She's always out sleeping over her boyfriends house, and it's quite obvious she's having sex. She doesn't care about school because she's a brilliant singer and actress, she says all the other subjects don't matter. How can i explain to her that no good drama school will let her in with poor GCSE grades? She's gets drunk a lot, which isn't good for her voice. how can I make her realise that she won't get anywhere with the attitude she has right now? Please help!
2007-01-21 01:02:47 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Ummmm...how can you have a rebellious 16 year old daughter when you are only 13???
If this is a friend of yours, then you need to talk to her parents. It is their job to raise her, not you. If they do nothing, and you are truly concerned about your friend's behavior, you can call the police and report her for underage drinking. This will also get her parents' attention...they will get in trouble for allowing it. Don't feel bad about it. They are irrisponsible parents and something needs to be done.
If your friend continues these behaviors, she will never have that star studded career she's set on; she'll be lucky to survive as an adult. Good luck and Blessings
2007-01-22 03:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by Silverwolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I agree.
One thing I might want to mention: what is really her ODDS of becoming a famous actress or singer?
Seriously.
Do you know how many talented people try and never become famous? At my school, there was a brilliant singer and actor boy named Blaine. Now he is at university, and can't even get into their drama.
But what if she gets pregnant? That will even worsen her chances. She should be getting good grades because the chances of her being famous is VERY slim.
Even if she is talented. You also need luck and the right people to get you into that field.
SHe needs a back up plan. If not, in 10 years, she's going to be living with you with four kids.
2007-01-21 05:29:32 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah* 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi I don't mean to be rude but this is how I feel about the situation... Last time I check you did say you're the parent and she the child. You need to go over that boyfriends house of her snacth her *** up and bring her back home. There's no If's and But's that. That's your daughter not there's (the parents) and you need to handle her quick fast and in a hurry. He's using her and you and I both know it. As for her not going to school she can't quit until she's 17 if than. But she'll go if you beat that *** of her. Both you and i know that you gotta to have an education to do anything today. So go and get your daughter and get her straight.
2007-01-21 02:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by Big Red 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ohkay, so are you trying to say you can't stop her from staying there? If that's the case, you're not doing your job. She obviously lacks respect for you since she ignores every bit of advice you offer her. Don't be a friend, be a parent. Chances are she needs to learn the hard way. If you're going to punish her bad behavior, be consistent and very firm. If you say, "You won't be allowed to go out this weekend if you don't study tonight", you'd better enforce that when she chooses not to study. If you say, "You're not staying at your boyfriend's house or else I will lock you out of the house tomorrow morning", then DO IT. She has to realize you mean business. The best way to do it is to make it so she NEEDS to do what you say. For example, if she uses YOUR car to get around, deny her access to it when she acts out. Or if she always asks you for money, don't give her spending money until she attempts to clean up her act. It sounds a little cruel, but if you've been babying her all this time, you need to do it. You have to teach her that adults have responsibility; at her age, her responsibility is school. If she is really serious about going to a drama school, she HAS to get her act together.
2007-01-21 01:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are her parent, and she is not an adult until she is 18. Go get her from the boy's house and talk to her about her behavior. She is still a kid. She is going to end up in trouble for life if you don't use your parenting skills to help her out now. There are counselors at school I'm sure who will talk to her. Do you have a church that can help? If she is so talented sign her up for a drama group or singing group that takes up a lot of her time and requires her to get good grades. Good luck!
2007-01-21 01:20:20 · answer #5 · answered by Elisabeth 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
most of the time with teenagers there really is nothing you can do, its basically out of your control. she not a little girl anymore and she will make her mistakes, thats how she will learn. it would be a shame if she doesnt get her gcses because they will set her up for life but other than give her guidence theres nothing u can do. you can try enforcing rules about no staying at the boys house but you could push her further into his arms, banning her from him romanticies the relationship, maybe have a quiet word with his mum suttley, mention that your daughter refuses to use contraception, his mum wont want her staying over after that and he ll get a good talking too as well
2007-01-21 02:17:55 · answer #6 · answered by alroka 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
crack down on her...why are you allowing this sort-of behavior to go on. At 16...i don't think any girl ever slept over my house. My parent's wouldn't allow it. And if the boy's parent's don't seem to care then maybe you need to speak to them. I'm a guy....and sex is great but this boy is probably using her. That's what most guys do at 16. All they want is sex. Crack down on her make SURE she's not going out at night....you need to do something or she'll end up like my best friend...who at 17 had twins! (i don't think you want that) Any who, hope that helped p.s. sex is great at any age...i was 17 the first time i had sex. But...i really liked the girl we were together for 3 years before hand. Then we broke up when college started sadly
2007-01-21 01:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by Mike T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should have not let her start this relationship and hang out at guys homes to begin with. Change the locks on the house, throw her out, if she wants your help and financial support she should abide by your rules. She needs to respect you. What example have you set for her? If you are or have been involved in this kind of behavior she is just following your example.
2007-01-21 01:15:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
HELP HER! Get her out of the parties! Get her out of her bfs! Show her how the actreses and singers that get drunk and all that end up in trouble! You should also set some rules! Give her a firm hand! Good Luck!
2007-01-21 04:24:26 · answer #9 · answered by Deanna :) 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you know trhis than stop it now. Dont let her have sex that is wrong and she will get the consicwenses {sorry about the spelling] Dont be mean and tough help her through it and set down the law no more alcohal. If that dosent work send her to get help from proffesionals.
GOOD LUCK
2007-01-21 02:55:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋