love each other and are willing to work through things to save their marriage.
On the other hand; if he "cheats" all the time, isn't sorry or willing to try to "fix" things, doesn't love and respect his wife - than my answer would be "no". Time to move on.
Like I said, too many unknowns for anyone other than the wife to answer. I wish them well.
2007-01-21 10:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is such an arbitrary question... only YOU know the answer to that one. Can you forgive and forget? I'm not saying right now... but is he going to have his sins tossed into his face at every opportunity? how strong was your relationship before this happened? Does he want another chance? how good is your word? are you "good" at forgiveness? Have you discussed his reasons for the infidelity? How well do you two communicate? How involved in each other's lives are you?
Infidelity is the "rock bottom" of any relationship... it took time and a complete lack of effort for both of you to find yourselves at this juncture. If you can still remember what it was like to love each other... and commit to making an effort to rediscover what it was that brought you two together in the first place... then maybe...
This isn't about "giving" him a chance... It's about deciding how important your relationship is to each other. Your question suggests that YOU make the decisions in this relationship. have you considered whether or not HE has anything to say?
2007-01-21 10:29:20 · answer #5 · answered by alex b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the woman and what her beliefs are. Some women give the man another chance and he just cheats again. Some women leave, some make the man leave.
2007-01-21 10:15:09 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on many different things, is he remorseful, does he accept responsibility for the hurt he caused u and does he promise it won't happen again. does he say it was a mistake or does he justify it. is he willing to seek counseling to help the marriage? is it a pattern of behavior, has it happened before? did he leave u for her and stay gone and is just wanting to come back because there is no where else to go because she ended it? he must be willing to do whatever it takes to regain your trust, even if it means u need to discuss the hurt over and over again until u can make sense out of it. only u can decide, but if he has hurt u before, and promised the same promise, and spoken the same words, than how can u honestly go back into it and have hope? and lastly what is his motive, and what does he stand to gain from it and is he sincere or just needing a safe place to rest in between affairs?
2007-01-21 10:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Would walk away right now and don't turn back. I will say to you that any man who cheats will cheat again. I am a guy and I have never cheated because the bond of marriage is absolute. You cant change what the concept of marriage is all about or even his vows that he told you on that day. Please be careful because I know this wont be easy.
2007-01-21 10:07:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Only you can answer this question. Only you know what is in your heart. Can you tolerate it? Can you accept what he has done and move on? Is he sorry and will he do it again? These are just some questions to consider. If you decide to stay the maybe you two could go to counseling. It is going to be a long road, especially for you.
Good luck to you!
2007-01-21 10:42:22 · answer #9 · answered by ~Shelly~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, personally i think one chance is enough after that im out!!! I know people make mistakes and i have 2 in the past so I would want a chance.
2007-01-21 10:05:46 · answer #10 · answered by Hi my name is... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, cheating is the ultimate disrespect. So basically you go get your jollies on while she is at home with your kids or whatever. Amazing that people can do that and still sleep in your bed without blinking. Not to mention, the fact that you could take something back home to her that she can't get rid of. I say hell no, never take him back.
2007-01-21 10:27:15 · answer #11 · answered by michelle_emu4eva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋