does anyone know or does anyone know a book that can help out?
2007-01-21 01:49:37 · 21 answers · asked by GotAnswers? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its pretty difficult question to answer as it depends on both of your characters and age group (i mean according to the things you like to do)
I would say try to remember what you liked to do together when you first started up....what made you learn more about each other? discover more about each other? what does he like that you dont and vice versa....have you tried to sit down and take an interest in the things he likes? (like watching sport with him???) and vice versa? how bout going ice skating together? mountain climbing? biking? something adventurous that involves support of a partner....you know...team spirit....
on the other side try different lingerie ;) *grins*
the best way to figure things out is by being open and honest...the key is communicating with each other....its not just guys ho should buy ladies flowers....and he needs to know that reciprocation is what keeps the flame alive....
its hard because men tend to get comfortable in relationships which is a big compliment to their partner however the lady tends to feel that hesnot interested because hes not as flirty/sexy/ or romantic anymore.....
try doing new things together that stimulate mental and physical aspects of your lives....call his manager at work....get him a friday off work and book a mini trip to somewhere you both like....when he wakesup on friday and starts getting ready for work (u have his bags packed already in the car) you tell him ur gonadrive him and then break the news when he realises he's not actually headed for work!
i did that once and boy did i have a fabbbbbbb weekend! and his work mates were so jealous....he felt great and although hes not the most romantic person in the world he appreciates me for making him feel loved and special!
hope im not babbling and that something outta the above helped!
good luck!
ciao!
2007-01-21 02:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by Jia K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good book I know of is called Marriage, from Surviving To Thriving, by Chuck Swindall.
But what my wife and I found to keep our marriage alive and fun was at least once a week we try to have a date night out without the kids. Also when the kids go to bed we try to spend as much quality time together.
Something I'm planning on doing for my wife for Valentines, we are going to a romantic bed & breakfast for a weekend.
Also those little things will help keep things exciting. Also, ALWAYS put your partner before yourself.
2007-01-21 10:24:40 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. 1 > Always keep YOURSELF ALIVE, FUN, Happy, Satisfied...
No. 2 > Develop and renew yourself. Don't make YOU a copy of who you were last year. Do little changes in your clothing style, take classes in dancing, art, etc.
Then focus on the mutal parts of the relationship.
- Keep looking good for each other, dress up, at least from time to time.
- Keep surprising each other. Once in a while, a simple gift for no reason. Not a GIFT as a GIFT, one rose once in loooooooong time, a book your partner wanted to buy, a slice of tasty cake from an expensive french bakery.
- Always make occassions special, unique, and different from 'last year's', for the whole family.You've got birthdays, christmas, summer vacations, etc... always give time for such occassions.
- This is a VERY IMPORTANT TIP:
a) Spend time ALONE TOGETHER without other members of the family.
Spend time AWAY from EACH OTHER. Seriously, do NOT forget your friendships. Have days ONLY for you and your friends, days only for you with your family, or children, and yes.... DAYS ONLY FOR YOU ALONE... it helps.
2007-01-21 10:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by Serendipity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
surprise is always a good idea. if u have kids call the inlaws and send them to them for the weekend. get a hotel for the weekend. plan dinner. and have some drinks in the room when u get back. whatever u can think of. stuff like that when he leasts expects it will keep the marriage hot.
2007-01-21 09:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come up with new ideas and fun things to have fun with. Spice things up in and out of the bedroom. Date once in a while and go out together for just the two of you. Go to http://www.marriagetoday.org and there may be things there to help you with and also http://www.drphil.com might have some resources. I would like to find a book on this as well.... Great question I love it... Thanks for bringing this up!
2007-01-21 10:45:32 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TT. Topless Tuesday. Shes pretty. We both enjoy not just to rile up the guy for sex. Farm out the kids. Dress up as for a date with yer best girl, even if, especially if, yer married to her. you head to foot, her waist to foot. Set the table together no TV or radio or yes no computer. apron ok against oil slatter frying fries. eat dinner. Manually do dishes together. Every tuesday.
2007-01-21 10:04:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well me and my hubby always experiment in the bedroom, being sassy can make your marriage way more fun and exciting, it's like your hubby can't wait to come home to you. You have to experiment in the bedroom, thats where all the marriage problems start.
2007-01-21 09:52:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont need to read a book or to seek advise from anyone
u just need to do wat u think u shoul do and wat u feel like doing
and the very most important thing is communication
like after the day ends when both of u are in bed just take even 20mins from both of ur time talking about how was the day had been, like wat does he feel about it, wat are his plans, or wat does he want to do the following day or to eat and take care of ur husband sweeter each day,
even baking for him or asking him out to watch a movie or just give him sweeet nothings it doesnt need to have a special occassion for u to treat ur partner super special u should feel it when he wants a hug to easy the tension or jst to give him time to relax and collect himself
its mutual and u should not have a second tought of doing those cheezy thing for ur partner even if he doesnt show how excited and how he really appreciates it cause deep inside he does
goodbless u more and more
2007-01-21 09:57:46 · answer #8 · answered by 00_tyradjh_00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since ur the wife,just do a lot of things ur husband does but if u really dont do the same things he likes to do then just sit down and talk or go to a doctor like dr.phil!
2007-01-21 09:54:46 · answer #9 · answered by the hottie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no book out there that will keep any marriage alive.
2007-01-21 09:52:36 · answer #10 · answered by CheeseGoesBlub~~~~~~ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋