doing my washing up, but does everyone elses. Hes a closet homosexual and im wondering if i shud ignore him and cut him out of our flat or resolve it but i know im not in the wrong. he used to be nice to me but ever since i started using his stuff and not inviting him out wit us cos he blatantly wouldnt fit in hes changed.
2007-01-21 01:34:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
OK, so you may have been ot each others nerves in the past, just because his sexuality is among your questioned mind, it doesn't mean he wants you to be like him. you are both there at Uni. to get the job done, here lies probably the only reasons you have to share the redidence with your residential friend, take a few deep breaths, and think how difficult it would be to wash-up a few items you have used to enjoy your choice of food, leave his stuff be, have the presence of mind to get your own stuff, and talk gently with him, don't shout at him, in a while you will both be going your own seperate ways, to enjoy to the full, what your Uni.years have taught you, but anyway good luck, and be nice to each other, no prizes for being a nasty person, he probably speaks well of you, please try to do the same with him. and start being a mate,
2007-01-21 02:02:49 · answer #1 · answered by tony m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change a lot at Uni. One of my best mates was a bit of a git in the first year but mellowed into a great bloke over time, while another guy started off nice and by the end of uni almost none of his mates spoke to him anymore.
I think that you just have to accept people change. The best thing to do with this guy is to rise above him. Do your own washing up and do his too - doing a bit more is only a minutes extra work and it will give you some leverage. Basically do lots of random nice things for him all the time (don't buy him a car or bake him cakes or anything just do lots of little things). This will have one of two results - to make him see the error of his ways OR to p*ss him off so much he leaves. Either way YOU remain blameless as all you were doing was being nice.
"Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much."
Oscar Wilde
2007-01-21 09:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by monkeymanelvis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're at Uni - so you should be intelligent enough to try and resolve this in an adult fashion. For a start, I suggest you forget all the labels you have been pinning on this person. Then sit down and talk to him - along the lines of 'I feel bad about the fact that we've got off to a bad start and I'd like to sort it out with your help'. Don't start apportioning blame - there may well have been mistakes and misunderstandings on both sides. If you can't sort it out in this way, then you could both agree to consult your flatmates about which one of you should start looking for a new place.
2007-01-21 09:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by mad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've treated him badly (using his stuff, not asking him out, not doing your own washing up) then I'm not surprised! Be nicer to him and maybe someone could make an effort to do his washing up for a change... It's tough enough being away from home without being treated badly. Just make a fresh start and keep everyone happy!
2007-01-21 09:55:42 · answer #4 · answered by Jackie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably thinks you're capable of doing your own washing up and stuff-p'raps everyone else there is filthy and he can't stand their yucky plates- yours might (??) be nice & clean in comparison & he (mistakenly) thinks you can look after your own dishes. Anyway, why the hell are you using his stuff and then ignoring him? Don't be selfish & lazy- tell him it's your turn to clean up. You cd. do with being changed- what makes you think you're so much better than him, but still want him to do your work? Get off yr. butt and get real. Gay, Bi or straight give him some respect.
2007-01-21 12:26:26 · answer #5 · answered by k9mudlark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats him being christian and maybe gay got to do with anything ......why are you treating him like this ? you don't ask him to join you when you go out but you are quite happy to use his stuff.... if it was the other way round i bet you would be the 1st to start ranting and raving about it treat this guy the way you want to be treated and I'm sorry to say you are in the wrong you are using this guy and if this is how you treat people you are one sad person....in the long run you will need him before he needs you
2007-01-21 09:50:48 · answer #6 · answered by carol p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FOR U TO KNOW HE IS PETTY U MUST BE ONE AS WELL. IT TAKES ONE TO KNOW THE OTHER. HOW MANY TIMES HAVE U DONE HIS OWN WASHING? WEN U CAME TO UNI, DID UR PARENTS HAND U OVER TO HIM TO BE TAKING CARE OF? IF U FEEL HE CANNOT FIT INTO UR CROWD OF FRIENDS, STOP USING HIS STUFF U GRABBER
2007-01-21 09:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by bode 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is being petty, through him out on the street and get another flatmate who is willing to meet your expectations
2007-01-21 09:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by BobC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop using his stuff, and he wont fit in if you dont make an effort! get over yourself!
2007-01-21 09:48:06 · answer #9 · answered by freestreet87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get some slayer cds and play them a lot either that or some liberace
2007-01-21 12:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by Hot British Guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋