My wife became very loose after childbirth. I don't feel anything now when we have sex......?

Question

What does she need to do to get back to her previous state. This is just too annoying, I can't even orgasm most of times. She also says she doesn't "feel me" in there...She didn't have any ruptures during childbirth but it took quite long...

Answer 1

Have patience. She just gave birth to your child. That is one thing that is a sacrifice on having children. Things will go back to place. Love your wife and find other ways. Hold her and show her you still love her.

http://www.sharonregional.com/womenslibrary/mid_life/your_body/pregnancy/postpartum/changes.htm

You might have noticed a change in our vagina after giving birth. The vagina may be more slack, or loose, than it once was. This doesn’t happen with all women, but it can be a problem for some women, especially on the second or third births. But, don’t worry—it’s completely normal for a woman who just passed a 7 lb. (or more) baby through herself. Your vagina is very elastic, and can stretch from a small opening to a large enough passageway to deliver a baby. And that’s pretty remarkable. So, you can expect some slackening after birth. By practicing Kegel exercises during pregnancy and after birth, you can help to retain the tightness in your vaginal muscles and your vagina will be able to go back to normal.

http://www.childbirth.org/articles/kegel.html
What is a kegel?

A kegel is the name of a pelvic floor exercise, named after Dr. Kegel who discovered the exercise. These muscles are attached to the pelvic bone and act like a hammock, holding in your pelvic organs. To try and isolate these muscles trying stopping and starting the flow of urine.
How do I do the kegel exercise?

Once you have located the muscles simply tighten and relax the mucsle over and over, about 200 times a day. These are basic kegels. There are many variations on kegels: elevator kegels (Where you tighten slowly, in increments going in and out, like an elevator stopping on several floors.), you can hold the muscle tightened for five seconds, you can bulge the muscles out at the end, and many other variations.
Why would I want to do kegel exercises?

Kegeling provides many benefits:

Conditioned muscles will make birth easier, and your perineum will more likely be intact (fewer tears and episiotomies)
Sexual enjoyment is enhanced for both partners
It can prevent prolapses of pelvic organs
It can help prevent leaking urine when you sneeze or cough

Answer 2

Loose Vigina After Child Birth

Answer 3

Some women have more elastic vaginas than others. Sometimes they don't "unstretch" after childbirth and may need a stitch or two to tighten them up again, but usually not. It also depends on your own girth, of course, as to how much difference you might feel. It's not common for sex after childbirth to be "horrible". Regular fisting is another matter.

Answer 4

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My wife became very loose after childbirth. I don't feel anything now when we have sex......?
What does she need to do to get back to her previous state. This is just too annoying, I can't even orgasm most of times. She also says she doesn't "feel me" in there...She didn't have any ruptures during childbirth but it took quite long...

Answer 5

It can be embarrassing to discuss these issues, but many women have experienced the exact same concerns, particularly after having several children. Your medical practitioner won't be surprised to hear that you've got these concerns, so it makes sense to bring up your worries at your next appointment, or make a special appointment to talk things over, as difficult as it may be, in his or her office BEFORE you are examined.

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Answer 6

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Answer 7

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Answer 8

Loose Vagina After Birth

Answer 9

It can be embarrassing to discuss these issues, but many women have experienced the exact same concerns, particularly after having several children. Your medical practitioner won't be surprised to hear that you've got these concerns, so it makes sense to bring up your worries at your next appointment, or make a special appointment to talk things over, as difficult as it may be, in his or her office BEFORE you are examined.

You say you are embarrassed to have sex because you feel too loose. Is this something that your partner told you, or did you come to this conclusion by squeezing, or trying to squeeze, your fingers if you put them inside of you, using the muscles of your vaginal opening? Maybe inserting a tampon clued you in? Childbirth can bring changes in a person's body and sexual response. Every now and then, accommodations, such as trying various positions, having different expectations, or using lube, need to be made. Sometimes medical assistance can be helpful. Talk with your partner, although it may be embarrassing or hard to do, about what you both notice and/or worry about. These unexpected changes are part of a person's life and it's normal to accommodate them over a person's life span or a long-term relationship.

Are you having any trouble holding your urine? Often women who have the sensation that their vagina is stretched also notice that they leak urine, especially when they laugh, sneeze, or cough.

Kegel exercises strengthen pelvic floor muscles, the muscles that stretch during childbirth. They help improve sexual pleasure (more intense orgasms) by making the muscles stronger and more elastic, and they can improve bladder tone so that you don't leak urine. They won't, however, actually make your vagina smaller, but they can make the opening tighter.

Here's how to do Kegel exercises:

When you're peeing, clench (without your hands) your muscles to stop the flow of urine for about four seconds. Then release those same muscles to let the urine flow again. These are your pelvic floor muscles; these are the muscles you'll be exercising when you do Kegels.
If you want to check and make sure that you're using the right muscles, put a finger or two into your vagina. Tighten the muscles. If you can feel your fingers being squeezed (even just a little), then you've located the right muscles.
About five to ten times a day, repeat the Kegels ten times per session.
It can take up to 8 - 10 weeks to notice improvement, and there will most certainly be improvement. Like any kind of weight lifting or muscle building exercises, Kegels take time to make a difference! (Adding a vaginal barbell to your regular Kegel exercise routine can help. They are available at specialty stores that carry sex toys or sexual enhancement items.)
If you do Kegel exercises enthusiastically and regularly, and notice no change at all, ask your health care provider about other methods to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, including:

Vaginal cones
These objects are weighted, tampon-sized devices that a woman puts into her vagina and holds there. A set of cones increases gradually in weight. One starts with the lightest cone, inserts it into the vagina, and squeezes the muscles to hold it in place. This is done twice a day, for about fifteen minutes per session, while going about one's usual activities. When a woman is successful at keeping the cone in place, she can move on to the next heavier cone, working her way up to the heaviest.

Electrical stimulation (called NMES or Neuromuscular Electrical Stimulation)
This method uses a probe in the vagina to stimulate the muscles of the pelvic floor with an electric current, which causes the muscles to contract and relax. Treatments are performed every one to four days and last about 20 minutes per session. Depending on the situation, one might do these treatments for a few weeks, or longer. Some health care providers perform these sessions in their offices; others prescribe home units for their patients.

NeocontrolTM
This is a special chair that uses magnetic fields to stimulate the muscles of the pelvic floor. These treatments are usually administered by a technician or nurse in a urologist's office in 20 - 30 minute sessions, twice a week, for about eight weeks.

If you have severe problems due to vaginal stretching, some health care providers will recommend surgery; this is usually a last resort. Laser procedures and more complicated ones to re-position your bladder are available. You and your provider will figure out what makes sense for you.

There is nothing to be ashamed about — this is a common experience for women, as well as information you need to know.

Good Luck & be patient. If we men had to shoot something a Baby out of our Anus then I'm sure we wouldn't even have to push when we had a bowel movement. You can also try different positions.

'-)

Answer 10

I think this is saying just as much about your penis size as it is her vagina size. Sure there is going to be a difference, but to say she can't feel you, and you can't orgasm... well you must be really really small.

give her a couple months to heal up and shrink down to size... and by that I mean don't go sticking your johnson in there... I'm sur eyou can get by on oral for a little while.