He works away sometimes 7 weeks at a time and is home only 3-5 weeks. We would probably only have sex three times. what do you think?
2007-01-21 01:43:20 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been having the same problem with my husband. He has had some issues with me that he has not brought up over the years.........recently, we had a big fight and a bunch of stuff has come out in the open. We are finally going to counseling. I think that lack of sexual intimacy may be a symptom of something else going on in your relationship that I would recommend you address as soon as possible before it's too late. Believe me, I feel your pain. Sometimes you wonder, what the heck is wrong with me that he doesn't want to have sex with me? It hurts...........
2007-01-21 02:37:40 · answer #1 · answered by iluvroses 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually this type of question is accompanied by some type of suspicion....you have to go with ya gut on this, but here is my answer:
1. Your hubby has a problem that might require counseling and/or medical treatment. Ask him if he's ok physically.
2. Make sure you look and smell ya best when he's home. Think back on the things you did early in the relationship that turned him on. Do them often when you're together.
3. He could have another woman. Just ask him outright. If he says no, then don't dwell on it move on. Bottom line you guys need to communicate. If you value your relationship and this is going to be a major issue for you, then you need to confront it head on. Both of you must also understand that getting better may require the two of you seeking counseling.
Hope this helps!
2007-01-21 01:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on how old he is. I could be mean and say it also depends on how many mistresses he has too, but I won't. lol I'm 50 and up until 5 years ago I wanted it every other day. Now not so much. 4-5 times a month now. I'm a horn dog though! I would say your best bet would be to pretend to read a Cosmo magazine and quizzically ask him how many times a month he feels sex is necessary. Like it is a poll or something. This will give you a clue to his sexual drive. If he says somewhere to what is actual, your out of trouble, however, if he says three to four times a week, you need to say you agree and ask him where the hell does he get it!
2007-01-21 01:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's dog tired, maybe. But once he wakes up - no, it's not normal. After being away 7 weeks, I'd be banging you like a screen door in a hurricane.
What else has changed in the relationship? Has he gained 100 pounds? Have you? Emotional distance? Affair? Something is out of whack.
2007-01-21 01:48:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds OK to me....how long have you been married? Hubby and I have been together for nearly 15 years and we're down to maybe twice a month! He doesn't have a huge sex drive and that may be your hubby's issue. Not everyone is a horndog. Mine usually falls alseep way before I do and having two young kids doesn't give us a lot of free time. Have you asked hubby if he wants it more or if he's OK with the way it is? Have the conversation in the kitchen, not the bedroom :)
2007-01-21 03:53:04 · answer #5 · answered by chnchita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't sound normal. Seems like he'd want it more, but he could have a low sex drive. I wouldn't just think that he's cheating without more proof.
2007-01-21 01:47:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes away that much make the most of your time together,sex shouldnt be a issue,making love is probably the 1 thing you think of most as he away so much and i guess you just want to feel close again,but try a diff aproach to this,relax and dont be so eager to do everything in the little time he is back with you,talk more try to understand him,also wear nice clothes keep him on his toes and flirt a little,put the excitment back in the realationship,then he might turn into a octapus and you cant get rid of him lol,good luck
2007-01-21 02:02:18 · answer #7 · answered by pt23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what the wife is like. Sex isn't just or even mostly a physical thing.
2007-01-21 01:47:05 · answer #8 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's tired and stressed from work it can have an effect on his sex drive.
I know from personal expirience that stress can kill a sex drive.
2007-01-21 02:33:56 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i work a week on an oil rig and then a week at home. when i came home and i had a gf all i wanted to do the first moment i was home was rip her clothes off. and as many times as i could when i was home before i left again. so theres me. hopefully that helps.
2007-01-21 01:49:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋