I would like to discuss peoples feelings of polyamory, ie loving and being in a relationship with more than one person at the same time.
2007-01-21 01:49:31 · 19 answers · asked by Emma R 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Married 3 times, 2 other long term (4 and 8 years) relationships. Nope.
2007-01-21 01:52:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that some people are happy with so-called 'open relationships' and communal marriages, but I know that I would like to be in something like these. So polygamy would not be for me!
As it happens, I've been with the same partner for 13 years, and we are best friends as well as lovers. Neither of us want anyone else, even though we occasionally get little crushes on other people. But that's all they are, little. We have agreed that if one of us cheats on the other, it means the relatonship is over.
If my long-term partner and I were to break up, we would probably stay friends and find other partners, but I think that due to the close friendship that we have shared, our new partners might be a bit intimidated by this.
If it should happen that one of were to die while we were still reasonably young, the one left behind would probably find someone else eventually, and the relationship would not be the same.
2007-01-21 03:09:56 · answer #2 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question gets kicked around a lot in the straight parts of this forum. No reason to believe Gays and Lesbians should feel any different. My personal belief is it is indeed possible to truly love more than one person. I don't mean your parents or your kids...but someone that enters your life after someone else that you already love and lo and behold you find yourself in love with two people. It's only wrong if you view it through the eyes of a society that tells you loving more than one is unacceptable. Of course how your first partner will take the news of your having another love interest determines how you proceed with interest number two. Usually interest number two becomes that unrequited love we hear so much about or you will split up with number one to pursue number two. That's why the divorce rate is so high. Wouldn't it be great if all parties liked each other and accepted the situation? Be great wouldn't it?
2007-01-21 02:21:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very few people are self aware or secure enough to deal with multiple partners. However, I know some people who accomplish this. If you can get past jealousy and envy, you have a chance, but most can't so it ultimately fails.
Dominants with multiple submissives is common in my lifestyle, and I know many for whom this works really well. The key is honesty, openness and clear cut expectations. In my lifestyle, multiple partners are not on equal levels, however, so expectations of each person is quite different. Most relationships break up because of dishonesty and poor understanding of their place in the household.
2007-01-21 02:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe we each have a 'Soul Mate' who we unconsciously strive to find.
Some people marry a lot and find something missing each time.
Some simply become promiscuous.
I have been married for almost 15 years and am incredibly happy. I think that going by our first meeting, (a sort of Blind Date) we immediately 'hit it off' as if we had known each other for years already.
My Soulmate and I have 4 children who are very talented as well.
Once you find your true 'other half' then I don't think you CAN have that type of relationship again. Even if you were unfortunate to have your partner die, another relationship would not be the same.
Good Luck finding YOUR Soul Mate!
:~}
2007-01-21 02:00:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not believe in having more than one relationship going , seems to me it would be called "cheating". Polygamy (as it is correctly spelt) is something that came and went with the Mormons of many years ago, though their are still some that practice this ridiculous behavior.
Now, do I believe we are supposed to be with one partner our whole life.. God I hope not, not that at my age I wouldn't like to think I'm finally settled.. But I've been married twice and been in several 2 - 4 year relationships. It's not easy to find the one person that fits you like a glove, but it is possible.
2007-01-21 02:02:29 · answer #6 · answered by Aunt Henny Penny 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Each to their own I suppose. I would say no though. I think you have to kiss a few frogs before you find a prince. So as long as you don't act recklessly and selfishly with peoples feelings, or two-time there shouldn't be a problem.
2007-01-22 06:59:41 · answer #7 · answered by loopyannielou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends pretty much on the partner. Personally I wouldn't want to torture myself again!
2007-01-21 21:42:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can have many relationships in life,
but don't be unfaithfully at the same time
if you feel your relationship is not working out end it and go with the other person
no one likes a cheater!
2007-01-21 01:53:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes every has a soulmate a partener 4 life its just that some people don't get it right first time
2007-01-22 22:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by jcathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋