well... as my questions before, me and my bf will get marry next april... everyone is invited except for his parents. His siblings are really happy as his grand's and best friends too. as he explained to me, his parents sometimes are nice, sometimes are not to him and this is true cuz i had seen that before. I told him maybe they are acting NOW like this bc its their first kid from 7 kids who is getting marry tho. he had told them already about the wedding but they're like "ok, yeah right" like dont giving a f***. That's why my bf is undecided to invite them. they really like me alot but i think is something up to both of them (my bf and them). His grand's are really happy as his closest friends too. What do you think he or me should do? I feel like all i can do is ask by here and in some way help him out. i think like if i talk with his parents, he wont gonna like that. ALSO, i understand parents getting worry cuz mine does too. By what i know from his parents is that they had raised him with such of good education and responsability ( hes graduate already and is working US$800dls / week and they asked him to pay rent to his house, his car insurance and all that)... do you think this would be good for our future>?
BTW... My family is so nice to my bf that my aunt told me if he wants , she can be her groom maid :)
Please, any help?
2007-01-21 01:38:29 · 12 answers · asked by *live,laugh,love* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It will bad idea to not invite them to come. Even though they can be contrary sometimes. This is the family you will be part of. Your boyfriend may not get the heat for not inviting them it may be you. They will see you as the enemy. So now is the time to take that wifely stand and say to him, "We will be inviting your parents." And you need to understand they may act up at the wedding, or reception, but so may anyone else. These people will be people you depend on later in the marriage. I would be devastated if my son did not invite me to his wedding. and yes i can be contrary sometimes to. You and your future husband act like adults and suck it up. Invite them and take what comes. ITS FAMILY.
2007-01-21 01:53:05 · answer #1 · answered by gimlost2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who really knows what's going on with the parents? Bottom line is, that it doesn't really matter what their problem is. I suggest that you invite them no matter what. If you do not invite them, then you have placed a block on ever having a real relationship with them in the future. Invite them and continue with your plans. Then it will be THEM, not you and your bf, to decide whether or not the relationship with them will move forward or stop. The choice is to slam the door now or leave it open for the future. Also, you said you think it should be between your bf and his parents, implying that you are uninvolved in the decision. Remember that you will be his wife. Anything that affects him will also affect you in some way. So get involved and let your preference be known to your bf. Best of luck with this and with your wedding plans! :)
2007-01-21 01:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie. I believe that you must talk to his parents and find out what is wrong. BUT, do so only if they promise never to tell him that you asked them about that problem.
It seems that he is angry at his parents, and it is a shame that they will miss such a beautiful event as your wedding.
Talk to your bf and tell him that AT LEAST as a courtesy to his parents and to all of your guests, he should put all problems behind during the ceremony and the wedding reception. Remind him that his parents won't be here forever, and that they only want the best for him, even if he disagree with them.
I really wish everything works out, and you can get his parents invited.
I congratulate you for your wedding.
2007-01-21 01:49:29 · answer #3 · answered by David G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should invite his parents as this will definately cause a unrepairable problem. I would just tell them that you are getting married either way whether or not they come and you would like them there. Try to repair what ever damage is done. You will later learn family is very important and all families have their problems. At times we wish we had different families, but bottom line they are still your family and the only one you will get. Make the best of it.
2007-01-21 02:08:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You gotta try being roomates for atleast 2 years before you get married, make sure you can handle it, it all changes after a couple of years of living together. Its also not a good idea if your under 23. Just think this is life not some joke where your just going to try it. If your going to get married invite the parents nomatter what, if they don't come thats up to them.
2007-01-21 01:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Invite the parents. Leave it up to them whether or not they come. That way, if they do not show up at the wedding, you have taken the higher road and they will look bad. If they are not invited, you will be hearing about it for the next 30 years.
2007-01-21 01:48:09 · answer #6 · answered by mystery_me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with Priyanka. It is very much a soliloquy of a lonely heart. A tender heart that is very much in the mould of a lilting and responsive harp. But who is the third character - apart from you & Prince Charming? Who is the witness & the other being at the apex of this lovely triangle, the one whio says: YOUR prince charming will come on a horse and take YOU away (caps mine). When you have an answer to this you will know what in this poem is missing and why you find something wrong in it. Your poem reminds of these lines: Yeh mera diwanapan hai, Ya mohabbat ka junoon - Tu jo aaye ya na aaye Hum karenge intezaar.... You may come or you may not, But I shall wait for you! "Coz, yeh mera diwanapan hai, Kar lo jo karna hai! Your thoughts are always pure & innocent.Keep it up!
2016-03-29 07:26:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is a good idea not to invite them. Avoiding them really won't make the problem whatever it is go away. Just simply invite them and let them make the choice on whether or not to attend.
The part about money sounds confusing... are you saying your bf is not paying his own bills and that his parents are paying them for him?
2007-01-21 01:50:36 · answer #8 · answered by cinattra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A wedding without the participation of both sides of the parents, is not a family affair.
2007-01-21 02:23:16 · answer #9 · answered by Timeless - watcher 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old are you.It does not sound like you need to be getting married.For starters if you are gonna get married he is not your boyfriend he is your Fiance.I suggest you mature a bit more before you jump into a serious commitment like marriage.Why would he not invite his parents that is just rediculous.
2007-01-21 01:45:41 · answer #10 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋