I am eighteen and engaged to a man six years older than me who I've been with for the last two years almost, and everything was all fine, but all of a sudden I've got really scared about it and I don't know if I'm ready for what I already have. And sometimes I have to remind him that I'm sorry I am not the perfect housewife and I'm sorry for not making enough money for the house but I'm only eighteen years old. But I don't know how to tell him. And the thing is that I just want to be a normal teenager again and try new things and new people, but I adore this bloke, and I can't talk to him about it because if I do I might be jeapardising all I have for a 'what if'. I don't know what to do, and I'm terrified if I'm making the wrong decision.
2007-01-21 00:15:16 · 13 answers · asked by floppity 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This may be the start of the break-up or the start of you reasoning for a long and happy future. The MAIN thing is communication. He may feel the same as you. Six years isn't much. I will go out on a limb here and say you have given up your friends for this man. That is a bad mistake you need your friends AND his love. One will add a balance to t'other. Then you wont (shouldn't) fell so overwhelmed at times.
Good luck.
xxB
2007-01-21 00:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reality of life is that there arec some decisions that you can never be sure about until you make them (I know that saying that brings little comfort, but it is wiser to face the truth)
You do not sound as if you are ready for a long-term relationship just yet.
I would suggest that you step back to being 'a normal teenager' and trying out those new things.
If that is the wrong choice you will most likely have opportunity to correct it.
Take the opposite step of commitment and it may be both messy and difficult to opt out.
Having said that, the ultimate choice has to be yours.
I wish you well.
2007-01-21 02:29:39 · answer #2 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this man loved you enough to take you as his wife then he would not make you feel so inadequate!! Love is about uplifting your partner not putting them down. Not only are you not emotionally ready for marriage, it sounds as if this just isn't the man for you. Take the time to find someone who complements and completes you. Not some one who makes you feel the need to apologize for being who you are.
Tell him you just aren't ready. Go out and experience life. It will be hard at first but worth it in the long run. Better to try new things now than to wait until there are children involved and years of marriage behind you before you realize that you don't want to be married to this man. There is still plenty of time for you to get married. Who knows, after a while you might decide you do want to marry him. At least you won't wonder what if.....
Personally I would rather be 90 and look back on my life and say "Wow, that was a blast!" than to look back and say "Gosh, I wish I had done that."
2007-01-21 00:30:35 · answer #3 · answered by T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 09:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know what to do even if it will be pain full.
You said "I just want to be a normal teenager again and try new things and new people"
You have been with him since you were16? Sounds like he wants a maid, someone to pay the bills, with benefits on the side.
Housewife? You are not his wife
You say all you have with him, what do YOU really have... you sound miserable and like you feel held captive.
Be a normal teenager again... you have plenty of time to find Mr. right!
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2007-01-21 00:26:20 · answer #5 · answered by truthwalker7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I'm not being funny but you've not had the chance to spread your wings properly yet. You shouldn't have to apologise for not making enough money or not be a perfect house wife...
He should be grateful hes with a nice young girl. You need to see the world a bit more before settling down in a heavy relationship. You'll regret it later.
2007-01-21 01:04:21 · answer #6 · answered by Nathan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if's will always be a part of your life unless you do something about a situation. As we get older we realise the value behind Questioning our actions and decisions, it's all part of the learning process. If you are wanting to try new things....you must do it now while you are still young. Life is too short to be with someone you are unsure of.
Good Luck whatever you decide to dox
2007-01-21 01:38:49 · answer #7 · answered by crazeeladee no more 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clevergirl, you are only eighteen. I would imagine that it is only normal that you want to do things eighteen yr olds do. If this man loves you he will let you go to be young and spread your wings. And if you were meant to be with him, you will come back. From an oldie to a youngie....................live your life first before settling down. Theres a big wide world to see out there............live it and enjoy.
2007-01-21 01:23:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in a similar situation excapt im 21. im all truth im just a scared little girl. i know that he loves me and i love him. but i find myself questioning like you if maybe theres something else. we are both young. i told him how i feel. it broke both our hearts. but i think it had to be said. maybe ill find out that i sacrificed the best thing that ever happened to me. but at least i wont be asking my whole life 'what if' like you said. im guessing hes your first love and you put a lot into this relationship maybe fought battles getting your freinds and family to accept him. do whats right for you. but ask yourself this. if you are doubting now will you always doubt? will these questions still be in your mind when youve been married 5 years and the magics gone and hes gaining weight? will you still think 'what if'? if you answer yes to that i think you might have to face a really difficult conversation with the man you love. good luck. i hope it works out for you.
2007-01-21 01:54:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your having doubt's, do not get married. Alot of people probably already say this, but you're way to young to get married. In ten years you will be a different person GUARANTEED. Give it a little time, find out who YOU are, and what you want out of life.
2007-01-21 00:22:18 · answer #10 · answered by mike9626 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋