im 18years old (just) im doing an apprentiship so i only earn £80 per week from doing 40 hours per week.
i live with my mum and little sister and we are always arguing about keep i should pay.
i believe i should pay 20% per week of what i earn (around £20 per week). my mum says i should pay atleast £50 per week! and i should only be living on £20 a week to myself! is it just me or is this not normal?
i pay for my own lunch, my own bus fares, everything apart from anything i eat at home (which isnt much)!
i wouldnt even be able to afford underwear or driving lessons (which i struggle to pay anyway) if i only had £20 a week.
please tell me im not out of order for telling her i cant only live on £20 a week. id never be able to socialize or anything:( ! any suggestions of what you think i should pay?????? please need urgent help !
2007-01-21 01:45:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Personal Finance
This is a tricky situation. Your mum probaby feels it costs at least £50 a week to keep you given that she has running costs on the house etc to pay as well as food so £20 is not really enough. She is probably under a lot of pressure if she is supporting you and your sister on her own. Grown up daughters are and expensive commodity, I know I have 2 of my own.
On the other hand you have to live too. Why not make a list of your weekly expenses including a realistic amount for socialising and buying clothes etc and then take it and discuss it with your mum. Make sure you do this when you are both calm and relaxed so that the conversation doesn't get too heated. You need to be objective in order to come to a realistic and workable solution. Maybe even encourage your mum to do the same for you with the household expenses so you have a clearer idea of what she is dealing with.
It seems at the moment that you and your mother are working against each other. Perhaps if you start to consider the family finances and supporting the family lifestyle as being a joint responsibility and work together with the available resources ie your wages and hers, to make everybody's life easier, you will find it easier to understand each others view point.
Good luck, and remember, however tricky it seems right now, it's probably cheaper than living away from home.
2007-01-21 03:17:57 · answer #1 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing your mother's side of the story, it's difficult to decide whether or not she is being unreasonable. I mean, if your mother is having difficulties paying the rent, then £50 (or £80!) might be what you should pay.
However, one thing to consider is whether you can do additional work or chores around the house for your family to make up for your rent.
Welcome to the world of adulthood. As Mick said, you can't always get what you want. You're making £80 per week. Maybe less socializing is called for.
And new underwear? You're 18. I have underwear older than you are.
OK, maybe my humour is failing, but it seems that there should be some compromise where you can meet your family commitments and still have something left for yourself.
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2007-01-21 11:40:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think your mom is being greedy. you should not be paying her about 75% of what you are making. i think at the most, a reasonable amount would be around 30%, so around £24 or £25. You are a student and you will never get by with having such little money.
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2016-10-31 21:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by hinch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mum is being unreasonable. That's way too much money to be taking from you. Get yourself a bank account and start saving up to move out cause she's not going to stop nagging you.
2007-01-21 02:45:47 · answer #6 · answered by FunnieBunnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when our son lived with us he earned more than you but we did not take any money from him and if your mum can afford it she should not take anything from you after all £80 is nothing these days
2007-01-21 01:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by JOHN jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
£20 is more than reasonable, especially if you pay for all your own stuff.
2007-01-21 01:54:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋