should a man refuse to do all of the maintenance around the house?

Question

if dishes and laundry are strictly 50/50 chores, then who should mow the lawn, fix the cars, shovel snow and do the household repairs?.........

after reading some housework questions on here im starting to think that the only way to get through to some of these women would be to let a couple of them spend all weekend mowing the lawn, fixing the car, cleaning the garage and running a snake through the plumbing and then still get bitched at when they haven't washed exactly 50% of the dishes.

but then who cares when you can slap a handful of clothes in the washer, watch 45 minutes of tv and then spend 3 minutes hanging clothes up and be done with all her work too.

girls who watch tv should stop crying about video games too, its not like 16 straight hours of lifetime tv, followed by 5 hours of yahoo chat is making your average bltch any more desirable

Answer 1

A better question: why do married folks always complain about crap we singles do for ourselves all the time?

Answer 2

First, if you called me a ***** I'd tell you to hit the road,but then maybe its a mutual thing. My hubby works 8-10 hours a day with 1 1/2 to 2 hours to work every day. I'm a working artist out of my studio at home. I can mow the lawn (but my teen does it and husband did it before) and often do it just to give him a break. I also fix the furniture, paint the walls, put in toilets and do all the cleaning. That includes all the other yard work and planting and upkeep. If I need help I ask-He deserves dinner and some peace after so cal traffic but would help more if he is around the house. His job is electric stuff and TV stuff etc-and the computers. I had a neighbor call me "Martha Stewart on drugs"-I laughed but didn't decide if it was a insult or compliment. Each couple must decide for themselves what works and who does better at what-ultimately-everything in a household is 50-50. So while I scupt or paint in my studio, the wash is going and so is dinner-SEE why he loves me? Plus I look pretty hot in my jeans! But I choose to do this because I love him and am treated with the respect and love that I think I deserve and work for-I give it to him too- perhaps you need to sit down and divide to conquer and stop whinning or calling her a *****. Maybe you both need to change your approach-its worth it! Good luck!

Answer 3

First of all, I don't know the complete situation, but in my house, I have to do pretty much everything because my husband is not mechanically inclined one iota. The only thing he almost ever does is throw on a load of dishes maybe twice a week. We have two kids. One is a newborn that needs mommy to hold her all the time. I feel like if I don't get some help, I'm going to either A. let things accumulate while he plays his video games or B. leave. I get sick and tired of having to do everything! Ive even had a job longer than he has in the past two years and Ive been pregnant almost the whole time! I'm also going back to work before he can find another job. Talk about doing everything! That's just being selfish and lazy. Look at time constraints. Look at what a person is physically able to do, and don't forget; I know everybody doesn't want to spend all of their time cleaning, but if you got it clean and kept it clean, it would take minimal upkeep if you did a little each day. It takes two to keep a house running smoothly unless you are the only one in it! :)

Answer 4

I believe everything should be 50/50 no matter what it is. The only reason I dont fix cars is because I dont know how and my dad never showed me a thing.

What the hell is so hard about mowing the lawn anyways? I always did the "male" things as well, along with everything else while he went out and came home at 1 am. He cried like a baby when I left, begging me back, til he found himself a new maid/slave.

Answer 5

I think you should spend some time at my house.... I do all of the work, I shovel the snow, take care of the lawn including my garden, and do like 75% of the house work. Not to mention that when it comes to cars my husband doesn't know the first thing so that rests on my shoulders as well.
Until you spend one day being in a woman's shoes, you have no right to *****!!
Next time listen to your wife/girlfriend when she's got something to say

Answer 6

Wow! Someone may need some serious effective communication with his partner..But other than that I will tell you what my hubby and I do....We've compromised by designating specific chores to eachother....We decided to do this because, my husband does not like housework at all so I gave him simpler tasks to do i.e. dishes twice a week and sweeping the floors. I also ask that he keeps up with his own stuff. Make sure his laundry is on his own side of the room instead of everywhere else..I still do the majority of the housework but his part does help...and as long as he helps maintain and try not to be messy...it all works out..Oh....And on days he does the dishes..I take out the trash....I hate it but I do it.Because you know what? We both live in this house and we both have to do our part to maintain it.The car doesn't need to be fixed as often as house chores need to be done and frankly, we have a mechanic for that. So sit down with your wife put together a plan of what you're willing to do..Maybe you find that you'd rather sweep than do the dishes or you rather fold the laundry and put it away instead of separating them and putting them to wash.But by all means, stop whining about it because it all has to be done. Unless you want to live in filth.

Answer 7

I dont agree with the 50/50 thing. Im a bit old fashioned and i know its rare. I would much rather do all the cleaning and cooking myself than to see my fiance try it and i have to go back over his work and finish it the way i like cuz im a neat freak and perfectionist. LOL! I prefer to do all the cooking and cleaning and let him do the trash, repairs, lawn, and all that other yucky stuff. I do however expect him to not just leave his clothes lying around and put them in the hamper or to leave his dish where ever he ate and i do expect him to help me carry the laudry basket when its too heavy to lift, but im sure he wont mind doing those things cuz thier common curtiousy.

Answer 8

As long as you view any relationship as being an adversarial situation, there is no "equal" regardless of who does what around the house. Viewing "these women" and "girls who watch tv" as bitchy nags has no relationship to the first part of your question--"a man" has better things to do than keep score because he will be fully invested in a loving relationship. Take a look at your dad's relationship(s), then take a look at your own--have you adopted an old me-Tarzan-you-Jane mentality, or are you ready to evolve? Maturity involves the ability to care about another person as much as you care about yourself, and that applies to both genders. "Your average *****" also has a viewpoint--namely that she'd prefer life with a Golden Retriever than a Doberman. If you're truly interested in finding a middle ground, then sit down with the woman in your life, list all the household chores that need to be done, figure up the actual time involved to do them, and start dividing them up equitably. When problems loom large, the first place we need to look is in the mirror.

Answer 9

This issue is as old as modern marriage... the more stuff we acquire, the more complex life gets. If you didn't have a house with a yard, no yardwork. If you didn't have a car, no auto work....etc...etc...etc...
The best success with this issue would be for you two to swap chores for 2 full weeks. At the end, there will be full understanding of the issues related to each person's chores and if needed, a re-assignment of same. The wife may enjoy cutting the grass and the Hubby might enjoy stuffing the washer... who knows 'til you try it out? Good luck

Answer 10

Well I am single and do all that my self. I see around my home lots of couples have fun together doing the lawn work. So I guess it is really up to the two of you to work things out. I hope this is the worse problem facing you two.

Answer 11

There are no "Men Chores " or "Woman Chores ".
Everyone works together to do all that must be done to run a family and a home.
This is not 1940.Wake up.