2007-01-21 01:00:52 · 8 answers · asked by Rebel 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You say: I'm sorry. God is with you and you know I'm always here if you need me. On the other hand, you might not need to say a word. Sometimes you just need to be there to listen.
2007-01-21 01:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by JOURNEY 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could say that it is normal and expected to feel sad on the anniversary of the death of someone as important as a Dad. That grief is a private thing, so that he doesn't have to talk about it if he doesn't want to. That the fact that he is feeling sad shows that his Dad is still strong in his heart and that is the way our loved ones live on - in our hearts and minds. Maybe it would be helpful for him to mark the anniversary in a special way - do something his Dad would have liked or appreciated, maybe - or anything really, that would somehow honour his Dad's life. It has to be something that is personal to the individual. If this is a friend, offer to be with him, not to talk, but just to be. If this is you, be in touch with those you care about and who care about you. All the best.
2007-01-21 01:11:31 · answer #2 · answered by senlin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
More than saying anything just be there for the person. Sometimes words aren't as necessary as being there...to listen...to care.
I lost my father over 35 yrs ago; my step-father over 15 yrs. ago. I still am sad during that time, and I am sure I always will be, but life moves on and we think about the "what ifs" of them still being here the things we would like to share with them today.
2007-01-21 01:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember the life of your DAD. The fun things you used to do, the great talks you used to have. You're always going to have the sad feeling pop up at the most unexpected moments but then you'll think of something great about him and it won't be so bad. I just had one those moments pop up on me a couple of days ago...I know just what you mean. Carry on and don't dwell on it too long and you'll be just fine.
2007-01-21 01:21:00 · answer #4 · answered by valducci53 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally, no amount of comforting words can really alleviate the pain the mourning person is feeling. Oftentimes, the best response is -- being quite. Just listen and emphatize because it is difficult to describe how sad one feels when he/she loses a loved one. A shoulder to cry on will be your best offer to comfort the lonely.
2007-01-21 03:35:48 · answer #5 · answered by msculit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my Dad to Colon Cancer and I miss him to this day.
He died in 1984 and I had just got out of HS and I thought of all the events in my future he would miss. My first day of college and my first date and lots of first. I did not have many people to talk to and family was in knots to money problems and just wanted to die moments because he was in control and the control was now gone... It came to a point that I had to figure out how to stay on board and have a place to stay as the one who paid the rent was gone. I had to work hard as Dad did not leave much money and think What Would Dad Want Me To Do Now
Or if I met him in the future would he be proud of me...19 to 20's and the bills were meetable due to part time jobs and part time school I got into fights Some of my friends lost their Dads and wanted extra privilages to show out in behavior methods to be angry in grief that Dad died and control is gone...It was like God flew out the window and you get to try stuff that you would not try if he was here but he is not here rebellion...You aim add the friendship for the moments when this happens and you just listen and try to be a good listener and reason with the person to talk them down into leading themselves and not following a gesture ghost the memory of what was and face what is...
My friend said I am upset and acting out because my father is sick in the hospital...I said that is not a good excuse... I could act out and have a attitude all D Day because my father is dead Dead beats sick any day but I do not take it out on you...Pull yourself together Man Have hope have faith the day you go to Heaven in the after life...Think God is your father now and your father did a good job to get you this far...Now let God take you a little guide further so you will understand things better in the after life and have a lot to fill Dad in on How you lived well in a life that can make his life your example and guide and your life out shine
You have kids to leave them to enjoy the world...See the trees and the seasons and carry a little bit of your self into the guide of future generations. The body gives way and wont last so you leave your children as time capsules to the great future to carry a little of you into the times you only dream and slumber through in death...It is just a deep sleep...Look up Look way way up...Your father is is heaven watching you Send up a wave and move on...
Hey Dad Watch me press send
2007-01-21 01:22:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are sad -- you are loving your memories, but when you rejoice you are celebrating life that he has given you. You
have time to make him proud of you and make a difference.
GEt it right for Dad...
2007-01-21 01:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by Sports Maven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell him that i'm sorry and that i believe he didnt vanish, he was just trasferred to another world.
2007-01-21 01:13:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋